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DC, part three

I had not originally planned to write a third and final recap of my visit to Washington DC, probably because Michelle Obama's speech was the climax for me, and everything else following that in the forum itself left me feeling a bit restless. I guess I should explain.

First, there were the twitters and the emails and the blog posts decrying the fact that I had been chosen to attend this forum in the first place, and I think these opinions were based on the assumption that I had been invited to represent working moms. And my god, how could I, AN INTERNET WEBSITE BLOGGER, possibly know what a real working mom lives through every day? I never said that I do know, only that my reality has its own chaos and complications, and I don't think the game of determining whose war wounds are the deepest and most meaningful is very productive for any of us.

The fact is, I was invited to represent small business owners. And after Mrs. Obama spoke the gathering was divided up into several different break-out sessions. Mine was concerned solely with small businesses and ideas to make these types of working situations more flexible for employees. My business employs two people, whereas some of the other people in the room employed anywhere from twenty to two hundred.

So the ideas and the discussions were wide and varied, and a few of these companies talked about how they managed to take really great care of their employees in terms of health benefits and parental leave. Some of us can't afford to, and when I tried to speak up about this, when I pointed out that the Canadian government allows for 50 weeks of parental leave, half of the room gasped. I guess maybe I knew this statistic and they didn't because I've interacted with several Canadian parents through this website. And that's when the working mother in me wanted to roar. The working mother, owner of a small business who can't afford to pay anyone 50 weeks of parental leave, decided she had to stand up for the working parents in the room and across the country.

America is so uncivilized in this respect. We claim that a focus on family values is a fundamental part of patriotism to this country, but if you look at this chart of maternity leave in the Americas, WE COME IN LAST:

(source Wikipedia)

Even communist Cuba kicks our ass.

But this forum wasn't about policy change. It was about IDEAS! And look at this company in Michigan that allows its employees to earn extra sick days through successive good reviews. How great for those who work for that company in Michigan! What about the people who work for a small business in Idaho that can't afford to give anyone a paid sick day? Don't they envy Michigan! Let's send them some ideas, shall we!

I know, I know, this is how capitalism works, right? Don't go work for that company in Idaho, DUH. If you come from nothing it's your responsibility to work your way out of it, damn any unpredictable circumstances that might pop up and crush various parts of your life in the process. Like, I don't know, medical bankruptcy because of your mother's cancer that insurance refuses to pay for.

Oh, why can't I just stick to that mommyblogging thing I do?

Anyway, I got the feeling that they wanted the woman talking about better working conditions for parents to please go away, there's nothing they could do about it. And I was just trying to point out that parents don't just work for large corporations that can give them benefits like affordable insurance. Many parents work for the smaller ones who are holding on by a thread.

And then we all reconvened in the big room and got to listen to President Obama speak for about seven minutes. He was awesome. Period. The end. I can check off "distract President for just a very brief moment by being the only person in the front row wearing neon purple tights" off of my life list.

Cut to last week when I got five minutes on the phone with Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid to ask him about some of this. I told him I had attended the White House Forum on Workplace Flexibility and that while there were all these fantastic ideas passed around, was the government planning to take a role or lead the way in implementing some changes?

Here's what he had to say:

We have more than 300 pieces of legislation in the House and Senate that the Republicans will not let us move through. So that's been difficult. Workplace flexibility is extremely important, and we have a couple things that are legislatively extremely exciting.

The Telework Enhancement Act led by Senator Akaka that requires each executive agency to establish a telework policy. This bill was reported out of committee without any objections, passed by unanimous consent on May 24th, and that's a good piece of legislation out. Now we have to make sure it gets to the House.

Representative Maloney has something called the Working Families Flexibility Act which authorizes an employee to request from an employer a change in the terms or conditions of an employee's employment if the request relates to number of hours, times when the employee is required to work, and where the employee is required to work.

So both of these pieces of legislation are in keeping with what you I think are interested in.

In the Defense Bill two years ago, actually, it allowed eligible employees to take up to twelve work weeks of job protected leave and then twelve months free for any qualifying contingency rising out of an active duty call, active duty status of a spouse, son, daughter, or parent. So we haven't made it all the way, but we do have some things that I think are helpful.

No, I didn't get my golden platter of free healthcare for everyone or even a guaranteed twelve weeks paid parental leave, but it's always baby steps in Washington. Baby steps that may lead to nothing, but hey! At least we've got ideas!

Also, did you think Harry was going to be able to make it two sentences without taking a dig at the Republicans?

06.03.2010 Daily 93 comments

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  • kayakgrrl said:

    Awesome. (How did they not know about Canada's parental leave??) Even though I'm Canadian, cheers for participating. And sharing the word. And trying to help get the word out about change.

    06.03.10 - 03:10 PM / 1
  • jon said:

    SO awesome! And the Republicans deserve it... I'll leave it there.

    Heather, I'm so proud of you!

    06.03.10 - 03:11 PM / 2
  • Candy said:

    you go, girl

    06.03.10 - 03:12 PM / 3
  • elosquirrel said:

    I love this! Keep using your power for good, Heather! :)

    06.03.10 - 03:19 PM / 4
  • ChickWhitt said:

    One step closer to a doocebag in the White House :)

    Thank you for using this blog to stick up for those who can't stick up for themselves.

    And I am pretty sure it is obvious that when you are invited to the White House, you better be wearing some cool clothes!

    06.03.10 - 03:20 PM / 5
  • adamsrice said:

    Maternity Leave is hard. Here in Oregon, luckily, we get 12 weeks off. If that mother chooses to breast feed, workplaces have to provide adequate space for pumping (can no longer be shoved into a restroom stall).

    06.03.10 - 03:27 PM / 6
  • Enatural7 said:

    Yay! So glad for you!

    06.03.10 - 03:38 PM / 7
  • Curiosity said:

    I didn't know until recently that our Canadian parental leave was unusual. The DC teaches me so much. ;)

    Fingers crossed that some of those initiatives start to really take hold. I would love more workplace flexibility up here too. In some situations, it just doesn't make sense not to be a little more adaptable, for parents and non-parents alike.

    06.03.10 - 03:39 PM / 8
  • Anu said:

    Keep it going Heather! Baby steps do change the world eventually.

    06.03.10 - 03:42 PM / 9
  • barbara said:

    Wow. I am really shocked by the statistics you gave. 50 weeks of maternity leave?! It seems like the US is so behind on a lot of things.

    06.03.10 - 03:45 PM / 10
  • Heather B. said:

    I wrote about this in a post after you returned from DC; but a trip to the White House does not equal making policy. There has to be a partnership between the WH and Congress to develop a bipartisan bill to assist with workplace flexibility. Don't get me wrong, it will be hard as Hell. We all saw what happened with Health Care but still that will be the only way to get something done.

    I was just lobbying on something where I have to get the Governor to write a letter to the congressional delegation (p.s. Congresswoman Maloney is a dear) and then send a copy of that letter to the White House so that they can see proof of everyone on the same page. See? Pain in the ass.

    That said, during the conversation as to whether or not you should have been invited I just wanted to shout out "TALK TO YOUR REPRESENTATIVE". Talk to your state Labor Federation. Make a point of bringing it up during the midterms when all of these people are courting your vote.

    Going to the White House rocks but the President can only suggest policy he doesn't write policy.

    I feel better now.

    06.03.10 - 04:01 PM / 11
  • JLD said:

    This is really interesting. I am in Canada as well, and I forget how different we are from the US when it comes to mat leave. Everywhere in Canada we get 50 weeks of combined pregnancy and parental leave: 15 for pregnancy leave and 35 for parental leave. The 35 weeks can be taken by either parent of the child or shared between parents. (Adoptive parents only get the 35 weeks.) During the leave parents do not have to be paid by their employers - if they are eligible for employment insurance, they will be paid by the government. They'll get a percentage of their income, up to a maximum (it's not a huge amount, the max usually works out to a little over $400 per week, but it's sure better than nothing). The employer's only responsibilities are to keep the parent employed during their leave, continue any benefits they get during their leave, and usually to return them to the exact position they were in at the end of the leave. Some employers top up the employment insurance to match the parent's regular pay or close to it, but many smaller businesses can't afford to do that. Our parental leave has increased over time and has only been this long for about ten years, but I can't imagine it being any other way.

    In Sweden parents get even more - and can take it any time during the first seven years of a kid's life! In Canada we have to take it all at once when we become parents.

    06.03.10 - 04:08 PM / 12
  • knighton said:

    I found the wikipedia link to Parental Leave rather enlightening. Especially when Afghanistan and Iraq both have better maternity leave policies than the US, not to mention the entire rest of the world. Pretty pathetic that we're the ONLY nation with a big fat ZERO in all columns.

    06.03.10 - 04:09 PM / 13
  • piprobins said:

    I should mention, as a Canadian who took the full 50 hours of maternity/paternity leave, that the employers do not pay a cent during our leave- it's all government. The government matches nearly 50% of what we were making for the ENTIRE leave. On top of that, I get $175 every month from the government for having a child, even after my mat leave has ended.

    06.03.10 - 04:12 PM / 14
  • medwards said:

    Baby steps for sure but steps none the less. Eating that elephant one bite at a time.

    06.03.10 - 04:14 PM / 15
  • KarynB said:

    Long time reader, first time commenter.

    I am a resident of Ontario, Canada and have been on Maternity Leave for 33 weeks and have received bi-weekly payments from the Provincial Government for 31 of those weeks (plus an additional $100 from the Federal Government).

    I am extremely fortunate to live in a Country that is willing to help families be home with their Children for their first year together. It has been an experience that I will never forget and am so grateful!

    However if it was up to my employer, a 72 year old man that feels that women should leave the work force when they birth their babies (allegedly) I'd be out on the streets. But that's a whole other story for a more appropriate post.

    06.03.10 - 04:16 PM / 16
  • Fifi Coon said:

    Wow - you mean they are actually doing something worth while back there??? You would never believe that if you listen to the Republicans!

    You are great!! Keep up the good work!!

    Go President Obama!!!

    06.03.10 - 04:39 PM / 18
  • Peter P said:

    http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=6109083&id=6...

    06.03.10 - 04:53 PM / 19
  • Carynami said:

    Ugh. I am SOOOO glad I had my kids in England. For my first, I had 6 months paid leave and for my second, 9 months. I think it's now gone up to a full year.

    I simply cannot imagine going back to work when my baby is only 3 months old. My younger son fed every 2 hours until he was 8 months old. There is no way I would have functioned if I had had to go back to work.

    The bitter irony of America priding itself on being all about families yet having virtually no maternity/paternity support is sickening.

    06.03.10 - 04:55 PM / 20
  • jennyjingle said:

    I'm an ex-pat American settled in Canada and I'm halfway into my maternity leave. I'm extra lucky because my employer tops up the difference between what I get from unemployment insurance and what I normally make for the first 6 months of my leave. Every.single.day I marvel at how amazing this country is (I'm not saying the US isn't great, I love it too, don't start hating on me). Man, SOCIALISM ROCKS!

    06.03.10 - 04:58 PM / 21
  • babycakes said:

    I can absolutely see how we need reform in this area, but doesn't FMLA cover 12 weeks?

    http://www.dol.gov/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs28.htm

    Not sure how the US scored a zero when there is 12 weeks of job and benefit protection from this. This program is covering my sister with her first child. Additionally, California offers Disability insurance (at a capped rate) for new mothers as well.

    Just some thoughts I had while reading this!

    Keep up the good fight!

    06.03.10 - 05:01 PM / 22
  • kaethend said:

    This makes me smile and cry all at once. I love living here. I hate living here. We have so much, yet have so little. We say one thing and do another.

    I wish we could get it right. I really wish we could. But until we put humans over dollars, we'll stay right where we are.

    06.03.10 - 05:15 PM / 23
  • onedesigner said:

    I don't understand. Why were people surprised that you were concerned about parental leave policies in the US? Isn't that WHY THE WHOLE DAMN FORUM WAS CONVENED IN THE FIRST PLACE?

    Anyway, I hope you and all of us influence something in Washington and help to steer this behemoth ship toward more humane policies. Our future generations will be happier and more productive for it.

    06.03.10 - 05:22 PM / 24
  • kathyc said:

    As a Canadian, I knew we had an outstanding allowance for maternity leaves, however, I had no idea we were ahead of so many other countries. My workplace actually tops up the unemployment insurance for several months and women accumulate their vacation time while they are off (minimum 4 weeks extra), so they could actually take 13 months off paid. I just can't imagine anything less than one year entitlement.

    I sincerely hope that your voice and others advocating for change are heard.

    We Canadians are very knowledgeable about what goes on with our neighbors, but every time I am South of the border, I am amazed when I talk to people at how little they know about us. Most Canadians I know follow your politics and educate themselves on what is going on with our neighbors. We celebrated the change in power. Unfortunately, for my family, the stimulus money paid to have my husband's workplace of 26 years move to the U.S. so they could do the same job making 1/2 of what workers up here made. Even so, I thank God Obama is in power over the alternative. I talk to women in the U.S. that love Palin simply because she is a woman and "like us" they say. Really? Seriously? I don't get it.

    We have a health care system that we don't even have to think about. It is there and we are all covered, rich and poor alike - we pay nothing. It is our right. Yes, we have a shortage of doctors in many communities and people may have to wait to see a specialist, but I cringe when I hear uninformed people criticize it.

    I enjoy your blog and admire the work you do. You have a tremendous influence and as a mother of daughter who has suffered from depression, you give me encouragement.
    Keep doing what you're doing.
    There are no innocent bystanders.

    06.03.10 - 05:31 PM / 25
  • Yolanda said:

    @babycakes

    This part of the policy should answer your question:

    The FMLA applies to all public agencies, including state, local and federal employers, local education agencies (schools), and private-sector employers who employed 50 or more employees in 20 or more workweeks in the current or preceding calendar year, including joint employers and successors of covered employers.

    Many private sector business have far fewer employees than 50 and/or operate seasonally and therefore would not be required to offer any leave under FMLA.

    {edited to add}

    Since FMLA only covers twelve weeks, and many women are not able to continue working until the moment they give birth, most women will have less than the full twelve weeks to spend with their child after the birth. In California, my home state, employees who have worked for their company for at least one year AND 1250 hours are eligible for 12 weeks unpaid leave under the California Family Rights Act. Many part time workers, including those who work two or more jobs, would be entitled to zero leave, even in “liberal" California.

    06.03.10 - 05:40 PM / 26
  • tallnoe said:

    Thanks for speaking up. It's so imperative to actually TALK about the issues, instead of just stewing.

    Rock on Heather!!!

    06.03.10 - 05:33 PM / 27
  • torrie said:

    I have a couple of questions. I think everyone should be able to have maternity/paternity leave, but what about really small businesses who's employees do very specialized things?

    When I was a pastry chef, I worked for a husband and wife, and I was the only legal employee. It was a cake business, mostly wedding cakes, so they had to get done. Because of this, I often worked when I was sick- I remember decorating a cake with tears streaming down my face because I had thrown my back out. Now, my bosses didn't force me to work, but I did it because no one else could.
    What would have happened if I had wanted to take maternity leave? My work was very specialized- it took my boss months to train me- so it's not like they could just hire a temp. How should a situation like that be solved? The parent deserves leave, but the employer can't just give them weeks or months off without replacing them.

    Heather and Jon, I assume you are in a similar situation with your assistant- you couldn't just give them weeks or months off without replacing them.

    What's the solution?

    06.03.10 - 05:35 PM / 28
  • Lucy mom said:

    I've been waiting for this final installment. First, let me say thank you again for reaching so many people on this issue. I hope you know how much it matters.

    To the commenter who noted the FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) yes, it is a great law but it isn't accessible to many workers. In order to use FMLA you must work in a worksite of 50 or more employees, you must have completed 1000 hours of work at that site and the leave is unpaid. This excludes millions of workers (although I would note employers can choose to give leave if they are willing - mine does and we have less than 50). But the real point here is data that shows even though workers qualify for FMLA many feel they can't afford to use it or fear their useage will be held against them. CA is the leader at this time in paid leave for family-related needs but that is only one state. We have to do better.

    It is up to us to ensure families can thrive economically while still having time to nurture our children, aging parents and other family members who depend on us. Harry Reid noted some important legislation but he did not mention the Healthy Families Act which would allow all workers to earn up to 7 paid sick days a year for their own or a family member's illness and ensures the useage would be protected. There is legislation federally and in many states promoting passage of paid sick days and paid family leaves so that working parents don't have to choose between the job they need and the family they love. President Obama supported much of this legislation as a Senator and we should be encouraging support from the Administration now.

    Two web sites if you are interested in these issues (along with comprehensive health care reform) that are targeted to working women and healthy families:
    9to5.org
    FamilyValues@Work.org

    06.03.10 - 05:38 PM / 29
  • Fitz said:

    That chart is RIDICULOUS!

    06.03.10 - 05:59 PM / 30
  • Jilllll said:

    I just signed in for like the first time in at least a month to say Leta looks soooo great in her glasses- BEAUTIFUL! I don't know her, obviously, but I feel like they're so *her*- like she should have been wearing glasses all these years since she poop...er,POPPED out of you.

    06.03.10 - 06:17 PM / 31
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