4/4 time
I think the best way to describe what it's been like to bring a second child into the family is to imagine having a jazz band blasting an improvisational set in your left ear while listening to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir singing Christmas carols in your right ear, and there you are, a drummer in a rock band, and you're on stage in front of 30,000 people trying to keep the beat to an acoustic version of "God Save the Queen" by the Sex Pistols.
I'm trying to find the rhythm. I'm getting there, but it's slow going. This is all to say, thank you for being patient with me, I know posting has been light and it will continue to be for the next little while as I navigate a path through all this chaos. I'm still physically healing, and even though I gave birth without any drugs, the recovery has been just as painful and frustrating and ongoing as it was after giving birth with an epidural. I've got a post coming about labor, about how transforming the experience was for me, but it's a long one and I'm still hammering away at all the tiny details. All while attached to my adorable, chubby caterpillar who from day one made it quite clear that she'd rather be no where else on earth than nestled right into my chest. I will tell you this, it has been so much better this time, still a little bumpy and rough here and there with one or two absolute freak outs, but I've been so much more diligent about taking every moment I can to stare at her and adore her every feature. And the weirdest thing has happened, this whole experience has increased my love for Leta by a measure I didn't know was possible. I can say that right now, here this morning as my second child dozes on my breast, that I have never been happier in my entire life.
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302. Erika said:
That picture of Jon with three of the kids is adorable.
303. d3 voiceworks said:
good doG it's been only 11 days, Mom! Your recovery is swift, probably, from a natural labor and delivery. I was back 2 1/2 weeks after my son was born, because I, too, am self-employed and no, my company does not grant maternity leave, retirement pension, or vacation days! I had a c-section so it was a bit rough but now, 4 months later, I'm feeling my rhythym. Celebrate all that's rhythmic, and not. What a beautiful Marlo Moo.
304. Caroline said:
I'm on the verge of starting to try for a first, and constantly alternating between scared to death and so excited. I can't tell you how comforting it is to read your blog. Thank you.
305. katie said:
i'm so glad to hear things are going well! she's a beautiful little thing. after a rocky first 7-8 months with my first, getting help and drugs and all, and now thinking about a 2nd, hearing that things are good gives me hope that i'll have a better time the 2nd time around - having that support and knowledge in place that i didn't have the first time - how it really can make things better. congrats once again!
306. michelle said:
Your explanation is great!
I would describe bringing in a new baby as 'a lot of thinking'. Always thinking...when did I feed her? should she be sleeping? did I make her next dr appt? am I ruining her life by letting her snooze in my bed? how is older sister doing? why is everyone taking the older one away and leaving me with alone with the baby? why can't hubby share in this whole breastfeeding deal?
307. Erin said:
A human person came out of your vagina less than two weeks ago. Cut yourself some slack. Heal. Nest. Sleep. We're not going anywhere.
308. Heather said:
My 2nd baby turned 1 on the day you had Marlo. I keep wishing I could hit rewind just so I could hold her again at all her various stages. She's so BIG now!
Thanks for sharing your wonderful photos, it keeps my own baby's first year a little closer to heart.
Oh, and I LOVE the name!
309. Amy said:
Great description of what it's like to find the rhythm. I felt so schitzo when my second one was born. When the baby is five months old it starts getting easier. When it's 8 months old, Leta can make it waffles and bacon and pour you a scotch. It will all be better soon. You'll see. If you can get four consecutive hours of sleep you're half way there. XO Aime in Ohio BFF or Best Internet Friend Ever.
310. Christina said:
I keep trying to tell myself that I don't have to comment every time you leave them open...but how can I not when you're posts make me cry and when they include such precious pictures?
Your family is beautiful. Congratulations again.
311. Jenn H said:
The love for my first born tripled the day my second was born as well. It is amazing. I felt like the Grinch.
312. Olga said:
This is really sweet. Really grateful for taking the time to share things with your followers. You deserve a break!
313. Angela said:
Aww, that is really sweet!
314. What?! said:
I can't believe Michael Jackson just died and you are STILL TALKING ABOUT YOUR BABY!
Totally kidding.
315. the niffer said:
Heather - I'm so, so happy for you.
316. NellaBean said:
Many happy congratulations on adding another beautiful daughter to your family!
317. pysmatic said:
that's beautiful. I'm kind of looking forward to this unplanned #2 just barely growing in my belly. but morning sickness blows chunks.
318. Lauren said:
I know what it's like to grasp happiness after years and years of struggling with fucktarded amounts of depression. Here's to holding on tight.
319. Monica said:
She's so alert! It amazes me. I can't wait to see what type of girl she grows into. :-)
320. Angie said:
She's adorable. Can't wait to read the birth story when you finish (I'm addicted to birth stories).
321. Kris said:
Am so happy for you Heather!
322. amy said:
She is so gorgeous, sigh..
Yes, adding another baby to the mix is challenging but oh so rewarding as you know :) I agree, I loved firstborn all the more when his sisters arrived. And yes. He seemed HUGE all of the sudden!
Keep on taking it easy and enjoying this new stage in your life. She is SO beautiful..
323. Janiene said:
Your audience in patient and understanding so no worries on the posts! Enjoy...we're not going anywhere....
324. Justine said:
I know this has been said, and I know I am simply one of a million posters (and happy readers) on here, but this was such a beautiful post. This and the long one before it ... what a fantastic privelege you've given all of us to be able to peek in on your amazing life like this. You have such a knack for putting things into words ... incredible! Don't ever stop writing.
325. Helen Tarnation said:
It is so awesome that you are as happy and content as you are! Marlo is as beautiful as Leta, and you have a beautiful family...even Coco.
326. Alicia Genesoni-Garica said:
Dear Mrs. Dooce,
I am going through a separation/possible divorce. But, I am ever so anxious to have a second child. Even though I am almost 40. But still hopeful. Your words and PICTURES are amazing and make me ever so anxious.
Love,
Alicia
327. jeannie said:
your baby is beautiful. i am happy for your family.
328. Anonymous said:
Ooooh, it took me a good 8 weeks to physically recover from an uncomplicated labor with no drugs (but I'm so glad I did it), so don't worry you're doing fine if it's only been 1 week- it can take a while!
329. Lynn Weddle said:
Isn't it amazing. The love that's pouring out of you for this child only increases your love for the first. I didn't have as hard of a time as you did with the first, but it was hard... drop you into Afghanastan- hard. And the second one, so much easier, I felt more guilt over it being easier.
Thanks for voicing this.. I don't feel so alone. The baby is so beautiful and I need you to come take pictures of my kids!
330. bohica said:
The one thing I learned with that second child is just what you said: you learn to enjoy. There's something different ~ the ability to simply take that time to look, love and enjoy, while with the first one we were so busy making sure we did everything right (and panicking).
Your family is lovely.
331. Ginger said:
Hooray for you and your little ones! Well done, family o' the Dooce.
332. Shannon said:
I'm glad you're happy.
333. pogonip said:
How wonderful! Love rocks, truly.
334. MBINNM said:
Something I've noticed among nearly all of the dozens (hundreds?) of families I've known over the years with more than one child----that second baby is usually a very funny goofball. If the same holds true in your family, you're in for some very memorable experiences.
Like you, I also would stare in wonder at my second because I knew how fast he'd grow and change. I still remember staring at his feet and toes (so tiny!) and chuckling at how cute it was when he'd lay in his crib and stretch those tiny little legs straight up in the air. Now he's 20 and 6'3" and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
My last thought---and I'm sharing it because I'm sure it will happen with your family, too: My son's first smile was for his 2-year-old big sister and he never quit smiling when he saw her. He was attached to me like white on rice, but whenever he saw her face he would get SO excited. It was the most precious thing ever! And she just reveled in the fact that she could hold that much power over him.
Thanks for sharing so much with us! I so look forward to the photos.
335. Melissa said:
There is something about the second born that just lets you take it all in. If only we could have done that with the first born from the start. I am the mother of a six year old and three month old, who SWORE up and down I would parent my children the same. Three months into the second child, I am eating my words with a side of humble pie. . .enjoy every second, as you are, in the here and now, because before you know it, they will be bigger than you can believe. Congratulations, you are one heck of a beautiful baby maker.
336. HMFT said:
Yes, yes, and yes.
I get you, 110%.
337. GaySLC.com said:
OMG, Heather! She is absolutely adorable, and you actually made my eyes water a little bit there. Words so beautiful that I wouldn't be surprised if they were drug induced...
I am so happy for you and Jon, and so jealous! LOL
338. Anonymous said:
You know with the second that the hard parts are so fleeting. You really can cherish every second instead of worrying that some impossible problem is going to be never-ending.
Congratulations. She's so beautiful!
339. Courtney said:
You take your time getting back here...we'll still be here :)I look forward to the post on your labor...having done it three times myself (got 4 kids out of it) I always love hearing labor stories. Not one the same! I follow you on twitter and love the pictures you post. Thank you for sharing this time with us!
340. TracyT. said:
Yay! So happy for you! The rhythm will come, or something approximating a rhythm, and seriously, really? That is one cute baby!!
341. Chayla said:
My first was cake! My second is when the hell set in. I don't think I'll ever be right.
You're an inspiration, Mrs. Armstrong. I'm so happy you're happy. It gives me hope. xo
342. Juls said:
I have 3 sons, 2 of my own, and they are each so different. You are so perfect in the need to savor it all. Congratulations! She is beautiful.
343. Groovebag said:
Beautiful. Just beautiful.
344. Kira Leigh said:
Heather, she is absolutely gorgeous! So many congratulations on your new daughter, Leta, and your amazing life.
345. Lea said:
Oh Heather! So happy for you that you are enjoying and recognising these fleeting new baby days because they are just that. I didn't see them for what they were with my firstborn, but enjoyed every second of mothering a baby second time around. You are so right, though, that we love our firstborn even more because of it. Congratulations on your two beautiful girls.
346. Dirk said:
I fervently hope my wife gets to have this experience too.
347. Kjersti said:
Heather, you have the most amazing talent of taking the emotions that every mother feels and describing them so eloquently. I love the rhythm comparison, I think it's the perfect way to describe bringing the second baby home. Your new baby is so beautiful, and I'm so glad things are going well for you.
348. Jennifer said:
I felt just like that after number two. You describe the feeling well. It was like I was on a hormonal high and it didn't matter how many times he woke me up at night or how needy my first was, it felt great.
I'm very happy for you and your family.
349. Melissa N. said:
So very happy for you! Reading your last few posts made me cry thinking back to just 2 years ago when we brought home our second child,our beautiful little Olive. Our hearts, already so full of love for our son, just exploded. It was like a cloud of love opened up and rained down on us.
I hope you are able to take the the time to savour these days as a changed family.
We spent the first week pretty much camped out on our bed, me nursing the baby, with our son & a huge pile of books next to us. :) Such a happy time, congratulations.
350. Debi said:
Marlo is gorgeous. Leta is gorgeous. Take the time you need to tickle, laugh, sleep, and completely enjoy them both. I, for one, will be here whenever you return.
351. kzmet said:
Since Marlo (That Girl!, I cant help but think of Marlo Thomas who was so cute on TV in re-runs) I just cry at every post you write, Heather you are very talented thank you so much for capturing what it means to be a mother. Not all of us can do it so well.
Wishing you well from oz.
352. Catriona said:
Squee! So cute!
353. Colista said:
Collective sigh of relief, anyone?
Congrats Heather & Jon
354. Stenar said:
I love that you named her Marlo. And relieved that it wasn't Ava, like every other child in Utah the past 2 years.
355. Anonymous said:
I'm in my early 20's and was Leta's age when my mom and dad brought home my little brother. The way you describe Leta's personality is exactly how my mother tells me I was/am. Until discovering your blog and reading how your love for Leta has grown exponentially, I had no idea how my parents may have felt when my brother was born. I remember feeling betrayed and sad, and now I understand my relationship with my parents so much better. Thank you.
356. Passementerie said:
Thank you for sharing this and the gorgeous photos of your baby girl - she's stunning and so alert in the burping picture! I have just had my first baby and worry (too much, probably) about having another and how the love could possibly go around. It looks like it all works out just fine though!
357. Charis said:
As a women about to embark on creating a family, I find your honesty so inspiring. And even though you have shared with us some of your tough times, I find what you say comforting.
Thanks for sharing and being so honest. Congrats on your heart growing and giving even more and I wish you all teh best of health and spirit.
358. allegra said:
I give you major props for not only posting, but having it actually be coherent english prose. wow. no apologies for light posting! Marlo is just beautiful.
359. Troutie said:
Congratulations. You are one impressive lady!
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360. Barb - WillThink4Wine said:
Precious. Priceless. Perfect.
361. Troutie said:
Should also have said that I called my son Marlo! x
362. RyRy said:
So happy for you & Jon that everyone is happy & healthy. Happier that this time seems so much better mentally. Happiest at the baby's cheeks - adorable!
363. Helen said:
I've heard that every child brings its own love, and I think it might be true.
As for your remark about Chuck, 'I think he was just relieved it wasn't another miniature Australian Shepherd,' that's why I keep coming back here.
364. Wendy said:
Your posts have been so sweet. I think one of the best things about your blog has been seeing you change with your kids. Which happens to all of us, but we don't see it in ourselves.
I'm surprised you're posting at all. The arrival of my 2nd was just as much an earth-shattering event as the arrival of the 1st. Of course, I was still thinking I could pull myself up by my own bootstraps & going sans-med, so there was a lot of insanity.
I'm so glad for you that you're able to really savor & enjoy it all this time. It's easier with a 2nd baby-o because you're not all freaked about how to be a mom in general. Just the details.
365. Jeanne B said:
Thirty nine years ago I was pregnant with my second child and in the grip of terrifying fear that I could NEVER love that child with as much love as I had for my first daughter. How could I ever divide that love up for another child. My heart swelled with love for her and I couldn't tell anyone because they would think I was a terrible mother. And then my sweet, sweet son entered the world and I discovered a fundamental truth about life. You cannot divide love. It only multiplies and grows to wrap it's arms around all of you in this blissful orgy of happiness. And surprise!! It happens to all of us and even includes those sweet-reward grandchildren. Gather them all up Heather and savor the moments because they are over far too quickly. Congrats to your family.
366. CT in NYC said:
This post is why I keep coming back to Dooce. We, the Internet, are so privileged to experience life's most precious offerings translated by a really good writer.
I'm completely in love with my firstborn, still a wee toddler, and well into my second trimester with our second. Pre-parenthood, I never in a million years would have guessed that I would pause before contemplating a second pregnancy because I LOVE MY FIRSTBORN TOO MUCH.
And so I am completely moved by your posts about becoming a family of 4. You are actually helping me enjoy my pregnancy more and look forward to all of the twists and turns you've mapped out, as well (of course) as all the idiosyncratic flavors of my one fruit tree of a family.
Heal well and soon. I tried to go natural the first time but stopped contracting at 8cm, so had to do the intervention chain. Gonna try drug-free this time again. Can't wait for miss glowworm caterpillar's birth story. I'm particularly keen to hear about how your support team helped you (great husband? great nurse? great doctor? all three? NONE???)...
367. weremonkey said:
I'd love to see photos of the new nursery. I'm sure it looks great, like everything else in you house.
368. LifesBeenGood said:
I dunno how you mothers of more than one do it. I can barely handle the ONE child I do have. I am one of three and I often ask my mother how she didn't kill us in our sleep!
You're doing a wonderful job my darling! "You're the bomb! Like tick tick!" as my 12 year old would say quoting some silly song.
And the picture of the dogs on the bed with Marlo and Jon is SOOOO like my house. I waited my whole life for a king sized bed but between Chris, the two dogs and our four cats... I've been relegated to a space the size of a cot!
369. weremonkey said:
oops. well, dang. Now I see the nursery photos. I just had to scroll back a few pages. It looks sweet.
370. Candice said:
You have a way of making me blubber at work. your family is amazing.
371. Brooke said:
Marlo is such a beautiful baby!
372. Heather H said:
A perfect description of what it is like to have a 5 year old and a newborn (and a bunch of pets.) Thank you for stating it so eloquently. My baby is at 3 months now and all I can say is that the volume of the orchestral pieces in my ear has been substantially lowered. It's a good thing.
373. sybann said:
Thanks for including us, Heather. I'm glad this time is easier.
374. Lauren said:
Dooce, I've been thinking a lot about your sweet fam, and am glad to hear that you guys are navigating your way through the chaos. It did my heart good to hear that you are happy and thriving with sweetie Marlo.
Love to the Armstrongs.
375. Tamara M said:
Funny you said how your love for Leta grew! When I had my daughter Lily (5 months ago) I too felt my love grow for my oldest (20 months) and found it AMAZING. I was so worried I wouldnt be able to love my daughter the way I loved my son but the total opposite happened I love them both MORE then I could have even imagined.
Congratulations and God Bless your BEAUTIFUL family of 4.
376. Cat said:
I'm pretty sure I just ovulated.
377. Sam said:
That is precisely how I felt after my second daughter was born! Absolute satisfaction and complete happiness. Knowing the basics of baby care gave me the wherewithall to know to enjoy every second and I often found myself studying her face trying to remember every detail. Also total chaos trying to find my place in this new role of mother of two was like trying to learn to juggle, but once it came, the circus was much more entertaining. Beautifully written. Congratulations, Marlo is amazing - just like her big sister!
378. Katie said:
So happy to hear that things are going well, even with an occasional freakout. It's wonderful to hear, and I hope that things continue to go well.
379. Christina said:
Nothing like startn' off your Friday with a deep EMOTIONAL BAWLING FIT of utter heart felt happiness for another person. Amazing and beautiful. I am SO happy for you!!! What nirvana!
380. Monica said:
I understand what you mean about that unexpected rush of love for the older child. In the hazy first weeks of bringing our second baby home and into our lives, my milk would let down when I looked at my oldest just sweetly playing on her own. Thanks for bringing that memory back! (it was only 4 months ago and until reading your post today I completely forgot about it!)
381. Debbie A-H said:
Thank you for a beautiful post. What a lovely way to start my day.
382. mc said:
Heather that was beautifully said.I remember a moment like that when my yougest (of 3) was born. I just wanted to burst I was so happy to have been gifted these three incredible human beings.
383. Bonnie said:
I'm so glad you are happy and enjoying being with the kids, and that while it's not easy, everything is going well.
Marlo is such a beautiful newborn, it's no wonder you can't stop staring.. might be easier if she was all bloated and stuff..
384. Karen said:
I think you can be forgiven for taking it slow these first few days after giving birth...
Marlo is beautiful!
385. Krees said:
Woo hoo! I'm so happy for your happiness!
My due date was exactly a week after yours, and my son was born Monday 22 June. I'm really looking forward to watching Marlo and Torsten grow up "together" 6000 miles apart.
Best wishes to you, Jon, Leta and Marlo, and of course Chuck and Coco, too.
386. Courtney said:
Aahh I'm so happy everything is turning out beautifully for you and your family! Little baby Marlo is simply gorgeous :)
387. Katie Jo said:
I can't even begin to get over how beautiful your children are.
388. Tracey said:
I was told once that "going from 1 to 2 kids is the absolute hardest thing to do, everyone after that is easy". I think my eyes crossed a bit at first, but it is true-I'm having #4 this fall and it gets easier every time.
She is a beauty. Enjoy your babymoon with her.
389. Ryann said:
I am so glad to hear you are having an easier time second round. I too had a difficult bout of postpartum depression with my first child and am expecting another in August. I have been terrified about what I will go through. I've been telling myself that I know better what to expect and so am better prepared to deal with it all. You have given me renewed hope!
Marlo is beautiful by the way. Isn't the whole thing just so amazing?
390. JenniferWriter said:
It's wonderful to hear that you're embracing the chaos and finding the moments of pure happiness. On the hard days you can come back to this post and remember that there are beautiful days behind you and even better ones ahead!
391. Janice said:
Watching your oldest fall in love with your youngest is one of the best, unexpected, pleasures of parenthood. It's not always perfect but you explore their tenderside as everyone gets to know the newest member of the family. And I love, Love, LOVE your photographs.
392. Karen said:
She's adorable and oh so little. You forget how little they are as they grow so quickly. Congratulations to you and your pack!
393. Kim's Korner said:
Heather,
I can't get over Marlo's LIPS! Absolutely gorgeous! Just like the rest of her. Jon is going to go ballistic when these girls hit 'dating age' and he can't keep the boys away lol.
I have both my boys without drugs too and you're right, recovery is hard no matter HOW you go through the actual process, so thanks so much for posting while you're on the mend.
I loved seeing a new Chuck this morning. I've missed him :-)
VERY glad you're finding it easier this time around.
Lastly ... turn off the Jazz and Choir and just make your own music. Groove is in the heart Mama! ;-)
394. Carrie Searcey Cheng said:
My little one (2 months) is a boob baby too. Just loves to spend all day on the boob. Nipple napping as I call it is a favorite pass time. I like others have mastered single handed typing :).
Glad to hear the transition to multiple kids is going... Love to see that I am not the only parent that lets my kid fall asleep under my covers. And LOVE seeing the dogs back in the fray!
Take care!
395. Tricia said:
She is SOOOOOOOOOOOO cute! I know you already know that, but it just had to be said again. What a sweetie!
I have three kids now and with each one it has gotten a lot easier, a lot faster. I hope you find your rhythm soon!
Tricia
396. A said:
I enjoy your posts so much. Your wit and humor is so refreshing. Thank you for opening your life to us, its brave and inspiring. Enjoy your new peanut.
397. Meghann said:
Awwww.... in the second picture it looks like Marlo is afraid of daddy's giant paw! Oh the fun to come!!
398. Katie Kat said:
Oh Heather - she's just so gorgeous! And I'm glad this time has been a little easier. I think simply being aware and knowing what to look for (re: PPD) helps immensely. AND I think you said you stayed on your meds this time. I'm so glad you are getting to enjoy this, even amidst the chaos! Don't worry about posting for awhile... just put up more pics of adorable Marlo! ;)
399. Belle said:
awwwwwww, doooce. so filled with joy by your words. :)
400. Jennifer said:
You are a momma and that is the best, hardest, craziest job in the world. Enjoy the time and the juggle.
401. Sheri said:
Your baby is beautiful. I'm so glad that emotionally you are doing fine. Freak=outs are to be expected. You are doing the right thing taking it one moment at a time. How wonderful for Leta and Marlo that they have two parents that adore them more than life itself!
Remember, one moment at a time!
402. Sara said:
I'm amazed at how alert she looks in most of the photos. She's just taking it all in. How adorable.
403. Susan said:
She is one pretty little girl. I love her already. Can't to hear about her personality!
404. Chris said:
This was so nice, Heather. I'm sincerely happy for you. :-)
405. Christine said:
I love this post. My son is almost a year and a half, and we are getting that itch for a second baby. Looking at that gorgeous face and hearing your story makes me itch all over. Congrats, Dooce, and stay well and take care of yourself.
406. Kristen said:
I can't get over how beautiful Marlo is!! What a beautiful family you have!
407. Dana said:
These photos nearly make me weep every time you post. They are beautiful. I love your "adorable, chubby caterpillar."
408. Becki said:
Hope you are finding solace in the babymoon. Congrats. (Also, let's see some nursing photos.) If Dooce can do it, so can everybody.
409. Serenity Bohon said:
Flat. Out. Beautiful. If anyone ever asks me about my writing influences, yours will be a name I include.
410. Melanie said:
That last sentence made me go "Awwww".
Love the photos, especially the whole family sacked out on the bed. So real...
411. Jen said:
Just love your perspective on having a newborn child. So many women have a difficult time going through this period, and it's great to have someone to relate to (and laugh with). It can be so easy to forget to laugh after a sleepless night, but it is so important to remember that it is such a precious time in your family's life.
412. Casey said:
I'm so glad everything is going well for you. She is beautiful and you all look so satisfied. Take care.
413. Trish said:
She is so stinkin cute! What a beautiful baby! I'm sending all my positive thoughts your way!
414. Donna said:
That is one gorgeous baby!!!
415. Beauty, the Blogging Dog said:
Awesome pictures! I remember those nights 21 months ago when the whole family was trying to get the best workable schedule for everybody as the baby settled in with our routine. It gets better though. And before you know it, she'll be babbling and running around.
416. Heather said:
Take your time- find your groove. It'll happen as your family adjust to the new normal. Just keep posting pics because Marlo is beautiful!!! :)
417. LIsa said:
I thought when you were pregnant again, this baby won't come out as cute as Leta was, but boy, was I wrong! She is such a cutie!
418. Jessica said:
So happy for you, Heather! Marlo is just stunningly beautiful.
Also reading your book right now and love it! Huge kudos to you!
419. KimW said:
It's amazing, isn't it?
It only gets better from here. Sometimes I think my heart will burst with love and happiness as I watch my 2 little ones be siblings.
420. Elle said:
I sound like one of your fan girls (which I normally do in private) but I feel like I've watched you grow (I'm younger than you but meh). I've watched Leta grow, I cannot believe how old she is now, how beautiful she is. And now I get to watch Marlo grow, and yourself & Jon & Leta grow further with her.
I love that blogs talk personally to one person, one sided but still very personal. You're in my house, with my family and make me laugh. Thank you for letting me in.
*fades into the background of 500 comments*
421. Cathy said:
Your readers appreciate your posting, but really you do deserve some time off, so don't work too hard. Enjoy that gorgeous baby! I bet she smells amazing!
422. R. Wallis @ TrueBeauty said:
Marlo is so beautiful! Congrats to you all! I can't wait for the labor post. I cannot believe you gave birth without drugs! I do not want to even consider that possibility...I'm scared enough as it is!
423. Beth said:
#203 Don't let the door hit you on the way out.
Heather, so happy to hear that you are doing well and enjoying your time with Marlo. She is THE SWEETEST THING! I have two boys, so I've been living a life with girls vicariously through you.
I think I speak for a lot of your other readers when I say, TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED, and enjoy this precious time with your sweet family. We'll be here waiting :)
424. Stephanie said:
Beautiful post, and I could not be happier for you.
425. Kim said:
Oh my gosh...I can't get over how adorable Marlo is..thank you for sharing your life with us and congratulations!
426. Sara said:
I'm so pleased that you are feeling happy. And Marlo is so darling. And BIG Leta, too. Lovely family, with a long and diverse playlist of great tunes!
427. Calamity Jill said:
This post set the mood for my whole day.
Set it to: AWESOME.
Congratulations, again and again.
428. Vicky said:
I think it's to weird that when babies are photographed by themselves they look so big, but when you put them in the arms of an adult they always look so tiny!!
I love the Daily Chuck photo. Just wait until Marlo is mobile, Coco will freak and try and heard her.
429. Kellie said:
Let's see some Leta already. Yea for Marlo, but I remember the shock of a new sibling coming into the home. It was hard on me at 4. All I'm saying. I am genuinely happy for you guys, though. Don't get me wrong. :)
430. Fiona said:
Long time reader, first time comment-er! (How am I doing with the punctuation/grammer)?
I have been reading your blog since around the middle of 2002, when I moved to LA for a year (I stayed 5). It wasn't the moving that lead me to you, but the surfing the internet during slow periods at work.
I have several pregnant friends at the moment and have pointed them all in your direction. If I were pregnant you are the person I'd like to hear from, I like to hear from you and I'm nowhere near being pregnant.
I love to read what you have to say about life, family, the 'real' news (which I miss since moving back to the UK, I can't get Access Hollywood here), and reading your post today made me want to write (quite alot apparently) and say it's great to hear how happy you are. I am happy for your happiness, and brings me closer to not being completely scared of having children.
Thanks Heather (I think).
431. Ms. Moon said:
This is what I think is our tiny glimpse into what the true meaning of "love" is. And when I say "love," I mean that power which is the basis for everything.
You have love and you have light in your home, in your hands, at your breast, in your heart.
You are blessed.
432. Karen said:
She is one beautiful baby.
433. mari said:
Take your time. This only works if you are taking care of yourself and your family. I appreciate your writing whenever you have time to do it. P.S. Am enjoying Twitter for quick postings.
434. Shannon said:
So nice.
435. Jennifer said:
You last two sentences are perfect. I just had my second child, a daughter, and my son is 6 years old. I struggled so much with my first one, much like you. I never felt like I enjoyed little moments. With my daughter, it's totally different. Indescribably different. After she arrived, there are moments, surrounded by my CHILDREN, that I realize that I have never been so happy, felt so complete ... so much in love in all my life. It is the most peaceful moment I have ever experienced. It is what life is all about.
436. Shareena said:
Tears running down my face as this is how I felt just 9 short months ago when our 2nd arrived. I really didn't know it was possible that I could love my son more or that another child would make my heart grow bigger, but it sure did. I can't wait to hear your birth story. I had both my children w/o any pain meds and only someone who has done it really understands how empowering it really is. Congrats your little girl is so beautiful!
437. Michelle said:
You are such a lucky lady :) Congrats on such a beautiful family. Not only are you a talented writer, but you're a talented mama as well.
Much love and congrats!
~Michelle
438. SAHM: Surviving Assorted Home Mayhem said:
That's such a wonderful feeling...I know it well. A family of four, enjoying your children who bring such happiness into your life. And here you are not even Mormon-- who'd have thought?
439. Shareena said:
Tears running down my face as this is how I felt just 9 short months ago when our 2nd arrived. I really didn't know it was possible that I could love my son more or that another child would make my heart grow bigger, but it sure did. I can't wait to hear your birth story. I had both my children w/o any pain meds and only someone who has done it really understands how empowering it really is. Congrats your little girl is so beautiful!
440. AnnaMarie said:
What a beautiful post. As I prepare for my second pregnancy, I especially enjoy reading what you say about Leta. I want to be sure I can share my love so easily.
I so not to suffer from depression, however every day after my daughter was born, I would have a meltdown... like clockwork. I would be concerned if you didn't have emotional ups and downs right now. You just grew a human. Inside you.
441. Lizzie said:
just precious...your cup overflows, congratulations
442. MikeWJ said:
Heather, I'm kind of a jaded guy with a snarky sense of humor (not unlike yourself, I think). But you know what? That was a sweet post, and I appreciate it. I'm happy that you're (mostly) enjoying the experience of childbirth, and that it's enhanced your relationship with Leta. As bad as life gets sometimes, it's also very sweet sometimes. God Bless.
443. Suzie Q said:
NO DRUGS?!? My god, woman, you're incredible!
In all seriousness, what a joy to read about your happiness. I am thrilled for you and Jon, Leta and Marlo, Chuck and Coco. What a family! Enjoy each other.
444. Casey Ballard said:
Thank you for posting that. I am due with my second any day now and I have had a hard time getting as excited about this one because I am so nervous about how to handle two. I really needed to hear what you just wrote, so thank you.
445. Shannon said:
You will get it. You will be the leader of the band in no time, and everyone will be marching in perfect rhythm. On most days. :)
I remember being pregnant with son #2, almost at delivery date, and looking at 2 year old son #1 thinking, how can I love anyone more than that?
Funny how that all works out isn't it?
Life is good. Beautiful photos of your caterpillar.
446. Michelle B. said:
I can't believe you had a baby without the epidural!!! Wow... Brave… Marlo looks so cute…
I love your Blog and I love your humor.
You deserve the best.
447. Erica said:
Baby Marlo is absolutely breathtaking. I'm enjoying being allowed to see your journey. Take care of yourself while you settle in.
448. Katherine said:
That seriously brought tears to my eyes. I know I eventually want another baby, but I'm so worried about adjusting to two children...your posts are offering me some hope that I can do it too! Thank you.
449. Antje said:
Three months seemed to be when a bit of rhythm returned for us (a little: now the baby's six months, and the toddler's two and a half, and we're still only dancing part of the time).
I'm new to reading blogs, and yours is the only one I follow. You make me laugh and you make me love my own kids even more desperately than I did already. I'm very much enjoying you. Thanks.
450. Mindy said:
Like you, the birth of my second son caused my love for my first son to increase.
Also - I felt a huge sense of loss. I had severe post partum depression with my first. I missed so much. So much I can't remember because it was so difficult. When I experienced that sweet newborn time with my second, I was so saddened on all that I had missed out on with my first. I never wanted another child, but, he turned out to be the most amazing blessing in my life. Getting to experience that - and being gently reminded of the sweet times with my first, was awesome.
451. heather said:
you don't often make me cry (laugh, yes) - how sweet. so glad to hear you are so content.
and as far as healing and natural birth go - fomr my experience the only thing to make the healing is easier id no episiotomy. that being said, no episiotomy does not make the birthing easier (did it once, no drugs, no episitomy, 9 lbs. 5 oz. baby)
452. heather said:
you don't often make me cry (laugh, yes) - how sweet. so glad to hear you are so content.
and as far as healing and natural birth go - fomr my experience the only thing to make the healing is easier id no episiotomy. that being said, no episiotomy does not make the birthing easier (did it once, no drugs, no episitomy, 9 lbs. 5 oz. baby)
453. Strong Rhetoric said:
I had my first right around the time you had Leta, and my second is due later this year. I'm going to try this one w/out drugs too, because I felt like the epidural dampered my labor and caused complications last time. Looking forward to your labor post...I hope you'll say it wasn't so bad!
Congratulations, Marlo is beautiful, and I'm so glad you're having a more peaceful go of it the second time around. As it should be.
454. Christy said:
she is so beautiful!
455. Elizabeth said:
She's such a sweet wee thing. Congratulations to all of you -- you done good.
456. Naomi Niles said:
Wow, she is so so beautiful. Congratulations. You deserve your happiness.
457. Anonymous said:
First, you made me cry.
Second, I think you are entitled to a little maternity leave.
458. Heather said:
SOO CUUUTE!
459. Heather said:
SOO CUUUTE!
460. Manfredi said:
Oh oh! So cute!
Congratulations from Italy! :)
461. eddeaux said:
That little nugget looks like a purple glow worm in that last picture and I loved my glow worm soooo much as a kid.
Great post Heather. It is post like these that have kept me reading Dooce for what, 6-7 years now? Crazy. It's been a fun ride and I plan to stay on the dooce train as long as you are the conductor.
462. heyjoe said:
Changes the whole dynamic, doesn't it?
Best of luck!
463. Mandy said:
Hooray! Congratulations! I am going to be a first time mom in early Winter, and I'm in the midst of dealing with my anxiety and depression head-on (without the aid of my meds). You encouragement and honesty is refreshing and lists spirits.
Thank you. And again, congrats. Your newest glowworm is enormously adorable!
464. Katherine SOLOdotMOM said:
Yes, do enjoy and savor every single breath, every tiny moment. They grow up so fast and while they are infants you can see them change literally overnight and sometimes right before your very eyes. My two kiddos (boy and girl) are so very different but amazingly I wonder how I could love them any more, and then it grows and swells... even through the occasional frustrations - they are the jewels of my life and also make my life happy and so fulfilled.
465. Zina said:
I'm so glad that in the midst of the madness you are savoring the newborn sweetness. This post really describes how I've felt bringing new babies into my family (I have five kids.)
I also relate because my five-year-old daughter wore that same striped onesie (okay so not the *exact* same one, but one just like it,) and now my 3.5 month-old daughter wears it.
466. itsybitsymama said:
what a cutie pie! love the updates and new pics! hope you heal quickly.
467. MissMarthaAnne said:
Heather - seriously. You really have to stop making me want to birth a child out of wedlock. Because looking at that baby face makes me want to go get knocked up asap.
468. Andrea said:
She is just beautiful. Congratulations. I am so happy to hear things are easier this time around... and that you are so happy.
469. Anonymous said:
So sweet...
470. Maryland Fan said:
This post and Marlo's picture are both completely wonderful. My 2nd baby is now 3 months old and I feel exactly as you do - about 2nd baby, 1st baby, emotions, and life. Thank you for honesty and humor.
471. Dorice said:
I've never been into "blogs" but ran across yours a couple of months ago and read it faithfully now. I thoroughly enjoy it.
I just wanted to comment on your post about the difference from going from one child to two. The "how the heck do I orchestrate this routine" or even figure out a routine with the addition of baby number two is right on the money. I have four children (much older... number 4 is 15 years old) but I distinctly remember going from one child to two was certainly the most life altering and hardest to "figure out". (ok, no children to one was a pretty big hurdle too). After two though, piece of cake.
Enjoy your beautiful new baby. Those first few weeks are priceless.
472. Lauren said:
Good for you. Really.
473. Anonymous said:
I realize this blog is your family business and disappearing for maternity leave is not what you'd probably consider a good idea [for business], but give it some thought. Guest posts, husband posts, Leta posts! These are all entertaining and enlightening and might give you some space and time to rest and recover. We readers can wait!
Congrats on a healthy birth and a beautiful new baby girl.
474. cheryl said:
beautiful baby...enjoy her "baby-ness" and your five year old too.
I remember when my now 22 year old slept with her arms up like that.
I have pictures.
I think she still sleeps like that from time to time.
475. Alex said:
So, how soon until number 3? Or is it too soon to ask about that? You have to try for that boy (says a father of 3 girls)!
Just kidding about all that. Congratulations! Life will not be the same, but that is simply the nature of life - constantly changing.
We have three girls, and I can say that each child changes your life in new, wonderful and unexpected ways. If you do have a third, beware: my wife and I are now outnumbered and we hope the inmates - or 'kids' as everyone insists on calling them - don't realize that.
Congratulations again. Your family is even more special and beautiful than before!
476. Sarah said:
Many congratulations. You are a wonderful writer and you have very eloquently described this journey you are taking. I'm so happy for you and your family!
477. April Smith said:
Having not been able to experience the joy of having children and know what you are going through I can only imagine that the adjustment is huge. You are an amazing person and will find your way though this just as you have conqured the blogging world.
I love how she sleeps with her arms above her head. It is like she is cheering you on even in her sleep.
478. Hope said:
The music comparison is brilliant. Thanks again for all you share.
479. Yvonne said:
I'm really happy for you Heather. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and this post just made me feel so good about what I have to look forward to. Thank you.
480. Anonymous said:
Such a precious time! Glad you are savoring it! My experience with each of my girls has been similar to yours and it's fun to reminisce as you go thru it! Congrats!!!
481. Kay said:
All I can say is way to go Heather! It's so nice to hear you say that you are happier now than ever.
482. Joe said:
Beautiful post! Thanks.
483. Kendall said:
she is SO beautiful and making me that much more excited about the little one growing in my tummy :)
484. shriek house said:
Oh, I'm so happy to hear that the joy is permeating (mostly) your new baby experience. Mazel tov.
Also: description of trying to find your rhythm with addition of 2nd child is the most amusingly spot-on I've ever heard. And don't worry, you'll find it (was around the 3-month mark for me).
485. TitanKT said:
Newborn babies are usually kind of generic looking. Even my own now that I look back at pictures, although I didn't think so at the time.
But I have to admit that baby Marlo is just the sweetest thing! So precious! I know it's just a glimpse of one moment and you are both such excellent photographers, but still... I'm very impressed with how beautiful and, quite simply, cute, she is! Good work!
486. wyliekat said:
I inherited my second child when she was seven and my other daughter was two. I think I survived the first year on adrenaline alone. Now, I'm wondering how I'm ever going to keep up. I try and remind myself that keeping up is a relative thing, and if one child hasn't eaten the other by the end of every day, then we've got success.
487. Nancy said:
What a beautiful baby! I LOVE the blog entry!
488. Jennifer said:
I just recently found out I'm pregnant with our second and your posts, this one in particular, has really given me alot of comfort. Thank you! Marlo is so precious!
489. Rachel said:
What a little darling!!! Congratulations again, and thank you SO MUCH For sharing your life with us!
I read "It Sucked..." last Saturday and then "Things I Learned from my Father" this Wednesday. Your writing is honest, poignant, and relateable. You are a real human being that pulls out all the stops in your honest and direct prose. I have been admiring you through the past few months of this pregnancy, and I must say: WELL DONE!
I would also like to say that were it not for you, I'd probably be in an all-out panic right now with trying to conceive. I've gone back and forth on it (WHAT THE F*CK am I THINKING by doing this?!), but you're showing me that it's all going to be worth it. As shitless scary as it can be, I've got a feeling that it'll all be worth it.
Your honest and direct writing style has given comfort to a lot of us out here in the big, dark, anonymous world. Especially those of us who suffer from mental illness and its pitfalls. Thank you so, so much for writing. I appreciate it. We all appreciate it (except for ONE douchebag commenter so far, which I think we can gang up on for a collective ass-kicking OUT THE DOOR in your honor).
And MY GOODNESS WOMAN! YOU JUST PUSHED A LARGE THING OUT OF YOUR VAGINA TWO WEEKS AGO! It's okay, we'll still be here. We appreciate what time you have put into writing, we're not a pack of angry, rabid wolves waiting for our next Dooce morsel!! (okay, maybe we are, but we're a PATIENT pack of rabid wolves waiting for our next Dooce fix).
You and your whole family are fabulous and utterly amazing. THANK YOU for sharing with us. And my thanks to you, personally, for giving me the confidence to find my own voice in the world that might have otherwise been lost amid the chaos. It means a lot.
490. Pete said:
Only you would apologize for being a mother. You rock, and that's all there is to it. Keep up the "light" blogging and we'll all get along just fine.
491. Brea said:
@ 227 - I don't know if you are the same person who is repeatedly commenting about meds, but if you're looking for advice - here's mine:
This is not a medical website, and no one should ask for such serious medical advice regarding depression, breastfeeding and medications via comments on a blog.
The urgency of both comments that I've read are disturbing; to place Heather in a position of therapist to the tune of 'help me - I'm desperate', when she has enough responsibility of her own is incredibly selfish. Call your doctor.
492. Lauren From Texas said:
Heather, we forgive you. :) She is so beautiful. Your blog and words are accomplishing what nothing else has been able to do - make me want a baby! So the fewer posts, the better. Ha! Love & best wishes to the Armstrong clan.
493. Cheri said:
Awwww, what a blissful feeling. I had that feeling just hours after my 2nd child arrived...after everyone had finally left the hospital and it was just her and I. I felt blessed and guilty at the same time knowing that many people never have that feeling in their lives. Savor the moments....
494. T said:
Cute baby. Great photos. I love your honesty about the freakouts. Babies are fabulous, but hard. :)
495. Soph said:
So happy to wake up this morning to your post. All love from Melbourne, me and Milo (also a Klingon). xx
496. Zina said:
I came back again because I forgot to look at the photo posts. And we have that same nighttime arrangement where my husband does the burping and changing and brings me the baby to feed. I'm glad he doesn't read your blog so he won't figure out that I've got the better end of the deal.
Also, I meant to tell you that even though I have five kids I learned something new this time, from one of those free magazines: that thing newborns do where they conform their body to yours is called "molding." (I knew they did that but didn't know there was a term for it.) And that's one of those things to get as much of as you can, because in my babies, at least, it doesn't last long at all.
She's so beautiful and adorable. I do hear you about the freakouts; I always have at least a couple of them, but wow there's nothing like a newborn.
497. Cynthia said:
I'm glad this is the happiest time of your life. Your pictures are wonderful. I love all the cuddling. Thanks for sharing...your posts always bring a little chuckle to my life and today they're adding a little joy to the world.
498. Lisa said:
She is beautiful. And I LOVE the picture of the dogs, Jon & Marlo just chillin' together. That is a family.
499. Kelly said:
omg I am in love (swwooon). she is perfect. so glad you are awash in love and beauty all around you.
500. skinnykids said:
If you ever do that again (apologize for taking time to recover from childbirth and enjoy your family) I will banish your blog from my computer. ENJOY YOUR FAMILY. You were not put on this earth to entertain us. We will patiently wait for your return.
501. Sarah said:
Aw, Heather, congratulations! I haven't said so yet because I know you get thousands of comments, but I'm so, so happy for you and your family. Take all the time you need and post as frequently or infrequently as you want. Your readers aren't going anywhere. Enjoy your new baby! She's stunning!
502. Anjelique said:
She's beautiful. I am so happy for you & your family.
503. EmilyUT said:
I have two children who are five years apart and completely get where you're coming from. Congratulations on your beautiful little addition!
I wanted to mention (even though I've never been "that person" who gives unneeded advice, and you've probably heard of it anyway) that what helped with my postpartum blues the second time around was getting plenty of omega-3 fatty acids. I ate lots of salmon, ground flax seed in my oatmeal, and supplemented with "super omega complex" as well. I'm sure you're way on top of it this time around (and you definately had a much more severe reaction the first time around than I did), but maybe it could help just a little bit (on top of your medication and anything else your doctor prescribes, of course). At the very least, even if it doesn't help your mood at all, it's still good for you & baby through your milk.
504. Kate said:
Yay Dooce! Congrats.
BTW, that is one adorably expressive baby you've got there!
505. MamaCass said:
Well that just made my heart melt.
506. Vicki said:
Not sure how you do it all. Love your tweets.
507. TitanKT said:
BTW, I did mean to say that Armstrong nose seems to be an EXTREMELY dominant gene.
508. Jane said:
Good for you! Congratulations to your family, enjoy every second. I am so happy for you.
509. mmaji said:
Congats on the adorable little catapillar!
Have a sling-pro help you learn to use a sling. If all they want is you, then it's really pleasant to be able to use your hands. My two only wanted to sleep on me 24/7. It's sweet but exausting.
510. C'tina said:
Increased your love for Leta imeasurably. I remember my oldest, who was 4 1/2 telling others, "That's my baby" about his little brother. OMG, and he picked out slippers, I'll never forget the smile on his little lit up face. Lil' sis is lucky to have Leta!
511. Ali said:
As I slog away on my thesis, your website provides me with moments of happiness, beauty and laughter. Thank-you!
512. michele said:
Hey Heather - congrats! We had our 2nd nearly 3 months ago and it's so wonderful. Our first was a fighter (screamer) like Leta and I've come to the conclusion that it was probably due to us being 1st time spaz parents. Our 2nd dude is so mellow and I've been able to savor the moments so much more. It's nice.
After having the 2nd, we experienced the same thing w/our first...the sense of how instantly our 'baby' had become like 10 years older (he's 2.5) and how much more love we have for him as well. We're reliving his baby-ness with our 2nd.
He *adores* his little brother but definitely went through his needy, teary phase. And then a serious acting out phase. Took about a month but we seem to have our normal (mostly) big guy back. It's fun to watch him interact with his little brother already. And there are long days where I say "Dammit...they BETTER be best friends in about 2 years" but mostly it's enjoying the joy of kids. Be well on the transition.
513. Kerry said:
Enjoy your gorgeous glow worm.
Revel in perfect happiness.
Keep those photos coming!
Congratulations, Heather. :o)
514. minisoda said:
She is absolutely delicious. Congrats.
515. MereMortal said:
Heather,
As mama to two little girls, I know the oozing love your write of so eloquently. My heart could almost burst with joy for you.
I anxiously await her birth story. My natural births (second was a homebirth) were indescribably powerful and perfect.
And...your recent posts seem to showcase a "softer" side to you. Perhaps in part due to the beautifully hormonal high one gets for weeks after birth? :) Either way, it's lovely.
xoxo
516. Pseudo said:
Many many congratulations. I don't usually comment here, but am so happy for you.
If Leta does not have it already, you should get her the Fancy Nancy book as a big sis present.
517. Sharon said:
I think most people are quite aware of the early days with a new baby, so I wouldn't think twice about your frequencies in posting. You're doing great!
518. Anonymous said:
Congratulations Heather!
I meant to congratulate sooner, but I actually had our son two days before you had Marlo (Ha! Beat you after all!) and it's been a bit crazy around here too. She's absolutely beautiful, and it's great to hear you're doing so well.
I also had a drug-free birth, and transforming is how I'd describe the experience, alright. I feel like in some ways I will never be the same again, but in a good way. I look forward to reading your post about labour. I've written about mine, but all I got down (one-handed) was the bare bones of it -- not the real nitty gritty, or the emotional or psychological aspects.
I've really enjoyed following your blog, especially during your pregnancy, and I look forward to seeing more of your two beautiful girls and you and Jon. Take care and good luck with everything!
All the best,
K
519. Betsy said:
Wow. You're happiness is contagious. And I really wanted to comment on your last post, where you so aptly described the revelation that your firstborn baby has actually been growing all along, just like that tree in the back yard, behind your back.
And to your crying, I wanted to share this French saying:
"Pleure, tu pisseras moins"
Cry, you piss less.
520. Betsy said:
Wow. You're happiness is contagious. And I really wanted to comment on your last post, where you so aptly described the revelation that your firstborn baby has actually been growing all along, just like that tree in the back yard, behind your back.
And to your crying, I wanted to share this French saying:
"Pleure, tu pisseras moins"
Cry, you piss less.
521. Tom said:
So happy for you. :)
Beautiful baby btw.
522. Betsy said:
Shit.
523. Chrissy said:
Your Marlo is just beautiful! I'm so happy that it is going so well for you guys. And you are happy! That's wonderful. I suffered from severe postpartum depression after my second child and it was awful. So happy that it's not happening to you a second time!!! The experience was enough to keep us from having more kids!
Good luck ... enjoy these wonderful days. You'll get into the groove soon enough ... until then ... just enjoy the snuggles and naps ...
524. Gervy said:
Your baby is delicious-looking.
And you are fantastic. I saw you on Oprah last week and have spent a good part of the last couple of days reading your back catalogue (focusing on pregnancy and depression). Your writing is terrific.
525. Carolyn said:
almost everyone of these posts is so relatable.... i have one child... it must be so amazing to have a second child and to have these familiar yet new feelings this time around.
take your time.
526. Kylie ... said:
I'm so happy for you Heather. Truly!
527. bklyn76 said:
as much as i crave a dooce post at least once a day, i remember 6 months ago how i was freaking out about taking care of my first child during those never-ending days of crying, rocking, nursing, repeat without showers, eating, or sleeping for me. and now it seems so easy...or at least easier. i can't imagine going through it all again just yet, especially with another little being dependent on you already. i'm glad you're savouring both your beauties. they will appreciate your digital record of their/your lives, even when they go through the phase of, "mom, i can't believe you posted THAT on your blog!"
i'll patiently wait for your updates b/c i know they will be oh-so-good!
528. Rachel said:
I predict a baby boom sparked by dooce.com!
529. Sandy said:
Your pictures of the dogs are HILARIOUS. Glad the sleep-deprivation hasn't robbed you of your sense of humor.
530. moo.pt said:
Excellent... funny post...
531. moo.pt said:
Excellent... funny post...
532. Tara said:
I haven't read the previous comments, but I'm sure at least a few say about the same thing as I'm writing here....
I'm the first born of two children, and it always meant a great, great deal to me that my Mom always made a point of telling me how special I am to her because I was her first born. Of course, that's not the only reason you love Leta (or the only reason my Mom loves me), but it sure did help me to feel special to be reminded of that by her... I'm a stepmom and will not be having kids of my own, so I can't speak from the maternal side of it (sorry). I can only say that it feels really wonderful to know that your mother has a special place in her heart for you. But, you already knew that... :-)
I hope that didn't sound like a lecture or something. I hope it sounded like solidarity. That's how I meant it, anyway.
From what I can tell, you are an incredible mother... and a VERY cool one, at that! Peace, my sister. And congratulations. You're doing an excellent job.
533. Melissa B. said:
What a beautiful baby girl. And I understand, all too well, the efforts you're making at recovery. I'm a "victim," I guess you could say, of 2 C-sections. The last one was 18 years ago, and I'm still trying to get over it! Let's just say that when I finally heal, emotionally, any way, I'll write about it. Enjoy your little family. They grown up all too soon!