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Yesterday was one of those days when the Universe wraps itself around my head and humps my skull just to show its dominance. Sort of like the times Coco climbs on top of Chuck's backside and moves her lady parts in and out, in and out, as if that would even work if things were functioning, and Chuck just stands there and lets her do it, sometimes glancing over at me as if to say, she thinks I'm buying this. She really thinks this is intimidating, and we both know that all this means is she is a total fucking nutjob.

Except, I believe the Universe very much when it tells me it is in charge. And a lot of what happened and then continued to happen yesterday falls squarely into the bag of things I will not write about on this website. And that bag is labeled PRESERVING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

I think things were made worse by my mood, one of wanting to walk around shooting randomly at things that could splatter or at least topple over in a magnificent way, and I don't even believe in the right to own a gun. In the last few days I have received innumerable requests to weigh in on what is currently going on with the circus that is the Republican National Convention, and I call it a circus because I'm trying to be nice. You have to understand that my family reads this website, and in order for us to have a working relationship I have to be careful when I write about certain things. But my blood pressure is such that if I don't say a few things about this then my head may just explode, and then it'd be all their fault. And they'd go to jail. So this is how I'm rationalizing what I am about to write.

I am angry. I am infuriated. And I don't think I would be if Sarah Palin were a qualified or competent choice as McCain's running mate. But the fact, the reality is that she is not. And instead of demanding better from their party, instead of going, wait a minute, no, we deserve better than this, many Republicans are contorting themselves into a denial of reality. (please read this, it's a report from the AP, not some spooky liberal blog that wants to kill babies) And that right there is what has been going on for the last eight years.

And I am just so damn sick of it.

Any time I engage with one of my conservative friends or family members, or sometimes the conservative commenters on this website, it usually devolves into them screaming about WELFARE! and TAXES! and THE GOVERNMENT IS TAKING MY MONEY AND GIVING IT TO PEOPLE WHO DON'T WORK! And what they don't understand is that this is not the issue at all. What I and many of my more liberal friends want is to HELP people, not give them a free ride, but also not to ignore those who would benefit from us tossing them a life jacket.

Case in point: Because Leta was diagnosed with plagiocephaly when she was two months old, she cannot qualify for private insurance until she is thirteen years old. So the only insurance we can get her is high-risk insurance that costs us upwards of $300 a month. Just for her alone. And even then that insurance won't cover anything until she has reached a $3000 deductible. I am fortunate enough to have grown up in a white, middle class family who could afford to send me to college, as did my husband, and we have enough work experience to run a business that makes it so that we can afford this insurance for our daughter. We don't have to make the choice between buying food or insuring our daughter. We are really fucking lucky.

But what about the family who cannot afford that insurance for their child? The family who can barely make rent, and if they stretch the budget they can eat three meals a day all week, let's hope nothing bad happens to their kids because then they're screwed. Kids, go hug your father, he's off to one of his three jobs, none of which provide him insurance. And it's not because he's lazy or unwilling to work, it's that his family couldn't afford to send him to college, or he came from a family that didn't know they should encourage him to go to college because they were busy trying to survive. If giving up more of my paycheck could help get this family adequate healthcare, then PLEASE. TAKE MY FUCKING MONEY.

I get the feeling that people around the world are looking at this election as a gauge to see if America is finally ready to wake up and realize that we are not the only country on this planet. They are waiting to see if we are going to put yet another fundamentalist loon in charge of public and foreign policy, someone who doesn't think that global warming is in any way caused by humans, so screw the rest of you who live here on this planet, we need that cup of oil with breakfast in the morning.

To my readers who do not live in America, who are not American, please know that there are so many of us here who are disgusted with what we have let happen in the last eight years and are doing everything we can to ensure that it stops. We are just as scared as you are of those around us who have their fingers in their ears and are going LA LA LA LA LA in an attempt to convince themselves that their behavior and their policies are not in direct violation of the teachings of the God they think put them in power.

Vote Obama 08

2443 comments
  • 1. Stellare said:

    Stay calm! :-) It'll pass.

  • 2. Kelly said:

    I don't even try to talk to conservative friends and family or try to broach this subject on my blog because it all makes me so angry that all I can do is sputter and froth a little at the mouth.

    So I agree with you, and thanks for putting it so much more eloquently than I ever could.

  • 3. gingela5 said:

    I have a feeling this is opening up a whole can of worms. I'm staying neutral and out of it!

  • 4. Daddy Scratches said:

    Dear god, I just wrote about going through this with family members over the weekend. The degree to which my blue-collar, struggling, middle-class relatives have been duped into believing that the political party standing on their throats and pissing down their backs is the one they should support is *mind boggling* to me.

  • 5. Erin said:

    Amen.

    Afuckingmen.

  • 6. Adrienne said:

    Thank you for being awesome. I keep looking at Palin like, really? that's...the best they could come up with? And I'm not a little bit offended that the Republican party seems to think I'll look at her and say "OMG, *you* have ovaries? *I* have ovaries! I should TOTALLY vote for you and that guy who was lobotomized by the Republican party two years ago in return for the CHANCE of being president!" As though, perhaps, the presence of my ovaries renders me retarded...

  • 7. Heather said:

    Here, fucking, here.

    From Heather in Canada

  • 8. Melissa said:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am one of those crazy "liberal elites" who lives inside the Beltway, and you just said most everything I feel a lot more eloquently than I have been able to lately. Mostly because all of my energy has been spent trying to restrain myself from running people in McCain-Palin shirts off the roads, and/or throwing things at my TV.

  • 9. Joanne said:

    I get a little weary of one group that says that the other group is all bad. You talk to conservatives and all they care about is their MONEY and all YOU care about is HELPING PEOPLE. It's really tiresome.

  • 10. Margaret said:

    Yeah...that Yahoo fact check article scared the shit out of me, too.

  • 11. Kelsey said:

    THANK YOU FOR WRITING THIS! I've been reading your blog for a looooong time and never felt the need to comment. Mostly, you make me laugh and sometimes you make me proud of being a woman. But thank you for letting us know that you have been watching the convention, I've been wondering how you have felt about the RNC. It's embarassing, and I'm BARACKING MY VOTE! They have t-shirts you know. :)

  • 12. Mike Beaumont said:

    Right on, Heather. Keep fighting the good fight.

  • 13. lolismum said:

    Last night, I watched the Palin speech, I genuinely felt nauseated. It seemed like the convention audience had tears in their eyes as they chanted, "drill drill drill".

  • 14. Devon said:

    My boyfriend's mother, an adamant McCain supporter is now voting for Obama because of Palin. That should say something to McCain and his campaign choices...

  • 15. sarah said:

    Oh yes yes yes. I believe in this wholeheartedly, with fervor, gumption, and those words that mean intensely.

    Please save us from the right Obama. Because the whole world thinks we are assholes, and really, it's just crazy uncle W doing all the stomping around and pissing off the party guests.

  • 16. Julien Sharp said:

    Thank you, Heather, for saying on your high-trafficked blog what EVERYONE in America should be saying and thinking. The "empire" has no clothes, folks. Has. No. Clothes.

  • 17. Anonymous said:

    I am sitting at my computer at 3.30am Sydney time feeding my newborn son and am suddenly so thankful that I have grown up in a world where my parents could encourage me to go to university and so did my partner, and that we can afford our son the benefits that come from living in the civilised world.

    As someone who comes from the other end of the planet - I am extremely hopeful that some sense will prevail and the gun totin', backy chewin', god fearin', moose huntin' folks will be told to go back to their (many) homes and that the real, honest people of the US will get some sanity - and the rest of the world will have someone worth listening to and working with on merit rather than by default as the most 'powerful' country on earth.

    If I had any faith in religion I would pray.

    Go Obama - the planet is waiting.

  • 18. Michelle said:

    Amen, Heather! My family is very conservative Republican. I am the polar opposite-I believe in affordable health care for everyone. Affordable day care for working families. Closing the tax loopholes for large corporations. And what is it with people who don't believe in global warming??? Anyway, we cannot discuss politics (or religion) in my family without it coming to an argument so severe that my mother has actually thrown me out of her house when I refused to agree that GWB was the second coming of Christ. Hopefully Obama will be elected and then I won't have to move to Canada.

  • 19. country girl said:

    wow -- you should have so spoke at the DNC...i am calling them

  • 20. Sharon said:

    I've been following the election with bated breath - and I'm Canadian.

  • 21. Libby said:

    I feel the exact same way. People have been talking about Palin all day here at work, and I can't deal with it. I just have to put my headphones on. I am trying to be objective because of my job, but inside I am screaming "wake up!!"

  • 22. TED said:

    I feel like this every four years, but I've learned a) not to watch the RNC and b) not to listen to the news so much. I voted in the primary, and I'll vote in the general election, but I have no faith in the American electorate, so for the sake of my blood pressure, I'm just pretending the election doesn't exist until it's time to wake up one morning and vote.

  • 23. Susanna said:

    Thank you SO MUCH for taking this on. Seriously, Sarah Palin is just frightening and watching her win with no experiance or competence time and time again (I live in AK) because people look at her, but fail to listen or question her has got me pretty worked up about this election. Keep it up!

  • 24. adena said:

    that final paragraph really says it all.

    way to put my feelings into words.

  • 25. Grandmere said:

    Thank you for saying it so much better than my anger and frustration allow me to. Yesterday I also read that she cut the education budget for children with special needs in Alaska by 62% ! I have been so angry since then that it is hard to be articulate. While I try to keep from discussing politics with some of my friends and family, I am to the point of wanting to shout at them... Wake up! Look at the world around you and tell me it is better than it as 8 years ago.

  • 26. Katherine said:

    I am SO with you on all of this, though I want to explode out of my own frustration and am lucky that my family is largely on my side, and because you have to hold it in so much more frequently I want to say, "Would it be awkward if I offered you a hug?" Except that wouldn't help (and not because I am a stranger and that it is creepy) but because this week has shown that whiskey is a much more effective means of surviving the RNC, and clearly, the next few months. I am a glutton for self-punishment and have watched all of it that I can stand (namely Palin's speeches) and have compared "the first half" (pre-cocktail) and "the second half" (with cocktail). Which was healthier for my sanity? I think you know. :)

  • 27. Kirsten said:

    I wholeheartedly agree, thanks for sharing the post with us...and what is so damn bad about WANTING TO HELP people I wonder aloud, WHY NOT?!

  • 28. Marty said:

    THANK YOU! You're so much more eloquent than I am. I almost engaged a TOTAL STRANGER today at the farmer's market because he was praising Palin to another customer for her "strong speech" and for being SO ready to be president. Shudder. We are all going to have to take many deep breaths in the weeks to come. Go Obama!

  • 29. [michele] said:

    All I can say is Amen sistah, ditto, ITA. And thank you for writing it. :)

  • 30. Amy J said:

    Don't stay calm. Stay mad as hell and fight.

  • 31. Katrina said:

    I have to agree on. I'm one of those people that work but are still poor. I work my ass off. I'm struggling to rebuild a failing karate studio.

    Right now I can't pay rent and can barely buy food. I have no insurance and work in a somewhat dangerous job. I have to work out with other instructors, and we fight it's what we do.

    It's not that I don't want to work or can't work it's just that right now I'm not in a place where I can afford insurance, or a roof over my head, or sometimes food.

  • 32. Kim said:

    I tried to watch with an open mind because I was curious,
    really I did, but after about 15 minutes I had to turn her off because I was disgusted by her and the smiling, clapping idiots in the audience. Just because she has ovaries doesn't mean I'll vote for her.

    Nasty, nasty, nasty. I'm sick of it.

  • 33. MissBaltimore said:

    "I get the feeling that people around the world are looking at this election as a gauge to see if America is finally ready to wake up and realize that we are not the only country on this planet"
    - MY sentiments, exactly. Living in the UK... the anxiety coming this way from the US is ... palpable. Vote OBAMA, vote for anybody but McCain + Palin. Europe is laughing at the Republicans' choice but it's more like a nervous laugh. Whatever happens in the US has long-term affect on Europe.

  • 34. JLP said:

    I am soooHOOOOoooo with you. Almost puked when Palin said the war is a task from God. I don't get the hypocrisy of the GOP, not only to use religion when convenient, but also sexism (as displayed toward Hillary, but not Palin).

  • 35. Beth said:

    Hear hear! I am also disgusted and keeping my fingers as far away from my ears as possible. Please don't let your head explode - YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

  • 36. bugink said:

    yes, yes, what she said.

  • 37. Andi said:

    Heather, you are my HERO! I agree with you wholeheartedly. My boyfriend is Canadian and I have been humbled to hear how he and his friends perceive our beautiful (but sadly misled) country. Even though my family and a handful of my friends think I am crazy, I know that voting for Obama is the best thing I can do for my daughter's future. Thanks for the post!

  • 38. valerie said:

    Thank you. This is precisely what I've been saying since for the last eight months. How is it that the Republicans have simply forgotten that four years ago McCain was TOO LIBERAL FOR THEM? What happened to him? And why is the RNC acting like they invented women? It scares the crap out of me to think that there are female voters out there who really will vote for him just because of Sarah Palin (oh, man, don't even get me started on what a colossally stupid idea she is. We all know McCain is going to drop dead four days after he's sworn in and we're going to have to put up with her stupidity for four years).

    Don't get me wrong... I'm sort of disappointed in Obama, too. It makes me sad that he picked a VP who wasn't the best choice for our nation, but rather the best choice for him personally (everyone knows that Hillary would have been the best choice for the country as a whole). The fact that he is even willing to say that we need to find "middle ground" on abortion and church and state terrifies me. But, I'll vote for him and support him because at least he doesn't stand in front of the entire country and tell lies so blatant that it's insulting.

  • 39. Ariel said:

    You are awesome Heather :)

  • 40. editdebs said:

    I have told my son the reason I choose a specific candidate is by evaluating who is most likely to make it a priority to take care of the children of our nation. Who is really looking out for them? I don't think there's much of a choice here. If I have to pay more money so your child, my child, and the child living down the street have health insurance, then so be it. It's part of my duty, yes I said duty, as a citizen to make sure every human has enough to eat, a doctor to help them when they're sick, and a house to live in. That's what I call FAMILY VALUES!

    Thanks, Heather. You're awesome!

  • 41. Pam said:

    Right on, Sister.

  • 42. Imanitsud said:

    There must have been something in the air! I got into a huge fight with my family about this yesterday and probably permanently damaged my relationship with my uncle (and his sister). I'm not proud of that, or of myself for succumbing. I felt nauseous and horrid all day as a result, and I apologized for personalizing. But I will not apologize for calling a wolf a wolf. One of the earlier commenters said it best: that the working class are being manipulated into believing that the Republican party is better for them? Absolutely mind-boggling. And so frustrating b/c their minds are made up so let's not confuse them with the FACTS or anything! Now, Sarah Palin is by most accounts, a fine enough person. I don't really have a problem with her per se. I have a problem that John McCain chose her over numerous other, better, choices. What does that say about him and his decisions? It says he panders to those very people singing lalala. Anyway, you are right, you were right, and thanks for standing up for your beliefs.

  • 43. J. said:

    The point is small government. Period. Why can't subsidies for those less fortunate come in the way of a donation to a privately-controlled, non-for-profit agency or organization instead of the federal government? Or even a state run program that's a little easier to control and manage? If the federal government lays down the law, then chances are someone is going to fall through the cracks, get "red-taped," etc.

    I don't want my hard earned tax dollars falling into a black hole of endless administration that intends to help but is often for naught.

    Republican social issues, I admit, are outdated and ridiculous. However, Republicans are not going to force their ideals on us by way of federal laws and legislation. They are going to leave it up to the states, which hopefully leave it up to their cities or communities. Gives the American people a little more freedom to choose that way, don't you think? Isn't that what it's all about?

    Anyway, carry on. I just wanted to contribute to the "boom" from the right. Not sure there are many of us on this site.

  • 44. Cj Coppola said:

    AMEN. I found her to be mean, shallow and unnecessarily sarcastic albeit a very good teleprompter reader. I look forward to the Christmas in Sept. that will be the debate with Joltin' Joe. Hit away, Joe. Hit away.

  • 45. Wa said:

    Politics is about personality these days. Palin is pretty and charming. So is Barack. Well, charming. That goes a long way. God forbid we should discuss actual policy. I'm educated and policy even bores me. I can't imagine how much it bores stupid people. Let us hope our charismatic candidate beats their charismatic candidate.

  • 46. Jess said:

    Amen! I grew up with a single mom who refused child support from a father that always forgot my birthday. A mother who worked THREE jobs a day so I could live modestly and go to a salvation army preschool and a mother who worked her way up the corporate ladder with no college education and had to endure the unwanted advances of middle management men during the eighties. I was given the opportunity to go to college and earn a degree so I would not have to work three jobs just to survive. A mother who taught me that there were always less fortunate people who didn't have what we had. And a mother who refused welfare because others needed it more than we did.

  • 47. Sarah said:

    Stick to humor and daily life snapshots. That is what we come here for. I don't disagree with you, but it is not what I expect from your wonderful site.

  • 48. Sarah said:

    The only mistake I can find in your post is that Sarah Palin spells her name with an "h" at the end. Other than that, you were 100% correct.

  • 49. KellyR said:

    As a Canadian living in the U.S I can totally relate to what you are saying. It scares me as to what we pay for health insurance and even though you pay through the nose for the premium, there are still copays, deductibles and uncovered services to pay for. People say all the time that people in Canada are dying in waiting rooms because of our healthcare system but I disagree - people die here because of the same thing because THEY DON'T HAVE INSURANCE TO BEGIN WITH. I would rather pay a little higher tax and not worry about being able to go to the Doctor than paying a premium and worrying if I have the money to pay the copay or whatnot. This system is massively flawed and I don't see an end in sight. Companies are already cutting back what they will pay for their employees benefits and soon, we're going to have to pick up the entire tab. My family is stuck between the working poor and blue collar - it's paycheck to paycheck and if I could, I would pack up my husband, my kids and my stepkids and move back to Canada. I have learned to not even pay attention to the crap that goes on before an election because for one, I can't even vote but more importantly - it doesn't really matter what we think because I live in Nebraska and we get a whopping 2 votes. :(

  • 50. Tish said:

    I'm really glad you posted the link to the AP report. It speaks volumes.

  • 51. Amy said:

    News flash: Obama isn't going to fix it either. He's just another corporate puppet saying exactly what you want to hear.

    Mr Smith Goes To Washington is not the answer. Government is not the answer. Preaching about Hope and Change is not the answer. Capitalism works. So let it.

  • 52. Beth in Michigan said:

    The thing that bothers me most about my conservative family members (oddly, I don't seeme to have any conservative friends...) is the incessant wailing about the taxes. Where do they think the money comes from to pay the police who guard their homes and communities? or the firefighters and emts who come running whenever and wherever they are called? Where do they think the money comes from to fix the roads? Who do they think is paying for their social security? The so-called conservatives talk about "letting us keep more of our money" as if we all had money to keep. Yet, I don't know a single republican who would admit to being rich. They just want to believe.

    I agree with you, Dooce, and I think that what we are seeing here are the death throes of the white patriarchy. Desperate to hang on to power they are appealing to their white, evangelical christian base with every charismatic beauty queen they can muster. But it's too late. No matter what happens in this election, white people will be a minority in less then 50 years. They can deny evolution all they want, but as for me and my tribe? Were choosing to evolve.

  • 53. Kristen said:

    My rage begins when people claim that everyone is given equal chances to succeed, and that everyone has the same opportunities. Um. How do they believe that?! I find it utterly confusing and cannot wrap my head around it. Have they never visited the "slums" of a large city? Have they never seen a television special about high schooler's who have to worry about their classmates carrying a gun in to school? Unbelievable.

  • 54. Anonymous said:

    I love you Heather! But I disagree - I am very tired of people thinking Obama shits rainbows and butterflies! He is Not the agent of CHANGE everyone thinks he is! Health Insurance sucks but so does socialized healthcare! I could go on and on But I will just leave it with I disagree - but I still love you!

    Leigh

  • 55. Jana said:

    BRAVO *throwing roses*
    Stay mad - we have to!

  • 56. Debbie said:

    Thank you Heather - I knew I could count on you to hit the proverbial "nail on the head". I watched this smart-mouth bitch give her speech last night, pointing her finger, and I wanted to go right through the television. I totally blame Sarah Palin for the friggin migraine I woke up with this morning!

  • 57. bibliogrrl said:

    I can't talk politics with my Dad. My Mom? Ok. My dad, no freaking way.

    This whole thing is giving me a daily stroke.

    I have no insurance. I had insurance, until I lost my job. I was not sad about the job, I was TERRIFIED about the insurance. (I have a much better and cooler job now, but no hope for insurance from it for 11 more months. Hopefully when I register for school in 2 months I'll be able to get insurance then).

    COBRA (or, COOOOBBBRRRAAAA as I like to think of it) would have run me over $300 a month. Almost as much as my rent. Oh, did I mention that my super awesome job (and no, not sarcasm, I do love what I do), pays not much more than minimum wage?

    Between healthcare, the possible banning of books and women's health issues - I have been crying out of anger every day. We cannot let them win.

  • 58. Hannah said:

    Amen...it disgusts me that here, in Alabama, people are more concerned with the SEC football season that just started than this election and the HUGE impact it will have on our nation. And, don't even get me started on Fred Thompson's speech from the other night. There is a website that made comments about different quotes from his speech. These are some of my favorites: "We are going to nominate the next President and Vice President of the United States of America. We do so while taking a different view of our country than that of the other party."-Sort of like how people sinking on the Titanic because they refused to believe it'd hit an iceberg had a different view than the people who'd successfully hauled ass to the lifeboats.....AND...."All I've got to say is that if Roberta McCain had been the McCain captured by the North Vietnamese, they would have surrendered. "-Implication: John McCain is a chickenshit compared to his mama. Thanks for the vote of confidence, Fred.

  • 59. Karin said:

    I keep seeing McCain Palin as McCain Pain - and that's exactly what it will be if they get elected.

    Thank you for saying it - and whoever said you should have spoken at the DNC was absofuckinglutely right!

  • 60. christina said:

    I too am quite familiar with the insurance crisis - someone in my family worked at a place that didn't take her seriously when she said she was getting sick...nearly died more times than I want to even think about. To think that I live in a world where large companies believe that they can buy off someone for screwing them and their families over makes me absolutely nauseous, in the way that the thought of McCain and Palin jetting this country back about 30 years (hel-lo? How is Palin's interpretation of pro-life in ANY way protecting women's rights?) scares the crap out of me.

    Thanks for being so eloquent in expressing your op.

  • 61. Gina said:

    Bravo! I don't understand why so many people (including my own conservative family and friends) can't understand this concept. Of course I wish that my taxes were lower - don't we all - but if it's the price I pay for overcoming social injustices, then I'll happily pay. It's so frustrating that the same crowd that is always saying that "freedom isn't free" don't seem to understand the concept that nothing else is, either.

  • 62. Mo said:

    This is a fantastic articulation of why this election matters. I couldn't contain my frustration and anger after watching that speech last night - so I made a $100 gift to Obama Biden '08.

  • 63. Another Heather said:

    I'm so glad my Maddi isn't the only female spayed k-9 that takes on strange behavior like Coco... however be thankful Coco atleast preys on her own species... my girl likes to hump our cat!

  • 64. Colleen said:

    Amen.
    As another priveleged white girl in America who has had the fortunate ability to attend college, several times, I whole-heartedly agree.
    I just came back from a business lunch with two very close colleagues, both conservative, and I totally understand your outrage...because I'm having identical feelings at this moment. My only solace is that my father runs the labor unions in Detroit and I grew up in a VERY Democratic household.
    As far as I'm concerned...
    IF YOU'RE NOT OUTRAGED, YOU'RE NOT PAYING ATTENTION!!! (YES, THREE)

  • 65. Micki said:

    I know....I know. It all would have been so much more powerful and un-circusy if Sarah Palin had spoken from a podium that was paced before a Hollywood-esque scale model of the Parthenon.

    The Republicans really missed their chance, darnit. All show and no substance goes down MUCH better.

    Sarah Palin is doing something right in Alaska to have an 80% approval rating.

  • 66. Kristen said:

    There are also true physically conservative people who have rather liberal social views. Trying to merry the two is difficult. I believe that there are MANY people who label themselves "republican" as I do - yet are also Pro-Choice, Pro-Gay Rights, and Pro "HELPING PEOPLE". Obama has great ideas, I feel he is a good man - but he gives me (and this is my opinion) the feeling that he wants to sprinkle fairy dust on the woes of our country and it will all be better. The polarization that has happened in our country of pitting one group against the other is neither helpful nor productive.

  • 67. Faithstwin said:

    This is an excellent post. As a republican with liberal tendancies, I totally agree with what you are saying and that article you linked to is exactly what helps some of us see things in the light needed and not ignore the lies because we cheer louder at our convention.

    I hope your friends and family can keep an open mind towards your opinions and decisions. I also hope you offer them the same in return.

  • 68. Rhonda said:

    I couldn't agree with you more!!! I used to be Republican but after the right-wing highjacked the party there is no place for a moderate, pro-choice person.

    This election is soo important. I hope people wake up and realize that we cannot endure another four years of the Bush-Cheney policies.

    You cannot legistate morality. The Republican party wants to impose their Judeo-Christain views on the entire publication. If you don't agree with them then you're wrong and a bad person as well. This is a country that was founded on freedom of religion--I just don't undertsand these people.

  • 69. Anonymous said:

    Thank you for this post! I was beginning to wonder if anyone else realized how ridiculous this whole situation is and how crazy it is that a person can stand up and say one thing knowing full well it isn't even close to the truth. I guess the real message is it's okay to lie as long as you think you're not, and have a bunch of other people who will look the other way while you do it on national television.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and don't worry your not the only one wondering if everyone else has gone crazy.

  • 70. Soup said:

    Peeps, this campaign is way crazier than most, and things are going to cycle up and down like mad before Election Day finally arrives. A really positive step is to send the Obama campaign as much money as you can afford to give. Don't let the Republican fat cats swindle and lie this one away from us. Money talks, so let your voice be heard. Do it after McCain's speech tonight, so it looks like a total rejection of all the RNC stands for.

  • 71. angela said:

    RON PAUL. That's all I have to say about that.

  • 72. Jessica Eveland said:

    THANK YOU!THANK YOU!THANK YOU!
    This whole thing has me sick to the stomach. My cons christian friends going on and on about Palin. What the heck? Last week you were lecturing me about returning to work when my son was a year old and how awful that was. And the damage I am doing to my 7 year old daughter because we *gasp* send her to public school and don't home school. Now this lady has 5 kids and a pregger daughter but somehow she is glorious and God has called her to save the nation. PUKE!!

  • 73. Aimee said:

    AMEN HEATHER!!!! I am a fellow Utahn voting for Obama! We need CHANGE...not a "hockey mom" and her grandpa running the show.

  • 74. Laura S. said:

    I agree with Joanne (#9). Both groups want to help people but republicans stand for the greater good rather than helping out every individual that needs it.

    As for health care, private insurance does need to change to be able to make it affordable for everyone. HOWEVER, the government is not there to provide insurance for everyone. Insurance companies are in business to make money, the government is not. Besides, republicans did not invent insurance. Insurance is not around just to make democrats mad or keep the poor in their place. Insurance is a risk-based business that, unfortunately, causes some people great heartache. How can they make money when they can't choose with whom to invest? I say this even as we are going through a similar situation.

    But remember a few years ago, someone said, "And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you - ask what you can do for your country. My fellow citizens of the world: ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man." JFK said it and he was a democrat.

  • 75. deutlich said:

    I sincerely appreciate that you wrote this. I also agree wholeheartedly.

    You said things in a way that I couldn't, because I was just pissy about the whole thing and cursed a bunch and blew off some steam.

    Thank you.

    1,000 times over. Thank you.

  • 76. sjaa said:

    Thank you, Heather. I linked to the same AP story earlier, but it will get much more attention now that you've done so. I still have hope that the voters in this country will see through the million tons of bullshit being dumped on them, especially the last couple of days.

    Also, I live near the RNC and those bastards are totally clogging up our infrastructure this week. Hope our Minnesota-nice hypothetical door doesn't hit them on the ass when they all finally roll out of here tomorrow.

  • 77. Jen said:

    Holy shit ... that made my chest tight, in a good way. I couldn't agree more.

  • 78. Derek Powazek said:

    If the republicans wanted a smart, young mother with experience managing difficult people for McCain's VP, they should have asked you, Heather.

  • 79. Anna said:

    I'm so glad I live in Europe and don't have to worry about health insurance or how I'm gonna survive if I ever loose my job or become unable to work for some reason. you guys really shouldn't be scared of social system, it's only gonna make you and your kids feel safer in this tricky world.

    you tell them girl!

  • 80. Julie said:

    My friggen cat humped my rabbit one day. I was 5 when I saw it happen.

  • 81. Hallie said:

    Well put. Well spoken. Well thought out.

    Hallie

  • 82. ApartmentCarpet said:

    Nothing short of Sarah Palin could make me de-lurk after years.

    More than anything, I was shocked at how sarcastic, belittling, and bitter everyone at the RNC was. And the fact that there were tens of thousands of people in the stands, laughing and booing, was mind boggling.

    I hope Obama can help us rise to a new level of civility and compassion. I'm with you. I would gladly give up more of my comfortable middle-class income to help give other people a leg up. It's only a dog eat dog world if you buy into it.

  • 83. kentuckienne said:

    Socialized health care is the canard that people drag out when they're afraid that they're going to lose THEIR wondrous health care. They bitch and moan about long waits for appointments in Canada and Europe, how the government will "ration" health care. As someone with a graduate degree in health policy -- we already ration health care. It's called "being insured" versus "being uninsured." And when was the last time you got a next-day appointment for anything non-urgent? I made a dermatologist appointment today. The earliest they could get me in was Halloween. So amen, Heather -- preach it.

  • 84. Olivia said:

    there was a time, when i was young, that my mom needed help from strangers to put food on the table. and there were times that help wasn't available, so she opted not to eat.

    i didn't realize this until I was a teenager, after she had put herself through college and grad school and graduated with a 4.1 GPA. After she had applied to every scholarship possible to help pay her way through college. After she did all of that while still finding time to go to every one of my choral concerts as well as drive me and my sister and brother to church every Sunday.

    by all means, if someone needs help in the form of a bit of money they can take it from MY paycheck. i'll gladly give up Netflix so some mother can eat dinner.

    GObama!

  • 85. Cactus Petunia said:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have just been too damn angry to comment on this situation without totally having a heart attack. I recommend that you all read Maureen Dowd's column in the NY Times:
    http://www.nytimes.com/2008/08/31/opinion/31dowd.html
    Thanks again!

  • 86. cmom said:

    I agree with you -mostly- I firmly believe in higher education * I am a 39 year-old senior in college at a State University and I have a daughter at a private University in Arkansas (sophomore, with a 4.0) --- BUT, in my life experience, I have known many, many people who have college degrees, and still struggle. A degree does NOT guarantee that you will never have financial problems. When you have the degree, and still cannot find a decent job, then add to it student loan payments, it gets much worse! It is a fact that as many as 60% of people with a Bachelors degree end up not even using it. You can't make a blanket judgment that everyone with financial trouble did not go to college, because it's just not true. I wholeheartedly agree with you on Palin, I think "under qualified" is the "understatement" of the decade! I believe that Obama can and will make a lot of positive changes in this country. I have no doubt that he will be elected now that McCain has chosen Palin. My girlfriend theorizes that McCain no longer wants to be elected, which is why he chose her. I have wondered if this is his way out, too. One can only hope...

  • 87. Amie said:

    Thank you for writing this.

  • 88. Caroline said:

    After watching Palin and others last night, I made my first contribution to a political campaign. I hated to do it - the way campaigns are run and paid for in this country is a disgrace...but I really wanted to support Obama - being a fellow "community organizer" and not feeling good about being laughed at by those morons!

  • 89. amy said:

    Agreed.

    And I'm not even American.

  • 90. Yecats said:

    soooooooo there with you my friend. without looking, i KNEW what the link was going to show me (i had read it this a.m. and almost choked)... anywho, i am not nor should ANYONE with a brain be afraid to say "wake the fuck up people". truly, this woman, although a fine person in many ways, i'm sure (how the fuck do i know???), is not what this country needs. she doesn't even seem to realize that she is being used...

    politics is a nasty dirty business. and although i can be nasty and dirty...i'm sad...b/c i think its gonna get worse before its gets better. yet...this liberal is trying to stay positive.

  • 91. sjaa said:

    Also, this is a great article to help you cool off a bit. I read it and felt much better than there are smart people out there that are able to articulate what I've been thinking.

    http://www.cnn.com/2008/POLITICS/09/03/rosen.palin/index.html?iref=mpsto...

  • 92. Stacey said:

    My mom changed her vote even during the primaries - she'll be one more registered Republican voting for Obama. It's still so delicate that I don't bring it up, for fear she might change her mind just so her daughter can't say "I told you so."

  • 93. Meg said:

    Heather, first of all, there are plenty of Republicans, myself included, that read and love your blog. And while you don't agree with us, that doesn't make us uneducated, stupid hillbillies, as you seem to imply. While I respect your opinions, I disagree with almost everything you said. Thats great you grew up in a white middle class family. You should also be thankful that you grew up in a place like Utah--where you don't have to see the massive abuse of the welfare system everyday. I grew up in an inner city environment. When you see it every single day--watching people lazily collecting their monthly check without working an ounce--it does start to wear on you. Truly it does. And honestly, while I respect everyone's opinions, its our election, and I don't care who Canadians or Australians hope to win. They don't vote here. Oh, and one more thing--Global Warming? Yes, its a very scary thought, but lets not forget that its a theory, yet unproven. To be fair, thats not MY personal opinion, thats the opinion of many, many experts in the field of climate change. Just throwing that out there!

  • 94. Liz said:

    AMEN. As a white, LDS woman who married into a family of crazed gun-toting libertarians (I wouldn't undo it, but to be fair, this was not fully disclosed at the time of the nuptials), I FEEL YOUR PAIN. I have found myself keeping my mouth shut on the brink of tears just to preserve a relationship for the sake of my marriage and children.

  • 95. Andrea said:

    Perfect. Couldn't have said it better myself.

  • 96. Meghan said:

    Probably one of the best posts you've ever written. From an avid reader in the Deep South, I COULDN'T AGREE MORE.

  • 97. kat said:

    Universal healthcare isn't just about being nice and helping people (although that's certainly not the worst thing in the world). It's actually MORE cost-effective for taxpayers. People who can't afford basic checkups often wind up using the emergency room as primary care, which is mind-bogglingly expensive. And the government ends up absorbing the cost because people can't pay those bills, either.

    Why taxpayers would want to waste millions of dollars treating afflictions that could've been prevented with a simple and relatively cheap checkup is beyond me. The US spends more on healthcare than any other industrialized nation, and we have the highest mortality rate. Go figure.

  • 98. The Husband said:

    Well done. After watching her speech last night, I've decided that Sarah Palin is Ann Coulter in a woman's body. McCain picking her was a cynical choice made solely to drum up votes from disenfranchised Hilary supporters and rightwingers. There's no way that McCain can honestly say that she is the person who should be running the country in the event of his death. But the base loves her so there you go.

  • 99. Ninabi said:

    We have a teenage son who had a bone tumor removed from his femur last year. What happens when he is no longer covered by his father's insurance in a few years?

    Our daughter will be graduating with a degree in electrical engineering. She has lupus. Where she seeks employment or if she goes into business for herself, depends on her ability to get health insurance.

    I shake my head thinking of my retired, Republican relatives who are excited by McCain, who are enjoying the benefits of social security and medicare after years of 40 hour work weeks- programs set up by (gasp) liberals.

    And I cannot imagine running my household as wastefully as the Bush administration. What's the debt running now? Something along the lines of a million dollars a minute, I believe. How is that conserving anything?

    The day I found out my husband was going to be deployed to Iraq was the day I wised up to the fact that what is on CNN can affect my family directly. Time for a change.

    Even the sound of Palin's voice....shudder....

  • 100. ModernGear TV said:

    WELL, WELL, WELL PUT. I am a Canadian living in the U.S. til next March and am so engaged in the process that I am going to volunteer for Obama, to do anything I can. I don't even know what I can say that you haven't, but the fact is, if for some reason the Republicans are successful, I'm moving home early, and pulling the covers over my head.

  • 101. Kim said:

    McCain had his choice of every single US-born 35+ year old, and Sarah Palin was the most qualified? Really.

    The man has serious contempt for the American people, if he can make a choice this cynical. He's 72. He's been treated for cancer four times. She's half a heartbeat away from being president if he's elected. This can not happen.

  • 102. DJ said:

    Yay we love you!!!

  • 103. Anonymous said:

    After McCain's VP announcement, I turned to my roomate and said that his move makes me want to vote for Obama even more (If that's even possible) Her reponse? " Not me. I won't vote for someone who is not patriotic"

    Really? I mean - I'm all for everyone having their own opinion and voting for whom they want. But keeping your head buried in the sand is just plain dumb.

  • 104. Ann said:

    Thank you, Heather.

    YES.WE.CAN.

  • 105. julie said:

    *hug*

  • 106. Elizabeth said:

    I'm sorry, but I can't actually believe that you have all of the facts in this argument. Yes I'm Republican, but if Palin isn't ready for the task of SECOND IN COMMAND, how can you say that Obama is ready for first? He is obviously lacking experience and no die-hard Democrat can deny that... unless they're crazy and that's not so farfetched. I just don't get the democratic party. I am more than willing to admit that John McCain is old, and will probably die in office, and whatever and whatnot, but Obama is full of words and not much else.

    And for the record, I think its disgusting that Democrats always say how they feel disgraced with America, and really aren't proud of their country (Hello Michelle Obama). MOVE B*TCH, GET OUT THE WAY then. That's how I feel. Go live in one of the third world countries and I guarantee you will get help from America, because trust me, we aren't billions in debt by giving back to our own people, as you all complain about. We're in debt due to different reasons, but one of the main ones being that we help our foreign allies and less fortunate countries.

    I do sincerely believe the Republicans are better at looking at both parties and seeing good in both parties. Yes, its politics and of course you agree with one more than the other, but you don't have to act like the Republicans are the devil-incarnate.

  • 107. Heather said:

    What about Dooce for VP!!

    I agree with your position, that is why I am picking Obama. Hopefully he will bring the change that America needs.

  • 108. nonsoccermom said:

    This is excellent. I can't discuss politics with my family either, for similar reasons. Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for this.

  • 109. Liz said:

    ONE MORE THING (in response to other comments). I used to be a welfare caseworker. While there are people who abuse the system, I would argue that these constituted less than 5% of my caseload. While there are some policies that could use reform, the welfare system is a huge success in this country. I saw more people work their way out of poverty in those three years than I could have imagined. People in this country are honest and good and just want to be able to live their lives. Very, very, very few people actually WANT to rely on the government, trust me.

    AND I WORKED WITH MOSTLY SPANISH SPEAKERS. GASP. THERE ARE ACTUALLY HONEST, HARD-WORKING MEXICANS IN THIS COUNTRY.

  • 110. Emily said:

    I was diagnosed with epilepsy in my twenties. Try getting private insurance after that.

    You're right, Heather, and there are so, so many of us right there with you. I am so happy to see so many people who see the same way I do. Yes, we totally can.

  • 111. Liz said:

    I was wondering how long you could hold your breath about this. I too have been suffering from high blood pressure all week. The republicans are here in my home town not more than 10 miles away from my HOME with this convention.

    After last nights convention speeches the first thing I did this morning was log onto Obama's website and donate.

    Somehow we've got to figure out how to make it to November without getting ulcers.

  • 112. jenalaska said:

    I live a few miles outside Wasilla, AK.

    EVERYWHERE I GO I am surrounded by OMG, SHE'S TEH AWESOME!

    It's disheartening.

  • 113. manu said:

    damn. that last paragraph ruined it from me. now i cant use my stock "thats-just-typical-american" phrase and might even have to start liking a couple of you blokes....

  • 114. Nicole said:

    Thank you, Heather! You said it.

  • 115. Amy G. (Super Woman) said:

    AMEN, sister!!

    Thanks for saying it, and doing so with remarkable poise and restraint. ;)

  • 116. Andrea said:

    AMEN SISTAH!!!!! Love ya, Heather.

  • 117. Tarrguña said:

    Take a deep breath.

    I enjoyed this write up. I can't say I totally agree with you.

    What I hate about the "rebuplicans": They fail to acknowledge how luck plays a big role in anyone's socio economic status. Like your tangent said you and your husband are lucky to have had the background that you had as you can now afford to weather the storm of life.

    What I hate about the "democrates": They take taxes and only pretend to give them to the "poor". As most people's definition of the poor equates to the situation you described with a father working 3 jobs and barely getting by and not affording health insurance. The government's definition of rich is anyone with a job; anyone.

    I used the quotes around the parties as I am only refering to politicians. Most people who claim to be either are just working people trying to make life a little better and just have differing opions as to go about that. I mean this in general as a vast majority. There are always a few assholes who are the most obnoxious and ruin recess for the rest of the class.

    The politicians in my opinion are all just profesional embezzelers who claim to be democrate or republican based off of who ever they can get in bed with.

  • 118. Stephanie said:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying this. I also don't understand how I suddenly became a sexist this week because I think that a mother with a special needs infant and a pregnant 17-year-old daughter should have other more important priorities than running for VP. And yes, I WOULD say the same thing about a father in the same situation. I am so disgusted. I cannot wait to vote.

  • 119. Anonymous said:

    Amen! And I kept wondering... after I would scour the nytimes and npr websites and would go to your website for some much needed humor and witty perspective on daily/family life..."what does dooce think about all of this?" I had a feeling that you were all about Obama and what you just wrote does not shock me at all. And, btw, I totally agree. However, I was totally prepared not to hear you expound on this topic as I know you are (currently) trying not to incite outrage from your family or conservative friends/readers... but apparently you felt really strongly about this and it almost seems like your outrage is something similar to a shaken carbonated beverage in a bottle with the cap almost screwed off...I totally commend you for sharing this feeling with us! Thank you so much. Thank you for putting it out there and risking upsetting people, including those close to you. Because this is important and it needs to be talked about! I couldn't agree more with what you said and feel comforted knowing that there are others out there willing to risk upsetting others to stand up for what they believe in and express their sometimes incendiary opinions! You have always made it clear that you are progressive and you always question the status quo, but in expressing how you feel you have also exhibited strength! This is our life and it is too short to let these nuts stay in power!

  • 120. Joansy said:

    Great post. And I'm with you 100%.

    I have a few Republican friends and I know there's no way they'll vote for Obama, but I'm doing my best to push them to Bob Barr. My friends are more of the Libertarian/economic freedom types who don't go believe the anti-choice/religion in control of government aspect of the Republican party - Barr is a much better fit for their beliefs.

    I haven't seen much discussion of McCain's plan to count employer-paid health insurance benefits as income and then tax it. That will cost most of my friends at least $5,000 a year more in income tax. So much being afraid of more taxes from the Democrats. Many, many Republicans are going to find themselves in a world of economic hurt if they win this election. Add to that the billions of dollars in debt that we're leaving our children to pay, most of which went to the benefit of Halliburton and oil companies, and it's enough to make this momma cry.

  • 121. Sarah said:

    I don't know - from where I sit at this cubicle in a professional IT job in Quebec .. things sucks here too! Sure, we have medical and dental insurance up the wazoo and it didn't cost $8000 out of pocket for me to give birth to my son. But, we have the other end of the spectrum, 40% tax on our wages - it's almost criminal - welfare that does not discriminate between the ability/inability to work. Just the other day I was at the dentist and a well dressed lady came out from her cleaning with her 6 small children. The has all been in for cleanings, and fillings, and she was blabbing away on some blackberry. I later find out, she was a welfare recipient - all the dental paid for her kids - sure you may say that is good for the kids, but what the hell is she doing on welfar while the rest of us shlepp to work paying $1.50/gallon on fuel and getting taxed 40% .. and she's taking away on her blackberry soaking up the governments (earned by US!) money. At least in the states, you get to keep most of what you earn. I know the medical situation sucks. But maybe more education about not having tons of kids if you cannot feed/care for them would be better?

  • 122. Andrea said:

    ."..or he came from a family that didn't know they should encourage him to go to college because they were busy trying to survive."

    AMEN to that! OH! That's what I can't get some people to understand. That even with the availability of student loans and pell grants and whathaveyou, it still doesn't help all people. There are families that just can't afford for their children to go to college. They need them to stay home and work to continue to help the family survive. And no matter what they do, it's never enough.

    I know the welfare system is flawed. I've witnessed that first hand. Reform is due. An overhaul. But not a "lets abolish this and make people fend for themselves." I thought we, as Americans, cared for our neighbor. And I though that was something Jesus taught us, too.

    My head went kaboom! several times last night. Listening to the crap. Seeing the reactions from the crowd. It made me sad to realize so many people buy into that. So many people seem to not care about their fellow man.

    "My money!" Fine. Stop paying taxes. Let's take away all taxes. Watch the roads get repaired then. Watch education improve in any way then. Have fun with all your extra dollars then people. Pft.

  • 123. Anonymous said:

    It does not matter how someone was raised--rich, poor, motivated, denied, whatever. My parents didn't send me to college, and I sure as hell did it. My parents didn't buy me a new car for graduation, and I sure as hell did it. My parents didn't get me a job at their engineering firm (my parents don't even have college degrees), and I sure as hell did it. Everyone has the ability to provide for themselves and their family if they are not truly disabled in some way. There are no excuses for the thousands of people on welfare who have 21 children and don't pay taxes. No goddamn excuse. And, quite frankly, it's people like you, Mrs. Armstrong, that allow this shit to go on. Oh, poor people, they are sick, they don't have a house, they don't have a job. Oh, poor, poor, people. FUCK THEM.

  • 124. D said:

    I was a single mom in college at the age of 20, and on welfare for three years, until I got my first job and no longer qualified. I feel you on a lot of the issues you have with Palin, and with the RNC and its members as a whole. I disagree, however, that the Other Side has a better option, is more honest, is more in tune with America, or has any more interest whatsoever in how our daily lives unfold. Their policies are just as biased, just as laden with rhetoric, and utilize just as many skewed statistics. Where you see good coming out of the Dems policy, let me assure you that there are other realities of the policies they will institute that will NOT appeal and are even now tucked away in secret, dark places, waiting to be deployed when we're not looking, like ripples on the proverbial water.

    There is no good candidate this year. There hasn't been since I started voting almost 20 years ago. I say, carry on and fight your fight, but please don't make the mistake of thinking that if you loathe one party's candidate that the other party's candidate is automatically in the clear--then you are no better than those you hate. Choosing the President is a privilege, and being the President is an honor--I want to vote for an individual who has character and can be trusted to LEAD us, not simply grandstand and further his career through speechmaking and reaping the profits from bestsellers. I'm still waiting.

  • 125. Sophie Godley said:

    I adore you. I'm so glad you and your blog and your wonderful pictures are part of my life, everyday.

  • 126. andrea said:

    Fortunately, I come from a VERY liberal family (that's what happens when you are from Burlington, Vermont) so we can have discussions about the state of the world without anger or fighting.

    Palin? Really? My mom and I were just wondering if that really is the best the republicans could find. And if so, how scary is that? I hope McCain's choice completely puts their ticket into a downward spiral because if the American public buys it, I don't know what to think.

    And finally, to end my comment, I'm a legal aid attorney and I specifically do consumer law and let me tell you, the banking, mortgage and credit industry and Congress have totally fucked the middle to lower class AND NO ONE GETS IT. Plus, the idea that folks want to be poor is B.S. I can't name one client who is delighted to be on food stamps and SSI but without any source of a REAL safety net, education assistance, or health insurance, they are fucked.

    End of tirade. In other words, I agree.

  • 127. Amy said:

    DOOCE FOR PRESIDENT!! DOOCE FOR PRESIDENT!! VOTE FOR THE BLURBODOOCERY PARTY AND LIVE IN A BETTER WORLD!!!

  • 128. Officerlove said:

    Wow. I would like to start by saying that I have read your website for years and while there have been times when I have not necessarily agreed with you, I have still read your opinion or rant or whatever it was at the time. However on this particular subject I think you are very much mistaken. Everyone thinks their views are the correct ones, but you are a typical liberal in the sense that you are extremely angry over what is happening and probably completely blinded by your parties' views. Sarah Palin doesn't deserve the personal attack by you or anyone else. Do you know her personally? Have you ever had any of her experiences? Do you even care what type of person she is or do you just hate her because she is in the Republican party? You actually remind me a little of her- in a good way.

  • 129. steph said:

    While McCain would not be my first choice for the republican party, Obama just scares me.

    I am all for helping others, but totally against entitlement. While there are true families that need help there are way more that milk the system. As a good citizen, I do plenty, donate constantly, volunteer and what not, I don't need the government to tax me for me to help others. I absolutely don't want the government anywhere near my health care. As a public school teacher I see how much they can screw up a system and don't want to depend on them to tell me what dr I can see and when. And while I think other energy sources are desperately needed, I also think it's ridiculous that we depend on dangerous countries for our oil and don't see why there can't be a middle ground. And lastly, until Obama sees iran as the threat that it is, for the safety of "our children" in America, I absolutely don't want to see him in office.

    But despite our differences, I still love your blog and enjoyed reading the posts and the comments to see what others (outside the media) think about this race. And bottom line, Like or dislike obama or palin, the amazing thing is, young america is into this election, watching, learning, reading and voting. That to me is awesome!

  • 130. ...loveMaegan said:

    Fantastic Post! ..and I am one of those Americans who is in fact sad to be an American ..and I don't even have a choice in the matter.

  • 131. Anonymous said:

    Stephanie, The reason you are sexist is because you are ignoring the fact that these five children have a father. Or did you forget? Governor Palin is not a single mother. Since when is child rearing strictly for the mother, and not the father? Weird.

  • 132. Katie said:

    Good for you for f-ing saying it Heather! It's infuriating and pointless to argue with most conservatives so I've stopped for my mental health. And as a woman, there has been this mode of even if I am liberal I can't bad-mouth Sarah Palin because she's a woman and holy cow this whole election is all about gender and race and so because I am a woman I can't critique a female VP candidate. I call bullshit and I'm glad you did, too. And if I see one more photo of Sarah Palin and/or HER CHILDREN wielding guns for what looks like recreation or hear another statement about hockey moms, pit bulls and lipstick, I'll barf.

  • 133. Katrina said:

    Heather,
    My son had craniosynostosis when he was born - similar, but not exactly what Leta has. He had surgery at 4months to correct it...still has an assymetrical forehead if you look close, but not many people notice.

  • 134. ByJane said:

    Heather,
    I'm going to link to you on my blog today, not because you need the traffic but because you have said here what I'm feeling. I applaud you and I thank you.
    Jane

  • 135. Jeppe Morgenthaler said:

    Much love and appreciation.

    But more than that, HOPE that any of your readers who might happen to be Republican would just take your point into consideration, and realize what you are talking about.

    I believe this is THE chance for USA to rise up.
    A chance to once again be a country that many other countries can look up to.

    If You (as a country) don't take that chance this time...I dare not think of the consequenses.

    Thank you for writing this, and anything else you write.

    Best wishes to the three of you,
    Jeppe Morgenthaler
    Copenhagen, Denmark

    (for those unaware: a country in Europe...you know, where CULTURE comes from) (sorry, coudn't resist ;-))

  • 136. Court said:

    Heather, you ROCK. I have the same problems with some of my family in the very-red-state of Oklahoma, but this year we cannot stay quiet. I was at the Dem Convention last week, and 1) I wish you could have been there, and 2) I wish while you were there they would have had you speak.

    I'm a woman, but as it was put on the Daily Show, as a proud "Vagina American" I'm not going to vote for someone who isn't right for the job just because we both have the same special parts. She opposes the rights of my special parts, anyway.

  • 137. Kat said:

    Also? We already HAVE socialized healthcare. It's called Medicare. And I stongly doubt that my grandmother would still be voting for John McCain if he threatened to take that away in favor of a market-driven system.

  • 138. Sara said:

    Heather, you are a total genius. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and giving me the courage to email all of my conservative friends with the AP article

  • 139. chiquita said:

    Amen, Heather. We must win this one. It is hope against death. Maturity against toddlerism (no offense toddlers, but they shouldn't be running the country.)

  • 140. kristin said:

    Hard to stomach someone who has risen to the position she currently finds herself in by her very engagement and leadership on the sidelines of her kids' games, in the cafeteria for PTA meetings, in the basements of city halls for council meetings, listening to the various groups and neighborhood voices and making decisions based on these united voices, now mocking this very sort of community organizing and rallying a crowd to chant "Zero! Zero!" as a response to Obama's service to just the kind of people she once represented as a mayor.

    Heaven forbid that we vote for a candidate who listens, learns, studies, analyzes, and (shocking) grows throughout the process, and throughout life. Thank goodness she was born with all the knowledge she needs for being second, or even first in command, since she only has sixty days to express this to us. It's too bad that all that community organizing got us were the very rights and privileges that she, and we, enjoy today...in that crowd last night the message was clear - not only should we lobby for less government, but less government that we each have less of a stake in.

    I had trouble sleeping last night.

  • 141. Lacey said:

    Palin is such a fucking joke. It makes me really sad. Obama 08! Hooray Heather!

  • 142. An Iowa Mom said:

    Ya know what I'm sick of ... everyone saying that Palin is not qualified. She is no less qualified than Obama. However, they are all comparing her qualifications to Obamas ... and she is not even running for President. It's Vice President, people. Stop comparing Palin and Obama ... start comparing McCain and Obama.

    People are scared and they have to attack Palin any way they can. I do understand this.

  • 143. Anonymous said:

    You are so correct...conservatives have their heads so far up their asses they can't see what's in front of them.

  • 144. Katie said:

    Well written! You are right to be angry, and terrified. I truly believe we (Obama) will win in November, but we have a lot of work to do to get there. It's not going to be easy, and even after we win, things still won't be easy - there's a lot of work to do to clean up the mess that's been made over the past 8 years.

    For the record, I am a patriot. I love my country dearly, and that's why I care so much about this election.

    Read Deer Hunting with Jesus by Joe Bageant. It's a remarkable book, a real eye-opener.

    And dooce for VP? I'd totally get behind that!

  • 145. Clare said:

    One of the reasons I love reading your blog is that you remind me that my prejudices about America are just that - it's far too easy in the UK to write all Americans off as, frankly, selfish idiots who erroneously quote the bible while driving cars the size of France and toting guns. I know better really, but thanks for challenging that sterotype!

    I also find it heartening that you manage to find a way to express your political beliefs with such passion while also striving to preserve your relationship with your family. Too often I bite my tongue when members of my family spout homophobic or racist views. Or, I speak my mind and decide that I will be happy without any further contact from them. Neither position works for me. Here's hoping I can learn something from you.

  • 146. Zoot said:

    As a former recipient of government aid as I struggled to be a single mom and graduate from college - I thank you. You hit the nail on the head as to why I was at a Democratic function last Thursday - even in the heart of Red Alabama. Because those programs that other's tax dollars went to - those programs made it so that I could get a college education even though I was a teen mother. I will not turn my back on those programs now.

  • 147. sarah reed said:

    Thank you for saying all this. My husband and I both work from home for a university we both attend online. We have two small children. We make enough money paycheck to paycheck, and we have a little bit of savings, but we have no healthcare. We are not lazy. We are bettering ourselves, and we know we will get there. Neither of our parents made enough to send us to college, and neither of our parents cared enough to encourage us to go. We make too much to qualify for public assistance, but too little purchase health coverage. We feel screwed over while we struggle with bad teeth, chronic headaches, depression, stress disorders, etc. that are all left untreated. My husband, who has a replaced heart valve will need open heart surgery again in less than 10 years. If we don't have health care by then, I don't know what we are going to do. When I was seriously ill, i did what Bush told me to do: GO TO THE ER. I now am in debt nearly 5,000 for some antibiotics.

    WTF?

    I work 40 hours a week. He works 30. We both attend classes online part time, and take wonderful care of our children, work for a leading university, and yet we both don't matter enough to get some basic medical care when we need it.

    That's a fucking shame indeed.

  • 148. KT said:

    Thank you for posting this. I know you will probably get grief for it, but I think this is a lovely way to explain how you (and a lot of other people, including me) feel.

  • 149. Mike C said:

    Hi, this is the first time I came to your web site on my own. My now ex gf reads you everyday as will I going forward.
    I want to thank you for speaking your mind on this topic. It really hit home reading your words on HELPING the less fortunate. Watching the RNC last night and again you tubing it this morning at the office made me feel like I was watching a cult prepare to take over the good in the world without consiquence.

    Vote OBAMA 08'

  • 150. Jane said:

    Thank you so much. Everyone in the office where I work is on the Palin bandwagon because she is *gasp* a woman when all I want to do is scream like bloody hell and run out the back door! It has really helped me get through the day knowing that someone else shares my thoughts.

  • 151. Heather said:

    Thank you for writing this. McCain's choice of Palin is incredibly irresponsible and if it weren't completely terrifying it would be pretty hilarious.

  • 152. Anonymous said:

    I agree with your post 100%. I am the inactive daughter of a very active family. I joked that while growing up we had three pictures in my parents entry way, Jesus, Joseph Smith, and Ronald Reagan.

    I can not discuss politics with my family. I never voted for W. I am an Obama girl who hides it from her family because they barely stomach my inactivity. My dad asked me what I think of Palin and instead of telling him the truth I just shrugged my shoulders. My father thinks Rush speaks the truth and Fox is Fair and Balanced and Liberal is an insult. I really wish I was brave enough to wear my Obama shirt.

  • 153. DRob said:

    Being well off and able to afford insurance is about luck? The logic is disturbing. And the AP is not liberal? Please.

  • 154. Katie said:

    So, um, pardon me for disagreeing with the masses, but what exactly has Obama done that is so damn wonderful? And what is so wrong with Palin? She's the only one on any ticket with executive experience of any kind - including the presidential candidates. You can mock the state of Alaska, but despite all that, she is still the leader of it.

    And this whole global warming crap ... don't worry. The planet is not self-destructing in the next four to eight years. Neither candidate will have that much of an impact on the ENTIRE GLOBE any time soon. Think China.

  • 155. FK said:

    I agree with you wholeheartedly. Watching Palin speak last night turned my stomach - it was so surreal, like I can't really believe that this person is seriously a contender for VP of the US. WTF? All I kept hearing in my head as she was talking was Hilary saying "No way. No How. No McCain." I'm barely worried about McCain at this point -- there is just NO WAY on earth that this woman can be put in charge of anything, much less something as important as the whole country. Think nobody can be worse than Bush? This woman is a million times worse - library censorship? Doesn't "believe" in the theory of evolution (and, guess what folks, a scientific theory is a totally different from the colloquial use of theory!)? The stakes are so high, it scares the s**t out of me.

  • 156. a said:

    here here!

  • 157. jin-ah said:

    Did you hear Ms. Palin talk on C-Span? She should stick to leading Alaska, since she was so unabashedly Alaska-centric the whole time; her whole agenda was about "helping Alaska." Does she realize she's running for VP of the entire COUNTRY? She has me, a 30-something feminist at heart, groaning that her infant needs her as a mother more than this (or any) country needs her as a leader. The fact people aren't more critical of this nitwit, but even praising her, is just scary!

  • 158. Patrick said:

    As a conservative, I will respectfully disagree with some of your statements. Sarah may not have Washington experience yet, but be honest with yourself...does Obama really have her beat by that much in experience? No. Biden at least brings that to the Obama camp, but, unfortunately, Biden is the embodiment of a dirty - hide behind my smile- politician.

    This is not to say that I am completely for McCain, because I am not. However, the choice between a dedicated American with an uncorrupted Governor vs. a great speaker and his entrenched-in-his-ways VP, I will choose the former.

    Thanks for the post.