Dear Reader and Occasional Commenter,
So it's time I sit down and write about the comments on this website, because I really feel like it's a conversation that we need to have.
And I thought that maybe I'd go back through my archives and showcase all the hateful and hurtful comments that have been made about me, on my own website, if only to point out that I don't know of many other places on the internet where a person who runs a personal website has to suffer such massive public vilification in her own comments. I mean, I've suffered the threats and judgments of the public in places such as Metafilter and Signals vs. Noise, places I would expect such judgment, but I never thought I would face such venom on my own website.
Do not misunderstand me, I knew that by allowing comments on the site in the first place I would run into a multitude of people who would disagree with many of the things I say and do, and I don't necessarily mind comments that express an opposing opinion. But it's hard to abide comments that attack me or other people who make viable comments on this website.
I think many of my readers may not understand what I'm trying to do, and this is very frustrating, especially when they make comments like, "I can't believe you're making such a big deal out of this, go make yourself a martini and chill out," only proving to me and to the other readers who get it that they don't get it at all. And I'm conflicted, you see, because I rarely go about deleting comments solely on the basis that the commenter obviously doesn't get what I'm trying to do. But I think the majority of my readers, the ones who come here looking for me to make a big deal out of nothing, who know that my greatest pleasure in life is making a big deal out of nothing, find it annoying that they have to sift through all that noise to get to the comments from people who have something legitimate to say.
So I went back through the archives and was reminded that I have a real appreciation for most of the people who read and comment on this website, that many of you are very funny and sympathetic and wonderfully, refreshingly frank about your own lives. And because of you I don't want to focus on the negative feedback I get from those 3-4 people a day who can't wait to tell me how much they hate me. And it's because of you that I don't want to remove the comments option from my posts.
And so I guess I should establish some guidelines for commenting on this website, even though I know they will be totally disregarded and that the 13-yr olds in Wisconsin are going to try and break my site like they did on Friday, but maybe things would be better if we all tried the following three things:
1. Please read all of the comments before you make a comment, if only to prevent yourself from repeating something that has already been said. I think I can safely say that we all fucking know that Avril is French for April, please don't point it out again.
2. Please do not use any HTML tags in your comments, as I have turned that option off and your comments will not look like you thought they would. If you'd like to post a URL, just paste the address into your comment. I'm sorry, but that picture of your sore red anus will not show up if you call an image tag.
3. If you're going to bash Britney, at least say you're sorry afterward.
Happy commenting.
Love,
Dooce
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1. Bast Herself said:
I love reading your site. Pooey on those that bash you and Britney. They don't have to read your site if they don't like it. Thanks for making me laugh.
2. jen said:
dear dooce. thanks for leaving the comments up, because the good usually outweigh the bad.
and if i ever moved to slc, i would bring liquor in order to bribe you to be my friend. I really enjoy your big deals about nothing. :-)
3. April said:
Well said.
4. owen said:
Reclaim dooce.com, Dooce - it's yours, dammit, and you know best.
5. bucci said:
Well, I think you rock. And it always makes my day; puts a smile on my face. You are truly offering a great public service, because, even though it sounds cheesy, you make people smile and laugh in a world that often takes itself too seriously and where bombs drop from planes and it isn't even in the news. So, thanks, and keep it up.
6. eyemkent said:
Wow... five posts in the time I took to START writing this... maybe that explains all the fucking French definitions... mebbe not.
I am so glad that you are back, and writing and sharing it, that I almost hate to say anything else. (and the time it has taken to write this may prove that I don't know HOW)
Nonetheless, I think it pays to remember that on average, one is more likely to get sycophantic or acidic spew in response to one's work than anything well thought-out. The fact that yours seems to attract more of the former AND some fun, thoughtful participation speaks more highly of your audience - and therefore you - than any of the mundane (and far too common) pissings that are part of the price mwe pay for all this instantaneous brain-feeding.
(mmmm.... brains...)
7. Renee said:
I just stumbled across your site... love it! I think being fired for a personal website is bullshit. That's like saying you aren't allowed to keep a diary or journal of any sort? Though maybe I don't know the full story yet, it seems wrong.
As for making a big deal of nothing... it's your site, go crazy! I, too, make big deals of utter nothingness, so I'm happy to have found this site. ;)
8. Cody said:
You are a sunny spot in my daily surf, a first-click on my sidebar, and an almost daily smile on my face.
Impotence manifests iself as hurtfulness. The naysayers are essentially powerless.
ps -- We can't bash Britney? Not even a little bit? Not even a knock? Awww...
9. annie said:
hopefully comments will be more constructive now.
it's a pitty you've had to say something.
10. blondie said:
I would just like to say thank you for being a different and fresh voice in the world of repetitive thinkers. I just started reading your site and I much enjoy your nothing-rants! Keep it up.
11. aaron said:
Reading your site is like watching a good Seinfeld episode. Something about nothing? Is that what life's all about? Keep it up.
12. Miriam said:
Oh, god, I hope I'm not the 13-year-old! Sorry about the link in the comment I posted and I meant only that you're divine looking. I've always enjoyed your site and am glad you're back. I had never commented before as there's always so many others... actually I'd have e-mailed you that link privately had I known how. Anyway, again, I apologize. Thanks for a great site.
13. Wayne said:
Does that mean we can bash Christina and Shakira and not apologize afterward?
dooce, take what solace you can in knowing that those people who are bitter, petty, and slow-witted probably have barely enough self-awareness to know that they are bitter, petty, and slow-witted, and just have to live with themselves the best they can. Those of us with wit and humor and appreciate you and love you...or at least really, really like you...you know, in that way...
(That wasn't too judgmental, was it?)
14. shy said:
i love this entry. though i know you were speaking for yourself, i felt that you were speaking for me as well. it's interesting to note that a lot of the bitter and the power-trip comments are usually left from anonymous people fearfull of leaving an email and/or url.
luckily, most commenting systems can track ip's.
all the best, dooce. thanks for the good reads!
15. Brandon said:
First off, I'd like to say I'm sorry for putting that picture of the little kid on your site. It was pretty irreverent and completely off topic (well sort of). I felt pretty stupid the moment it went up.
And with the apology out of the way, I want to say I really appreciate your site and your insight. Sometimes we all get bogged down in life. Sometimes we all have tunnel vision. And it takes a different view to help change that. I appreciate your view.
Keep it up!
16. Toby said:
You know, nothing breathes life into a weblog like the jpeg of a sore red anus. Just a thought.
17. Nisa said:
All the times I'm tempted to allow comments on my own website, all I need to do is think about all the other sites who get so much shit daily from people, and any urge I have is quickly quashed. I've had enough in the past, people who don't 'get' the sarcasm of whatever I'm saying, and jump into offended mode. I'm just not brave enough for the anonymity of the comment function, I guess.
18. se said:
Here's another voice in the chorus of well-wishers. One of the best compliments I can think to give someone is "You make me laugh." Well *you* make me laugh out loud and that's a really nice thing to do. People are much more likely to write letters of complaint than letters of praise, and I think it's the same for Comments. I also think a lot of people out there are yammering yobbos. So take it from someone who takes everything personally--ignore the twits. Most of us have a blast at your party.
19. Kyle said:
Damn! Read *all the comments? You get, like, *a lot* of comments. Okay! I will!
I've loved your site for a long time, Dooce, it's great having you back and I hope the 13 year olds in Wisconsin and others elsewhere lacking a life of their own don't ruin it for us again!
Britney? I'd hit it. If she kept her mouth shut. Sorry!
20. galt said:
you are a brave soul to allow this supremely democratic function on your site, and I think that's five-star fabulous, even though I'm from Wisconsin, where we fear honest and hilarious blogs and hunt them down for their delicious meats. also, I would like to knock Britney, if you know what I mean. And i think you do. And for that, I am sorry.
21. Dave Thomas said:
See, I just assumed you shut us off because someone called me "Dildo" Thomas. Oh well.
22. Paula said:
I can totally sympathize. I'm STILL getting hate mail and nasty comments from my post about Tom Cruise getting braces ñ even though I took it down over 6 months ago. Also, the pooty tang posts just keep on comin'. People are weird and many of them desperately need lives.
23. Tommy said:
I think your writing is, and has been since the first time I read it(way back when I was just a silly fop), some of the most clever and entertaining stuff I have ever read. Good job Brooke.
24. cicada said:
Angry people aside, much of what's on the WWW is damn good, and dooce.com is one of the best sites around. Dooce-girl, comments or no, you rock!
25. Igor said:
*bashful*
I really did scroll down the comment list to see if I wasn't the umpteenth smartass to point out that Avril is April in French. It's not a big leap of the mind to figure that out even if you don't speak any French. I try to contribute in a positive way even though I don't get it because, hey, women are sometimes a tad hard to grasp. I hope your log shows that I do try to get into the spirit of the thing. I come here because I think Dooce is a good and beautiful person (and not only the deliciously pimpled wrapping Jon gets to enjoy).
Live the life and tell the tale, sweet Heather. A fan.
26. jie said:
i love your website. i don't like britney (sorry), and i don't like avril too. but i still love your website. people harass you coz they can't bear the fact that you're famous! hehe...
27. Jen said:
I think there's way more of us nice people than those assholes, thanks for noticing. I've got your back if you ever need to kick some ass.
28. Buckosmack said:
Sweetie, opinions are like b-holes - everyone's got one. If you're gonna throw your's up for the public at large they're gonna throw back. Don't take it so personally, it's really a compliment. You know like when you're young and your house get's TP'd? ANyway, it ain't all sugar and spice and your lovely editorals prove that. It is, however America-- and for the time being it's a free country, people get to say as they please. Just, keep on and don't let the b-holes get ya down.
29. PJ said:
Where in Wisconsin? I can drive up there and beat the snot out of the little cheeseheads, just say the word.
30. Miss Mea-Mea said:
I love your site. Particularly because you are so (apparently) effortlessly funny. People who do not have their own blogs should realize how tough it is to write intelligently and amusingly on a regular basis. But we need more Chuck pictures, please. I am going through withdrawal...
31. Donna said:
I'm glad you're keeping the comments. Your site's comments are the only ones I make a point of reading.
32. the mighty jimbo said:
ah the conundrum that faces all great artists. hang yourself and your thoughts, rants, opinions out to dry and you invite the occasional asshole to take a dump on it. keep it to yourself and you avoid the attacks, but you feel like all those ideas are just gonna get moldy in your head. personally i will never understand why when someone disagrees with you or finds you offensive they just can't hit the "back" button. seems a helluva lot easier than a two page tirade as to how impressively you suck. ignore the bastards and if you can't, you are the god of this digital domain. delete delete delete. as a fan, i would hate to see the digital detritus of an attack by some blog terrorist dirtying the content of your site and dulling the edge of your wit. if only to spread a little more butter on your toast, personally i think you are just about the most talented person on the internet and the biggest, baddest ass with a blog. put simply, you rock. and if you aren't seriously considering writing a book maybe you aren't as smart as i think you are. and if planting my lips on your ass after mocking britany is all it takes to keep you writing, consider my lips puckered.
33. Xanthan said:
Violent opposition - its the ultimate compliment, Dooce. Though, it seem to me that posting a picture of a sore, red anus is redundant for the poster.... You must be having some effect: today's news is the Lirva virus, apparently aimed at fans of that anti-pop princess. As the proud product of the California public education system, I can see that Lirva is "banal" spelled backwards.
34. Irk said:
I love Dooce, and I want the whole world to know.
35. Lisa said:
Have you heard that Britney and Justin are back together? Don't know if it's true, but the Star says they are...
36. paperdog said:
I love your site & agree that the world takes itself far too seriously these days.
You offer me a refreshing break from reality and make me laugh out loud at work.
If I get fired, it's your fault.
37. JoJo said:
I was gonna go on and on about how much you rock and how you can write what you want and how all those bastards can just rot in hell if they disagree and how you're just the supercoolest thing since the invention of spice racks (ALERT! STOLEN POP REFERENCE!)...
...but then I read all your comments, and realized you already fucking know that, so I won't point it out again.
38. the propagandist said:
i find it incredibly brave that you are willing to even allow comments - after the first negative comment on my site i nuked the haloscan and threatened people.
maybe that is why i languish in obscurity while you bask in the sometimes harsh sunlight of criticism.
39. LAresident said:
Wow, it took a long time to read all of these before adding my two cents. I was reading the site before you went off the air last year, and I loved it. I like what you do because I wish I had the ability to do it. I look in almost every day, and was so happy to find that you were back on line that I actually stood up and said "Yay!". I never think to comment, sorry about that. I'm also sorry that I don't really care for Britney, at all, but I won't bash her in front of you. Please keep it up, I missed you so much when you were gone.
40. Amanda Lew said:
It's posts like this that keep things on here especially interesting. Freakishly, I was one of the Avril/April pointer-outers. And I thought I was being all knowledgeable. Oh well, just another reason for me to despise the poor kid. Keep up the great work, Dooce.
41. Eddiewojo said:
Dooce, thanks for leaving the comments. I am of the opinion that putting your rants about this and that and anything that happens in your life in such afunny, pointed and talented way is an art and art is best when it is out there and commented on. Thanks for allowing us to admire your art and let's face it, Degas and Monet have their critics and detractors as well.
I unfortunately do not have any talent to do what you do and admire you greatly for it. Thanks for leaving the comments up - reading them is the best part of my day!
42. jwes said:
Rock on Dooce, don't let the bastards get you down...
43. Lex said:
Dooce, it's your site, you do what you think is best. I trust your judgment, I love your humor, and if the irony-impaired among your commenters get to be too annoying for you, well, bleep 'em -- metaphorically and literally.
44. SnarkyPup said:
You know, as unlikely as it sounds, it seems that Fred Durst and Britney are getting cozy.
45. milk-toast said:
What about a "premium" dooce.com? How many would pay for this service...along with the free daily (or whatever) posts, special "members only" post per week, perhaps.
46. leblanc said:
i applaud you for having comments. a lot of people take them down so that they can speak their minds without having to get any feedback. i'm not quite sure i understand why people post to a public, world wide medium and then get pissed when people make comments they don't like. if you don't like comments or don't want to hear other people's responses, then why don't you just write in your private journal or something? anyway, i enjoy your site even though our demeanors and opinions differ sometimes greatly, sometimes not so much. keep on.
47. S. said:
Just imagine what would happen if you said something about the Middle East.
48. Kate the Great said:
Please don't stop the rock! I need my daily dose of Dooce, and the comments are a yummy buttery frosting, negative or no.
All those negative nellies are just sour grapes. They're bewildered by your rapier-sharp wit, as they probably are by most shiny things.
49. Trent said:
Maybe your viewers will "let their conscience be their guide" and quit leaving stupid comments. Most viewers are just leaving interesting feedback and that is cool. The bad feedback is either from an anonymous chickenshit or just a moron with a website trying to draw traffic. Just sad if you ask me. Keep up the good work Dooce. Everything worth while is worth keeping alive!
50. moose said:
Illegitimi non carborundum - don't let the bastards get you down! Yours is one of the few blogs I read cuz I know it'll be good. Forge ahead and do what you need to do - which is write these entries! (The book idea should be seriously considered if it isn't already.) Aside from a couple consumate jerks I feel sorry for, most of us are rooting for you. Even if we don't like Britney (sorry). And thanks.
51. moose said:
PS, I say delete when you want. You got the reins and you drive this thing!
52. The Posterboy said:
Yeah I get your way or writing. Why can't everyone else. It cracks my shit up to read how you can blow something totally out of proportion. That's my reason for coming here.
53. Carrie said:
Your website is my carrot-on-a-stick. "When I finish this report, I'll read Dooce!", or "While I wolf down my lunch at my desk like a good little slave, at least I'll get to read what Dooce has to say today." The comments page is the ice cream dessert, especially with a little sweet chunk of chocolate chip Dooce response, or a praline-covered "the husband thinks" surprise in the mix. MMM-MMM good!
54. Kate the Great said:
Hey Carrie, I already used the comments-as-sweets metaphor! Hands off, girl! Dooce, this is where you demonstrate your powers of comments mediation.
I must admit that Carrie was more descriptive, though. In fact, it's making me hungry for pralines.
55. Amy said:
Dooce,
Thanks for another great post. Like many others commenting on your thoughts today, I hope I'm not one of the 13 year olds referenced.... but I'm pretty sure I was the first to point out the April thing, and boy am I feeling a little more than silly about it now! Anyway, I took my own bashing for my comments, which were meant to be silly and representative of Canadians being able to laugh at themselves a little, and not as "holier-than-thou" as accused... and for the record, I'm not from Alberta, although I'm sure it's a wonderful place to be from, but I did go to University in Kingston which is near Napanee... thus the personal insights... whatever...
Anyway, your site is my favourite and I only hope to one day achieve such passionate and volumous commentary by readers as you have here.
Thanks again!
56. Zan said:
You make me laugh.
You make me cringe.
You make things fun to ready through your thoughtful and insiteful use of personifivation (like the ol' cock-a-doodle-doo comment) and candor.
Definitely a fun ride each and every day at dooce.com.
Let loose your thoughts, your comments, your rants, and your raves, but remember, people, that she is sticking her pretty neck out every time she posts a new, enthralling installment. I, for one, have profound respect for dooce for the simple reason that so many people are NOT willing to field the feedback of an anonymous audience.
Rock on, Dooce... and don't forget to give Chuck a treat.
57. Greg said:
Is it okay to bash Brittany Murphy without apologizing? 'Cause on top of being kind of annoying, she helped knocked off "Two Towers" from #1 this weekend.
58. Christine said:
Where are they?! I'm gonna kick their punk ass bitches' asses!
59. niurope said:
despite everything, i do like your site. i have gotten negative comments from a reader that frequents your site, but that's all in the past.
60. the media said:
let me start off by saying, i sincerely do apologize for any insensitive comments that i may have made.
i think you write wonderfully. i've discovered your site by complete accident (typing in random addresses) and found your writing to be quite entertaining. i live & work in la as an art director. it was quite interesting to read about your work life. anyway, i hope some of my comments did not hurt you in any way. i meant nothing by it. i think you're an interesting, intelligent person (god, knows there are so little of you on this planet). have you ever thought about writing a screen play or something. afterall you did live in la. i think you'd do quite well. i'll even help you get it sold if it's anything like your posts.
your typography is excellent.
61. Ariel said:
Dooce, as someone who recently went through a massive attack on my comment system, I sympathize with your weariness. Trolls are obnoxious and draining...and what's worse of all is no matter how hard you try to ignore them, they still GET to you. Mine did, at least. After 50 comments telling me I was fat, ugly, a dyke, a cunt, etc etc etc, I had to admit that the terrorists had won...and I took my comments down for a few weeks. Glad you didn't have to!
62. peggy said:
I wish commenters had to take an oath, like doctors: 'first, do no harm.' Alas. Glad you're back.
63. Laura said:
This post is kind of funny (in an irony-a-la-Alanis sort of way) because a few days ago I was just thinking about how all of the "I love you, Dooce! I love your hair and I wish I were you!" comments were getting kind of boring. Not that the couple of comments I've left have been absolute genius.
Alas, I have resolved to be less hateful this year. All of the jerks around these parts should do the same.
To you, Dooce, I refuse to compliment your hair, but I will say: Play on, Player.
64. jimmypage said:
d00ce - it does get a bit tiring reading all the comments posted by those who feel obligated to lick your anus after reading your rant-of-the-day. It would be nice if people would actually do what you have suggested. In simple terms, people: have a take and don't suck.
65. EC said:
Ok, am I channeling you again or is this a repeat? I think it is a great idea to pull this one out everytime someone bashes Britney or they tell you Avril is french for April. Abril is spanish for April too.
66. Totah DinÈ said:
I'm sorry that this happened. I really enjoy the eloquent way you take us with you on your jaunts. It amazes me how well you tell a story and keep your readers captivated. You're a wonderful refreshing writer. I would hope that the comments would stay up. But, if you did have to take them off I'd still be a faithful reader. Thank you for making the mundane, magical. You rock! :o)
67. Anonymous said:
Those who can DO those who can't COMMENT !!! LOSERS!
Rock on Dooce.. I'll pay the premium...
68. living vicariously said:
Dooce, you only say the things that most of us wish we could. Me, I stick to yelling in the shower and glowering at unsuspecting pedestrians, but I'm not nearly as brave as you.
69. Natasha said:
I think you're right on. I also think you've got class to allow comments even though some of them turn into personal attacks toward you. But I do think it says something for you and your site that so many of them are positive. Keep the thoughts coming...I love your observations about nothing. Too much "something" hurts my brain. :)
70. aubs said:
Ditto everyone above -- love the site, and esp. the comments. Even more since I can't seem to get MY audience (ok, all 3 of them!) to leave me a comment to save my life. Keep on doing what you're doing, Dooce, and we'll keep on reading.
71. JSN said:
I've been reading since before the firing, and though I rarely comment, I think your method of making big deals out of the little things is exactly what we all wish we were allowed to do all day long. I just can't wait to hear your thoughts on the Justin and Britney "Cry Me a River" debacle!
The hell with the nay-sayers. Rule on, Dooce!
72. garrett said:
You rock. Don't let the trolls win. Your site is a favorite daily diversion. The comments are part of what make it so fun. Hopefully they won't disappear.
73. Rex said:
See? Everybody loves you, after all. No worries. Sorry if I made you angry. Why don't you treat yourself to that martini.
74. spike said:
dooce,
i love reading your site, and i typically dont get to it til theres a crapload of comments. i find that i usually end up only reading your post and not the comments.
75. Kate said:
Yay for getting it. Yay for writing deliciously hilarious stuff to be gotten.
76. Splinter said:
I hardly comment. In fact, this just may be my fourth or fifth comment ever. But I wanted to say sorry if I offended you, or annoyed you in any way. I do love your writing, and you make me smile, laugh or think. Three very good reactions.
77. cancurio said:
Well, I wonder. I read all that Avril/Britney/Canada stuff and I figured this is a great representative place to ask a couple of questions:
So, I read on Salon.com that Americans are generally really religious people. Not all the academic types (tho maybe them too) but the population at large. Is that true? Are you a religious culture? I always assumed you were like us Canadians, a bunch of liberal skeptics, I was surprised to read of differences, so I'd be interested in your responses. Secondly, we had an American friend visiting recently. He said he was surprised by what he was seeing on the Canadian news, that this information would never be aired on the network news in America. Now, he wasn't a fan of Bush or this whole Iraq thing in the first place so he was into hearing different perspectives, but I wonder if people down there are just swallowing the Bush nonsense hook line and sinker or if you're looking outside of your own national news to see what the rest of the world is talking about?
I have a lot of American friends, so don't get me wrong, I'm not bashing, but the stuff I hear about lately (and this latest thing with the Republicans winning the senate and such) has really got me wondering. Please fill me in.
78. dennis said:
If you're using Apache, take a gander at the 'deny from' directive:
http://httpd.apache.org/docs-2.0/
howto/auth.html
Or, if you prefer to do things at the Moveable Type level:
http://www.movabletype.org/docs/
mtmanual_blog_config.html#ip%20banning
Obviously this isn't nearly foolproof, but it might stop a few fools... :)
79. dooce said:
cancurio: go see Bowling for Columbine, the recent documentary from Michael Moore. that should explain a lot of things.
80. Jason said:
Wow - that's the first time I've ever made it through all the comments... I was reading you before the hiatus as well, and I was thinking just last week that a lot of the comments I did read on your site were just so far away from "getting it." When you said "my greatest pleasure in life is making a big deal out of nothing," that's it! that's why your site is so consistently funny; your ability to make nothing into funny. If you can't appreciate that, why bother?
81. robyn said:
i think it's sad that people don't "get" this site. of COURSE we want to hear about zits and mormon silliness and whatever other amusing things dooce has on her mind! as for cancurio's question about non-liberals...yes, there are many non-liberals (dare i say, conservatives!?!) in the US. i in fact am one of them (tho quite moderate). please don't be alarmed, one doesn't have to be liberal to be a skeptic OR responsible in thought OR not to be wallowing in "bush nonsense". but that's beside the point. please ignore the buttheads, and keep up your usual entertaining goodness!
82. tracey said:
rock on, dooce. it's so refreshing to read your journal because you don't hold back, and why should you? it's your space and you can do whatever you want with it frankly.
83. Thomas said:
Scrap the comments, Dooce. go with your pics instead. they're awesome. it was the second best thing about your old site.
84. Jerry S. said:
Since Jerry Seinfeld, we know that life is about nothing, and that is mostly hilarious, often sad, sometimes thrilling and always present. To make a big deal out of the small things is what we do every day. You grant us a closer and more honest look into your life by describing what you describe than by coming up with the "big" issues. Long live the pimple.
85. Ariella said:
I just don't read the comments. After a few days of having to read stuff that was not the Doocery I came here for, I just decided to ignore them.
86. HRH said:
Dooce,
I was truly upset when I couldn't post a comment on your oxy post (I know the ultimate solution to an unwanted facial guest-the pink lotion from Mario Badescu) and was even more upset to see that your site had been besieged by 13 year olds from Wisconsin. Thanks for keeping the comment feature and for writing as well as you do. Your honesty is very cool.
87. Anonymous said:
show only the top 10 posts. only the comments that add something.
88. Glovia said:
I have read through 86 people who think Dooce rocks the world; count me as no. 87. however, you must know that the numbers are rising in the "Dooce Has Deleted Our Posts Coalition", faster than the growth of the Mormon church even. We all know Dooce is super-talented. And I'm sure people say purely mean things. However, (and I'm surprised not one of 86 has brought this up) when one of us disagrees with you (not hates you) and dares to post about it - we are either told we fucking suck or are deleted entirely. And as talented and funny as Dooce is, and as much as I know I'll keep coming back for more, the whole thing seems a little well, you people just don't get it. Half of the blog satisfaction at least, is getting the feedback. Hurtful or not, it's recognition acknowledgement. You know it feels good to sit back at night and say, I had 4,521 fucking comments today. Yay me. Take the cream with the crap and keep writing - Lord knows you're good at it!
89. kane said:
It seems to me that there was a time when more of your visitors would "get it". Now it seems like many of the newer arrivals not only don't get it, but also don't understand what comments are for. It's no reflection on you, but sometimes it feels like your site has become a chic restaurant, where many of the customers come to be seen, rather than to enjoy the great food.
90. Carrie said:
Aside to Kate the Great::
Sorry, didn't notice your sweets metaphor before I posted - I was distracted by something shiny. Mea culpa.
91. stacey said:
Totally unrelated-
Did you see Joe Millionaire last night? This girl Heidi (heidi? holly? something like that) who was NOT sympathetic AT ALL, very unDOOCElike, but she looked JUST LIKE the DOOCE! And she had a boyfriend back home, too. Dooce? Did you make an appearance on Joe Millionaire between jobs when your blog was down? Fess up chica!
92. Feelafel said:
love-in: you inspired me to blog; the only reasons that I haven't totally copied your layout are a. I'm too lazy, and b. I respect your originality and creativity in creating them in the first place; I missed your presence so much during that 1/2 year blackout that I'd check back to www.dooce.com, like, every /day/ and just gaze at the lone logo graphic.
strength-giving: even if people (myself included) disagree with you, the strength you demonstrate in being so raw and real on your blog speaks volumes about your character and honesty. Would that I could be as true on mine.
slight-criticism: you've gotta let go, darlin'. You can't convince all the people all the time, and someone's always gonna misinterpret you. Write your post, put on your "I've-said-my-piece" pants and let those nasty thoughts you might get back sliiiide.
93. Kelly said:
Dooce! I get it! Not only do I get it, I love it and I try to find time to check it out every day! It makes me happy the same way a hot fudge sundae does, the same way an appreciative smile from a sexy stranger does! Dooce, you're the juice!
94. anna said:
they like you - they really like you!
seriously. last night during the american music awards when they annouced poor avril's name - i made some snide remark about her general suckiness and my sweet boyfriend looked askance at me and said: 'oh - so now your'e jumping on the dooce bandwagon - huh?"
you didn't know you had a bandwagon - did you? well you do - and i'm on it.
(although, for the record, i have been annoyed by avril since at LEAST 4 months ago.)
95. dooce said:
Glovia: if I remember correctly, the comment of yours that i deleted was not really a disagreement with me, but a mean comparison of a bouqut to a dildo aimed at a bride in one of the pictures i took over the holiday. you're totally entitled to that opinion, i just didn't think that my friend Rebecca, who was just an innocent subject of a photograph, deserved to have that said about her wedding day on my website. I'd have been upset if one of my friends had left something like that said about me and my wedding day on their website. Do you understand?
I think you'll find plenty of comments in the archives wherein the reader totally disagrees with me and has no qualms telling me such, comments i have not deleted.
Kelly, for the record, I look NOTHING like Heidi on Joe Millionaire, and my husband can back up that defense. That was probably the meanest comment ever. (maybe not ever, but it stung like a bee)
96. moose said:
sweet Dooce (and yes, we know what it means in French already), I suspect most commenting here who don't understand your reaction today missed the nastiness of yesterday which you (wisely!) deleted. And otherwise harbor petty grievances. I have see you do nothing that was not warrented. Let's move on! Rock on, girl!
97. MemphisBen said:
I saw that stupid ass show last night. You look just like that girl. It's a compliment, she's a hotty and so are you. Your probably mad because she's a bitch huh.
98. kidfarthest said:
Apart from the fact that they have their noses way too deep into YOUR BUSINESS, the comments on Metafilter seem to have some sane advice, and some decent feedback, even if they all tend to steer one towards more normative behavior. I think the prose DOOCE herself crafts is excellent, exquisite, tempered, articulate, and many other good things. The problem with the comments is that they so often sink immediately to the most basic and prurient of concerns and lack all of the subtlety that DOOCE displays in her prose. Many fans, yes, but few true acolytes.
99. total_looser said:
are you deleting the negative psots to this commentary thread?
i suspect youve spent too much time in your life hanging out with liberal jewish democrats
not that theres anything wrong with that
ps. your self shrine is very shiny
100. the husband said:
My wife looks not one whit like that woman on Joe Millionaire. Your mom does.
101. Gland Condition said:
The site is great, well written, and well designed.
However, this Dooce edition makes it sound like you're taking yourself a little too seriously. Keep doing your thing. If people don't like it, fuck 'em.
102. zchamu said:
Dooce, darling, do not let the bastards get you down. Opinions are like assholes; everyone's got one. We love you. So tell everyone else to fuck off, from me.
103. J. Timberlake said:
Britney's a ho!
104. eyemkent said:
Adding something just so that the above isn't the last (vaguely decryptable) word;
Heidi is blond(ish). That's pretty much where the comparison ends. Word.
105. eyemkent said:
Oops. That last "word" was in respose to memphisben...
Guess I need to hit refresh once in a while...
106. first-timer said:
*farts noisily*
Is that still allowed? :)
107. cat said:
dooce, i'm dying to hear your thoughts on this juicy little topic. (just thought i'd give you some inspiration.)
http://www.salon.com/mwt/style/
2003/01/14/juicy/index.html
108. Mo said:
Dooce, us Canadians love ya. Well, at least I do. And you guys can keep Avril. Her snaggle tooth creeps us out.