Didn't that woman blog about Al Roker's nipples?
When the producer for NBC called me and asked if I'd be interested in flying to New York to be on a live segment of the Today show to talk about the business of mommy-blogging — okay, wait a minute, I think I should address this right here, right now, this label MOMMY BLOG. Do I consider my website a mommy blog? Not really, no. When I sit down to update my website I don't think to myself, "What will I say today on my mommy blog?" The first thing I think is, how can I give my father a heart attack? And then I back up a second and go, nah, I'd miss him too much, I will just have to write this story about Jon's Brazilian wax in my personal diary. Dad, are you paying attention? It's because of you that the world does not get to hear about Jon's genitals. I HOPE YOU'RE HAPPY.
But I also don't get offended when people call this website a mommy blog. Not at all. Because even though some people use that label to belittle the fact that there are women out there writing about their experiences as mothers, how dare they? Who do they think they are? NO ONE WANTS TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR KID, YOU MOMMY BLOGGER! Yeah, that. Turns out lots of people want to hear about your kid. Oh, and did you hear? All this writing about motherhood is bringing people together and changing lives. So you go ahead and wrinkle your nose and dismiss those mommy blogs. And I'm going to sit over here at my laptop and be totally flattered that someone thinks I'm worthy to be among their ranks. Hell yes, I'm a mommy blogger.
So I was prepped for an interview about mommy blogs, the lot of us, how this thing we started to document the tiny and intimate moments of our lives has transformed into our jobs. Our jobs that pay us money. And I was totally under the impression that it was going to be a more in-depth interview than the usual, so, tell us about your blob, is it? Your blop? Your blonk? Little anecdote here, the driver they sent to JFK to pick me up turned out to be Chelsea Clinton's personal driver when she's in New York, which does not have anything to do with the point I'm trying to make here other than that he said she is always shouting from the backseat, "GO FASTER! GO FASTER!" And I don't know why but just knowing that about Chelsea makes me want to invite her over to play Scrabble while chugging Kentucky bourbon. It just makes me love her even more to know that she gets impatient at stop lights, and that maybe she has once or twice waved her middle finger at a stranger, not because it would make any difference or cause traffic to go any faster, but because IT FELT SO GOOD.
Anyway, the driver asked me why I was in New York and what I did for a living. My friend, Maggie, is going to be so proud of me for this because I told him, "I'm a writer." And I thought it was going to sound natural coming out of my mouth but in fact it did not whatsoever. I could have said, "I teach English to genius pandas," and the look on my face would have been the same. He asked me what kind of writing, and that's when I looked around to see if anyone was within earshot, and duh. It's New York. At any given moment there is someone having intercourse with a goat within earshot. So I whispered A BLOGGGGG. And I am not even kidding, his whole face shriveled inward as if he had just been sprayed with mace, and he said, "Does that hurt?"
Yes, it hurts. But I'm taking antibiotics.
So I got a call from the producer about 20 seconds before boarding the plane to New York telling me that they had bumped the segment to the fourth hour of the show, and that I'd now be interviewed by Hoda and Kathie Lee. I knew right then that the interview that was supposed to happen was not going to happen, but I still had hope. I knew that a taped segment featuring other bloggers (Kristen Chase, Mir Kamin, and Jill Asher) was going to run before me, and I thought I'd still be able to get in a word or two about why I think companies are so interested in marketing to this group of people, why they are sending us thousands of PR emails saying DEAR BLOGGER, PLEASE WRITE ABOUT MY PRODUCT ON YOUR WEBSITE. Except how many times have we been sent an email addressed to the wrong person? I've been called Heather Anderson, Sarah Armstrong, Hannah, Halley, and one time someone even called me Jim. Note to PR people: maybe pretend that you are paying attention.
I'd been to Rockefeller Center before but never inside the Today Show studios, and I don't know how to say this without someone deliberately misinterpreting it, so I'll just go ahead and blurt it out: it was kind of sad. The green room was tiny, and the make-up room looked like it had been haphazardly set up in someone's garage. Not that I was expecting the walls to be lined with gold, but you look at the set and see how sharp and clean it is, and then you go backstage and, oh my god, has my daughter been playing in here? Because there was stuff and paper and little bits of things everywhere. Like, I had a thought that if I took off my shoes and walked around for a little bit back there that I'd stumble over a Barbie corvette and maybe cut myself on that missing Polly Pocket shoe.
And that is less a judgment than it is an observation, because the experience I had with the make-up people was more than professional. They handled me with great care and made me feel like a million bucks and didn't mind Jon as he furiously circled the room with our camera:
Just as I was about to walk back to the green room I asked Jon if he thought my make-up looked okay, and in front of about 10 people on the Today show staff he said, "Okay? OKAY? I'd lick you right now if we were alone. COME ON!" Someone started laughing, so Jon continued: "What? WHAT? Doesn't my wife look good? I'm allowed to say that about this woman because I saw a baby come out of her body!" And thus commenced a chorus of disgusted EWWWWWWing. And I was all, okay Jon, you can stop. And he was all, "Not just ANY baby! MY BABY! OUT OF HER BODY!" This is obviously proof that one side effect of Prozac is acting like you're drunk when in fact you are not.
15 minutes later I'm sitting on a couch opposite Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb. And we're making small talk in the four minutes leading up to my segment. They're asking me all sorts of questions about my website and where I'm from, and then I think but I can't be sure that Kathie Lee Gifford winks at me. Just out of nowhere. WINK WINK. And I'm so caught off guard that my face changes its expression involuntarily, and she says something like, yeah, that was a wink, it's something we do on television. I go, okay, so you weren't trying to hit on me, just clearing things up. And she says, no, she wasn't hitting on me, but honey (she called me honey), I am totally her type.
I am Kathie Lee Gifford's type. You know what? I am not even going to start decontructing that, and instead I'm going to let you consider what that says about my husband.
And then she said something to me that made the rest of my day one giant confusing puzzle that I have still not been able to put back together. I don't remember her exact words, but she asked me if I get a lot of criticism for writing about my family on the Internet, and when I said yes she said she could totally relate. Because people were all over her back in the day when she talked about her kids on television. She told me she could empathize. For those of you who have not seen the segment I'm going to post it here, and afterward you're going to think to yourself, "HUHHH?"
I don't know what happened to frighten Kathie Lee in the span of four minutes, but my guess is that she had either been instructed to bring up that controversial aspect of mommy-blogging, or maybe she herself thought that she needed to layer the interview with that perspective. Either way, it did not make her a friend of this community from what I've read on other websites and forums.
And here's my take: this is obviously a case of an interviewer not being adequately familiar with the topic at hand (also, probably not a good idea to have someone afraid of computers interviewing someone about their job using computers). And I'm not about to jump into the crowd and start calling Kathie Lee names, she does not deserve that from me. I'm not so much angry at her as I am disappointed that this topic was not given the service it deserves. Blaming Kathie Lee for that would be misguided, and in fact, I don't think there's really any one entity responsible for how this played out other than the beast that is broadcast television. The segment got bumped, things were shuffled around, and maybe because of some miscommunication here and there it wasn't the piece it was supposed to be. Instead of looking at this as a setback I'm thinking that this is a great opportunity for someone out there willing to take a look into the heart of this community. Start the interview with the fact that you are uncomfortable with what we do, and then let us answer you. Unless you are afraid of us, and if that's the case, well, here, let me rub your head, you poor little bunny.
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602. Cantaloupe said:
I wasn't bothered by KLG's commment. She was stating an OPINION, one that many others share. She was respectful, she wasn't hostile. I think some people are just way too sensitive.
How do you say OVER REACTION???
603. E2W Coast Mom said:
Profound. Contructive. Enlightening. Thnx for explaining.
604. rachael said:
I say, good for you for taking the high road and not throwing Kathie Lee under the bus. I felt kind of sorry for her when she admitted she was scared of computers. It was sad, really.
Anyway, just de-lurking to say, you did great with what you had to work with. And I LOVE your blog. Always good for a laugh.
605. Anonymous said:
Dear Feather Flarmstrong,
I just want to say that I'm so impressed with the ease that you answered the questions. I just like to think of you as this casual funny person when in reality you know what you're doing. You have always sounded like a fantastic mom and eff Kathy Lee for not getting it. I mean, one word: sweatshop.
Props for going live with lame people and gracefully retelling your story. Oh, and I now can believe my conspiracy theory relatives when they say "the media" really does tweak everything. I've always discounted their sentiments because they are mormon and think me and my kids will rot. Now you have given me something to nod along with at the dinner table next weekend after the 45 minute prayer. You can never say you didn't change lives.
606. greta said:
ok, first: you look fabulous, and remarkably comfortable on tv. love the dress. and check out those legs! :)
second: maybe it's because i had read the responses to it first and was expecting to be all riled up, but now watching this segment (for the first time) it doesn't seem that bad to me. yes, there could have been more depth... and of course, she could have let you address the issue that she brings up at the end about safety. she certainly could have done it a little more elegantly, but i don't think it's an unreasonable question to ask about blogging in general (or tv personalities, for that matter). it would have just been nice if she had let you answer.
anyway, you did great, and i look forward to further evidence of Dooce's world domination!
607. Heather said:
To join the chorus...
You were fabulous! Loved the dress, agree with those who would have liked to see your shoes. Kathie Lee wasn't too impressive, which says something given my expectations. ;)
You rock-I wish I had your poise!
(another)Heather
608. Cynthia said:
Heather, if it is any comfort, realize that you said far more in the short passages they allowed you than either of them did. The whole piece had the air on their parts of "let's wing it" and given their lack of preparation neither of them had anything significant to ask or to offer. So while both Hoda and Kathy Lee seemed a little rattled and disorganized (and rude), you were charming and prepared. Probably best to stick to longer format interviews!
609. Annie said:
I honestly thought I missed something when I watched the interview the first time...So I watched it twice more, only to realize KLG seemed, well, if nothing else, completely lost.
Poor girl is clueless. And annoying.
The whole time I sat there wondering, "Book? What book? LET'S MENTION THE BOOK." I thought it would be a good platform to show that blogging, mommy-related or otherwise, is real writing.
You handled the whole thing with far more grace than I ever could have...I'd have taken the opportunity to say "WTF?" to KLG just because.
And I loved your take on her hitting on you. Pure awesome.
610. Brenna said:
If anything, I think Kathy Lee should be slightly embarrassed of the interview. It made her look uneducated and fairly small minded. They missed a great opportunity to actually interview you.
611. Jodie said:
Great post. When I first started watching the clip, I thought it was an SNL skit - then I realized, that's seriously how Hoda and Kathie Lee are - oh my gosh.
What a great opportunity for you, though I don't think they understood the point of their interview. You did a great job with the time and questions they gave you...hopefully more people will realize the great potential of blogging.
612. Bipolarlawyercook said:
While we all know Kathie Lee is a Personality, not a Journalist, I too was disappointed. The way you didn't get a chance to talk about the way the community you've helped create has literally saved lives by making people feels less alone-- argh. But if that segment pushes one reader here to learn all the stuff you didn't get to discuss, then it's worth it.
You're more than fair, and admirable all over again. Though I am glad you put in a vagina joke at the top. Otherwise I'd be all, what's with all the serious? : )
Thanks for blogging, you.
613. libby said:
I'm surprised the whole thing went off as well as it did. Allowing the topic to be contextualized by KLG is like having Rush Limbaugh introduce the topic of global warming. You handled it great. It's only the beginning!
lm
614. Stephanie said:
Kathy Lee is self important. It is her own manner in which she constantly displayed her precious children while on morning TV that has tainted the way many feel about mommy blogging.
Nobody wants to hear about kathy lee's children anymore (there are skits still on SNL depicting her obnoxious behavior), she is the poster child for mommy bragging. But as time is changing, I think we are slowly shredding that old poster, and the view people have of women who discuss their children, raising a family, and motherhood.
Thanks Heather!
You could take kathy.
615. hermajestydrl said:
First of all, I have to out myself as a Dooce geek & devotee.Your blog has brought me so much entertainment - your letters to Leta, your raccoon adventure, Chuck & Coco... I am just thankful to have you around! :D
I loved seeing your Nightline segment. You seemed like your delightful self. I tried watching the Today show segment over the weekend but my sister, niece, and mother mostly drowned out the audio. Kathy Lee is ridiculous (what on earth was NBC thinking when they hired her???) and you looked gorgeous. After reading several of the comments I don't think I will be looking up the interview again since I have no desire to hear Kathy Lee's foolishness.
Oh, and I am not a mommy either and I am in my (ugh)late thirties so I agree with everyone else out there about your demographics. Your writing is so appealing due to your talent, you wordsmith...thank you for being your fabulous self!
616. Cristen said:
I'm gonna say the same thing as the previous 605 people, you did a fabulous job and Kathie Lee just looked dumb. Good for you!
617. Alyssa said:
I agree with all you comments about the Today show.....I could feel you counfusion/horror through the television. However, your spot on Nightline was great! I set my alarm to wake back up and watch it. In my half asleep stupor I told me husband I loved you because you had the balls to act like yourself on national television-never stop doing that its great!
618. heather said:
I have to agree with the common consenus..Kathie Lee just made it weird!!! You did great, looked great...but they should have left her the hell out of it!
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619. Amy said:
Wow - it's so funny how you can watch "news" and get absolutely no information at all somehow. It seemed like that interview was SO short and they didn't really let you answer any questions or offer anything! Annoying.
But we know you and love you and know what you do! Even if Kathie Lee Gifford is a nutter.
620. Juls~ said:
What I captured from the Nightline piece was, finally, something worthwhile to checkout on the web and, primarily, the success of a woman via the internet. Love THAT!
~Hip, saavy journalist w/ a terrific sense of humor, quirky personality and independent outlook on life.~
Being a "mommy" is only one facet of womanhood. Sharing the experience of life with others is pure bravery and compassion.
Congratulations! Well done.
621. tai said:
You did so good! I always get this glazed "did she really just say that" look when I talk to crazy people, and the only way I can console myself afterward is to close my eyes and imagine the day when the men in white coats will come to take the nut away. Vindication!
Anyway, good job.
622. Jakki said:
I didnt get to watch it when it aired but I did watch it somewhere else. I was disappointed that it didnt seem to delve into the really important stuff and it did seem rushed. I was a little irritated with Kathie's extreme happiness that you incorrectly thought she lived in New York...
623. angela said:
What the hell was that "gotcha!" and that weirdo look she gave you? I didn't even get it. You showed such restraint...you just must have wanted to slap her face.
Whatever, you are so wonderful and talented. Congrats on all your success! I love you!
624. LisaW said:
This is maybe the third time in my life I've seen the Today show, so I don't know how it usually goes, but what shallow treatment of a topic! Are the two hosts supposed to be dumb and dumber, or was that just the schtick for your interview? But let us be glad, because it is just this kind of fluff that has helped fuel blogs and the network of ideas and community on the Internet.
Also, you did very well, Heather, on network tv, plugging in your points and perspective. Great job.
625. Michelle said:
I watched your segment and with pride shouted to my husband and two cats: OMG! I totally read her blog every single day. Dooce is one of my "I have to hit the internet to see if she updated" sites!"
My cats looked at me like Chuck looks at Coco and my husband patted my arm and said "that's nice, baby".
Heather you rock! I need to go a-hunting for your book on Amazon now!
626. Mimi/pz5wjj said:
I think you did great and looked great.
I think you are a fantastic example and role model out there for all bloggers -- mommy or not!
Thanks for sharing your life with us!
627. The Horror Diet said:
I think anybody who watches KLG knows what they're in for. I agree with previous posters that KLG was chosen to represent the computer-illiterates of America. Welcome to mainstream TV, always 10 years ahead of the stone age.
Heather, I love what you do and how you do it. Though I do wonder who picked out your dress for the KLG show? You have such an awesome figure and that grey tent dress totally hid it.
628. Kelly said:
I come from a different genere of Mommy Blog in that I am a Special Needs Mommy Blogger. But much of what you said really speaks for all of us; Moms are connecting and sharing their experiences raising families via the internet and thus create awareness in new ways and learn to cope together. I loved what you said - great job!
While Kathy Lee clearly didn't "get it", I honestly don't think she speaks to our generation. You are the role model for Mom Bloggers, and just because an "older" Mom like Kathy Lee put you on the defense, I think it clearly reflects on her and not necessarily the rest of the MOms out there. And absolutely, not eveyrone thinks like Kathy Lee.
Great job Heather. You were great!
629. writingbabe said:
A question: Who feels sorry for David Sedaris' family? Bueller? Bueller? Anyone? anyone? I read his essays and laugh. Hard. And sometimes swallow hard, too, because of the lump in my throat.
Which is how I respond to your posts. They're wonderfully crafted, funny, and often touching. And I don't mean fluffy-bunny, soft-focus touching. Your posts resonate in the emotional corners of my life that I suspect the Katie Lees of this world have been bullied into ignoring.
You ARE a writer. A damn good one.
630. karen said:
KL missed the entire reason for interviewing you. She was obviously poorly prepped, and looked really stupid with her "computers are scary" comments. It's not like she needs to BUILD a computer to understand blogging, all she needs to know is how to use one. I am scared that she is scared!
631. Hope to not always be anonymous said:
Sigh, I am sure that this comment will be read by the 600 wonderful ladies and dudes who posted before me. But here goes.
Heather: you always have class, Al Roker's nipples aside. That's what I love about you and why I keep coming back. You handled yourself with grace on the air and should have been able to say your piece--actually the piece of thousands.
But I also have to admit: I AM a little afraid of "you." I mean, all of you/us. I have once or twice posted (under my real name, not this cowardly one) dissent on a mommy blog and been immediately pelted with insults from other commenters, branded a "hater," etc. Here, when I though my comments were thoughtful and just an attempt to start some productive dialog on a topic. (These comments, by the way, never from Heather. From others.) And then the Twitter wars damning the comment begin.
So, I guess that I'm saying that I'm afraid. Afraid to disagree with the popular girls. Afraid to speak up, lest the collective boos too loudly back at me and or tries to pants me in the quad. Afraid to be excommunicated.
I would LOVE LOVE LOVE for the band of smart women who write about their lives and support each other to support more difference in opinion.
Sorry, Heather. This wasn't really about you. You? You don't tell your readers to shut up unless they're profoundly mean. I just have been thinking about it for a long time--about this ethos of "them vs. us" and wanted to get it off my chest.
632. dadshouse said:
Kathie-Lee doesn't get blogging. It's a social networking community thing, and she's a talking head who doesn't listen. I think mom blogs are great. Don't forget the dads! http://dadshouseblog.com is where I talk about dating and parenting as a single dad, including online dating, friends with benefits, hookups, and booty calls. (Dating is decidedly different these days.)
633. Alisa said:
I found this site a while ago when I was searching the internet for some info on enemas--not because I wanted to use one but because I wanted to win a discussion my husband and I were having and I came across the entry about when you first had Leta and giving birth to your mini turd family. You are my favorite person--and I mean that in the most non-stalker way possible! I just feel like your humor is what draws people to you and I think that it is what makes you so likeable as a person--for all of us who like to have little conversations in their head about what they should have said-or wish would have happened.
I think maybe Kathy Lee has early onset Alzheimer's. I would like to say that no person could be that big of a ditz but I am a doctor and I promise that people who have half a brain are actually in the minority.
634. Sarah @ Ordinary Days said:
You know how a while back, everyone was running to the salon and asking for "The Rachel" haircut? Then, more recently, there was "The Posh"? I predict there will be a rush for "The Dooce" now. Your hair looks awesome!
635. Anna said:
I think it is representative of just how out of touch traditional media is with the rest of the world. Kathie Lee talking about Cody with Regis is nothing at all like you writing about being a mom. On the fear factor, well, I don't even want to go there, except to say, some people don't have enough real hardship in their lives so they have to make up fears.
I never watch the Today show, but I check your site every day... these are the realities that those ladies and their producers might consider before they have no job at all.
Thanks for always sharing your life with us... I appreciate it.
636. sara m said:
klg needs to stop beginning every comment with her favorite pronoun - I. she truly sucks. you handled yourself perfectly and klg had no business even being included in the interview. poor hoda is a saint to put up with the vera print dresses and obessive personal references. the whole segment was weird especially the whole mommy blog thing that came before. bad editing and strange fake set-ups of the mommies omg! blogging. you did a great job - you rock.
637. Anonymous said:
I think we all know Kathie Lee is a weird-o... and you were fabulous. Great job.
638. Anonymous said:
How convenient for Kathy that she can throw a jab at you at the end of the segment, and when you go to try and defend yourself, OOPS, time to go.
I'v enever liked her, and I cannot believe that she's back on television.
Let's give a segment to someone who is afraid of computers, and let her talk about something she hasn't got a clue about.
I have to say your NiteLine segment was so much better.
Thank you for being an awesome person. I've found a lot of comfort in your words, and I appreciate everything that you do for your family, and for us internets.
Thank you.
639. Nytro said:
Personally, I have never forgiven the Today Show for bringing Kathy Lee on in the first place. Big mistake. HUGE.
That being said, she clearly was out of her comfort zone and I really didn't take away that she was bashing the bloggers of the world... it rather just showed her ignorance of the topic. And really, Kathy Lee? You really can't work a computer? You know this is a "phenomenon" that's NOT GOING AWAY, right?
You handled it like a pro.
640. Manda said:
Kathy Lee = flaketron 5000.
641. Motherhood Uncensored said:
I'm betting they realized that you have more readers than that hour of the show has viewers and were hoping for a spike in viewership that day.
It probably worked, but perhaps not in the way they had hoped.
Now all I can think about is why she stayed with Frank after he porked that flight attendant in the ass.
642. Petal said:
I don't know why you don't blame the interviewers. It's all very well and good to chastise you for posting pix re your daughter etc, but in all the interviews I've seen you give, no one seems to ask about what good your site does for you and to others. I used to be a journalist and I understand the "child endangerment" angle, but it is getting tired. There's so much more newsworthy stuff going on on "mummy blogs" and I do blame the interviewers for not zeroing on those things.
643. Julie said:
Okay, the whole thing was very weird but you came off very well. Kathy Lee is totally nuts and there is nothing you can do about that. Kudos!
644. jenhaaay said:
Hooray! How fun to see you in action. I've been reading for over 6 years, and to see how far you've come is absolutely thrilling!
645. Johnny said:
Bravo for being able to tolerate Kathy Lee Gifford for a whole 4 minutes! I couldn't do it.
646. Natalie said:
You are being very diplomatic. The segment was such a let down, so shallow, and not because there was a lack of interesting material. You did as well as could be expected considering 2 women with little or no knowledge of the subject were chatting about their issues and fears and ignorance, and you were expected to do what? confirm their fears? Shock them? I don't care what KLG has to say, I was tuning in to hear from you and I am sorry they did not afford you the opportunity to speak.
647. Carmen said:
I am a long time reader of your blog and I don't have any kids, I am not married - I am a single girl living in Las Vegas. But, you are such a great writer and I absolutely love your site, and I think you should just keep on writing - it's awesome. You touch a lot of people.
I write about my struggles with addiction and I get a lot of positive feedback and then I get some really mean and hateful messages from people and it hurts my feelings. I hope to grow a thicker skin and walk in your footsteps. You are truly an inspiration!
648. bohica said:
The whole point of being interviewed by experienced networks and anchors is that they're supposed to have this stuff down before the segment. It didn't appear to me as if they knew much about "your" blog. Yours is so much more than just Leta and mommy-blogging. It appeared as a very generalized statement on blogging, and disappointed me. YOU didn't disappoint! Every time you tried to talk, KLG cut you off. I wanted to reach through the screen and strangle her (sorry, I'm not nearly as kind as you are). I felt that Kota was there to make the whole thing more legitimate.
I do think you're far more kind and honourable than I am. I don't think I could go through what you did and not be wanting to call someone some miserable names, especially given what KLG has done with her own children, and the snowball she threw at you.
649. Margi said:
Wow. They couldn't be more PLASTIC if they tried.
Eh, that whole SAHM stuff has been looked down upon for decades. And the fact that they knew nothing of the subject is only proof to their lack of credibility.
It's not hard news, but I would have expected a little more respectful treatment. Not sure why, but I did.
You sailed through it admirably. Don't let the plastic people get to you.
P.S. I have a little problem with the Central Park analogy. In the "real life" scenario, you can SEE the predator and know that he's a 45 year-old man with ill intent. Online, he's got the nickname "FairySunshine12" and he poses as a 12 year-old girl who wants to be your daughter's BEST FRIEND. It's the lack of ability to actually SEE the predators as who they really are that makes the IntarwebnetAOL a little different.
(NOT criticizing, just sayin'.)
650. What Happens next said:
When I saw this interview, the first thing that came to mind was how embarassing for the Today show that they could not provide someone with even the slightest clue. Kathie Lee is the queen of the fluff piece, so it is not surprising, mind you, but embarassing for them nonetheless. Afraid of computers? Whaa??
You handled it brilliantly, however. It just would have been nice if you could have finished a thought.
651. Vanessa said:
You should have screamed redo at the end of the interview. I feel like the whole segment and topic of blogging or mothers blogging needs to be done all over again. You and all of the other bloggers I thought did a fantastic job but the way it was put together and how the interview went fell so flat.
REEDOOO!!!
652. deanna said:
You should have addressed KLG as Kelly and then said
"oh sorry, this tv stuff is so scary..I know nothing about it!"
653. Gabriella said:
Heather, you were awesome. I think you were eloquent and poised; what you're doing is very important and incredibly helpful. Kathie Lee needed to do her homework. Congrats to you on another job well done!
654. Laura June said:
Heather you actually, legitimitely win both the internets AND life.
Like, for reals.
655. Lauren said:
Oh em gee. Do they think they're presenting America's next top model or something? Are all american hosts like that? I thought hosts on topics and issues of the world were meant to hold an ounce of intelligence but obviously not!
You held yourself together very well, and I could tell by your expressions you were wanting to stab her in the eye with a fork. A rusty fork. You rock.
Besides that, you do have a wide variety of readers and audiences.
I'm a 21 year old british woman and you crack me up. Seriously. I hope when I eventually have children and grow up (although the growing up part is never likely to happen) I hope i'm half as awesome as what you are.
Hey, did I just taste shit on my tongue? I'm not usually an arse licker..haha. x
656. Pavakgirl said:
I watched the interview, and I thought Kathie Lee was rather condescending toward you. Was she trying to make you feel bad about blogging? Whatever. You've been doing this long enough and gotten many many emails regarding what you do, both positive and negative. Who does she think she is anyway? Didn't she JUST come back to TV? Why did she have to act so "holier than thou"? Also, it was much too short of an interview to really get opinions out there.
My friend bought your book and I am waiting for him to finish so I can read it. (yes, I'm cheap..I don't buy DVD's either)
657. JLJ said:
You know, that interview amused/annoyed me so much at the end that I e-mailed you about it, harping on the word 'reviled.'
After I did, I admitted to myself that 1) I don't really hate Kathie Lee 2) but that she often comes across very, very badly. I was very interested in the whole feature, women, the Internet, business, what the future might hold ... but that feature just didn't happen.
I think you're amazing for handling that interview with so much aplomb. I would have liked a more in-depth, smart interview about women and the Internet, which, with you in the chair, should have been terrific, but let's face it ... they don't ask the hard questions anymore. Alas, the Walter Cronkite news days are behind us now.
That said, a part of me still strongly believes that Kathie Lee is not as unprepared as she would have us believe. A big part of me thought, "She is afraid. She is afraid because her public take on motherhood is all moonbeams and sunshine. And to hear someone say that the truth, which is is that motherhood is wonderful AND terribly, terribly hard frightens the living bejesus out of her."
Well, that and I stand by what I said in my e-mail ... Kathie Lee thinks you're hot. She wants your bod. Your hotness distracted her. She just could not help it.
Ending with a wink. They do that off television, too. ;)
658. Rebecca said:
I watched the interview after reading your blog and after following the links on yesterday's blog wherein other bloggers bashed Kathi Lee... so I watched expecting to totally hate Kathi Lee. I was surprised that I didn't hate her. In fact I don't understand what has everyone up in arms. It was a great interview. I think it ended rather abruptly but that is television. It happens. I agree with the sentiment that should be a more thorough look into blogging and the community and the new avenue of income that has opened up for stay at home parents who write blogs... but all in all, I think Kathi Lee is getting castrated for nothing. She was the right person to do the interview after what she went through with her kids… I mean come on! No one knows what it’s like to be called an opportunist more than Kathi lee Gifford. I hope “the community†lays off this woman. She was just doing her job. I would like to insert here that I am NOT a Kathi Lee Fan; in fact her face and her voice nauseates me. I just think that in this case she is being thrashed for no reason.
659. Tracye said:
Kathy Lee comes off so wrong on television. I say this because I know how she is in real life. She is the kindest person you could ever meet. I do think you are correct however, interviewers should be well informed about the person they are interviewing. Someone in her position is getting paid far too much money to not know what's up. By not doing research she is doing you and the viewer a disservice I mean, why am I watching? To see her face? Yours? No. I want information! Anyway, congrats on your success. I love your site.
660. lkoivu said:
I've been reading your blog for a long time, and I definitely don't read it for the "mommy" content, the Chuck content, Coco, Jon, Leta, or anything else. I read your blog because you're a real person, providing wise and humorous insights into life.
I think it's true that old media is just scared of new media in this case - I mean, come on - your blog and others have been around for years and you're just now getting a spot on the Today Show? They're just now asking: What is this? You mean there's more stuff than scary internet chat rooms on the internet?
KLG seemed fairly harmless to me, but I think she was just jealous that she didn't have a blog going back in the days when she used to talk about Cody nonstop!
661. Tricia said:
I'm so glad you came away with this perspective, and this newly developed challenge. When I saw the interview, I kept scratching my head and asking how did that just happen.
662. Molly said:
Dooce,
I am a fifty-one year old Mother who bought my (now twenty-one year old) Daughter her first computer when she was twelve years old. She is the one who told me about your blog.
Jenna (my spawn), and I, live in a community with a population count of about four hundred Rebel-Flag-flying Loggers. The kind of town where Obama should be scared, very scared of visiting unless he is equipped with an army of Secret Service Men and a heavily armored tank.
I was born and raised in Seattle and spent my years (1970-80's) there building computer networks. When Jenna was born we moved to this wonderful place and forsook the "small-mindedness" for the beauty and small town education for our daughter. After the divorce we moved back up to Seattle but Jenna wanted to return here. She started her blog at twelve years of age and we have endured ridicule, lectures, "your Daughter needs counseling" talks to Parents telling me that I am destroying my Daughters "social life" by letting her stay at home and be on line as apposed to going up the river and drinking beer, snorting meth and driving 80 miles per hour in a Rebel-Flag-flying pick-up truck on a VERY RURAL, VERY WINDING, VERY POTHOLED HIGHWAY!
Sorry for this lengthy response but I just wanted to tell you that your blog is awesome. I have journals of Jenna's growing up written in long hand and if she would have "shared" and not hogged the computer back then, I know that I would have had a "Mommy Blog" and that it would have been WAY BEFORE YOU! Alas, I am always a dollar short and a day late but I am so happy that you do what you do. My Daughter and I look forward to your posts everyday and please just know that we understand about being one of the "firsts".
When the finger wagging, lecturing, hand-wringing neophytes start hyperventilating, the one thing you can take to heart is the fact that your are....SUCCEEDING!
Molly
663. eatmypress said:
that was really well written, heather.
664. James | Double Danger said:
Ripa would have done a better interview... if that makes sense.
GO RUN A SWEAT SHOP! Wait... ok, enough.
Your cool Heather, too cool for school.
665. Anonymous said:
Okay, so I admit I didn't read all the way through the comments, and somebody could have mentioned this already. But am I one of the few who is thinking that Kathy Lee's comments -- and the timing of them -- were a tad strategic on her/the network's part? Like you said, Heather, obviously there was a preestablished slant to the interview. Obviously they wanted some controversy. TV just plain doesn't work if there's no controversy, and Kathy Lee (et al) knows that. Obviously, she knew she was going to say something. But did she have to say it WHEN she said it??
Kathy Lee HAD to know that the segment was wrapping up. She HAD to know that you would have had no time to respond adequately. She's been doing this since dinosaurs walked the Earth, so there's absolutely no excuse for her choosing that particular moment in the segment to say THAT.
Crikes. No wonder people like Kathy Lee are finding that no one is paying attention to them anymore. At least on the oh-so-scary Internet people have time to defend senseless jabs poked at their character. And you, Heather. Well, you handled it with WAY more dignity than I ever would have.
666. Emily said:
Um....isn't she the one that whored out her kids on LIVE TV!?!?!
Who is she to talk?
You handled it well. I would have smacked her. Not only for the interview process, but because she's Kathie Lee. That's reason enough.
Emily
http://www.twodogsrunningsouth.blogspot.com/
667. Daisy Sharrock said:
I never thought I'd be interested listening to Kathie Lee, and after seeing this interview I've confirmed that opinion.
Not that I'm judging her, I just revile her.
668. CATTITUDE said:
I've never thought of your blog as a "mommy" blog; I think of it as an entertaining true to life diary that I enjoy, encompassing many aspects of life, not just motherhood.
Kathie Lee was showing her ignorance, too bad you didn't get more of a chance to respond.
669. Kiersten said:
Heather,
I just recently found your blog and I'm hooked. Thanks for being so hilariously honest.
Kiersten
670. A Seattleite in Paris said:
Heather - you did a great job, but Kathy Lee was "odd"...
671. aaryn b. said:
I admit to being one of the name-callers, but I've also had a long-standing loathing of KLG, so my blogging outburst was not based solely on this interview.
I have to respectfully disagree with you, though, about not attributing any fault to KLG. Sure, there is the mainstream media monster at work here but she is a cog. For too long, we've let our newscasters and "journalists" and media personalities slide in their responsibility to the public. Not that KLG has any responsibility to the public, per se. She's an entertainer; she certainly isn't a journalist.
However, I have a hard time believing that a little bit of honesty would cause her to lose her new job. KLG could have chosen to be genuine and instead of tsk-tsking mommy bloggers via you, she could have said exactly what you spoke of in the minutes before your interview went live. She could have mentioned that she empathized with you, conducted a better interview and perhaps gained some empathy for herself in the process. Instead, she bowed to whatever forces were at play, acted as the bobbing head reading the teleprompter, and highlighted once again, her own hypocrisies.
You, on the other hand, were darling, well-spoken, thoughtful and composed under pressure. Maybe she was afraid you were gunning for her job...
672. gorky said:
Well, if you won't say it, we'll say it for you:
Kathie Lee is - and has been - a vacuous old hag. Why let her talk about anything that may have occured in the last 20 years? She still lives in the 70s.
673. Barb said:
It always amazes me how frightened newspaper and television people are of blogging.
There are so many put-downs, based in ignorance. My favourite is when a newspaper columnist dismissed all bloggers because we don't have editors, with no understanding that, among the many other roles they fill, our readers and commentors act as our editors, challenging us to get better and better.
You did a great job in very trying circumstances.
And the dress looked fab!
674. Molly said:
A great response to Kathie Lee's ridiculous-ness. I've been waiting for days to see what you'd say, and you did not disappoint. I loved every word. Thank you for representing mommy bloggers so well.
675. Looking Glass Jewels said:
Ya know, I've always thought Kathie Lee was off her rocker... the wacky way she handled your interview is not unlike weird things I've seen her do before. She has a talent for shifting focus to ALL KATHE LEE, ALL THE TIME, rather than her interviewee. I bet she was a GREAT cheerleader in highschool.
MOVING RIGHT ALONG, I thought you were wonderful - well spoken, natural, and TOTALLY HOT. Them's some sexy legs, woman. Raur.
676. mrstill said:
all hail the goddess of blogging. you were awesome and KLG can suck it.
677. Meg said:
Love the hair.
And the shirt!
678. Flux said:
That segment was exactly what I envisioned a segment on blogging, presented by a program such as GMA, to be. If anything, it was more savvy; I was expecting one of the hosts to stumble over the word "blog" and then mutter something about how it's apparently got to do with computers and the internet, while sounding as though they actually suspect you of running a porn site.
The most disappointing thing is how superficial and vacuous it was. No indication given of why Dooce is popular, who really reads it, or anything of the interesting background; Heather initially coming to fame after being Dooce'd, the blog going from funny LA celeb blogging to family stuff in Utah, etc. But again, that's exactly what one expects of a puff piece on GMA, so at least the makeup and lighting looked good.
679. thinky said:
Heather you did amazing!!
I've never been a fan of KLG and her incessant squalking about Cody and Cassidy (O M L.Ron, how did I remember those names?!). Perhaps, as you said, she is dealing with her own issues and what SHE did to her kids by exploiting them on TV.
Anyways, as always you rocked it!
I'm sad you didn't get to chat with Matt :(
P.S. I never knew you REALLY had an accent. You mention it but I always thought you were joking. LOVE IT!
680. anni said:
why is kathie lee still on TV? i don't get it, i just don't get it. everybody is right she should not have done the interview if she doesn't know how to turn on a computer. heather you were great, you should have offered to send her some missionaries as a parting gift.
681. Anonymous said:
I came across your blog page last year when my friend was a blogger-she has not renewed her page since she moved. anyway-I love reading your blogs. I think you are awesome! You are very brave to put yourself out there & you do it very well. I saw your Today show segment as well as your ABC tonight segment & thought they were both great. Keep doing what you do & be PROUD to do what you do.
682. Stephanie said:
I just happened upon your website today, and want to complement you on being so open and honest. Everyone needs a place to vent (good or bad) and this so happens to be yours. Not to mention, this medium produces well needed assurance and information for others to read about.
Secondly I would like to agree with everyone about how well you handled the interview, and how poorly the network handled the situation. Bravo. You can bet I will be visiting this site more often.
Thanks!
683. Bitter Betty said:
Just another example of irresponsible journalism.
This is why I can only stomach reality TV now. And that's saying something.
684. Have the T-Shirt said:
I thought you did a fabulous job and KLG? Well, she just acted like a pushy New Yorker, even though I'm sure she'd say, "I am NOT a New Yorker, gotcha!"
685. Fighting Windmills said:
Heather, your dress was so pretty. You looked gorgeous during this segment. I was glad that you kept your composure and didn't get defensive. Reading your perspective on what happened and what could have/should have happened is so helpful.
686. Mel said:
I was sorely disappointed with the way they handled the whole interview. It could have been such an amazing segment (hello, they had Dooce!) and they really blew it. I'm guessing they got the hate mail for once because I know I speak for a number of fans when I say that I truly wanted to punch Kathy Lee in the face....and I would have if her idiotic comments hadn't struck me dead. Seriously.
687. M.R. said:
Hi Heather. I don't consider you to be a mommy blogger...or maybe you're not *exclusively* a mommy blogger. Even though I'm not a parent yet, I still enjoy hearing about motherhood and its joys and challenges.
Also, KLG's cosmetic surgery makes her look a bit more like Joan Rivers everytime I see her.
688. Dana said:
You should have mentioned that teenage girls read your blog too! I'm 19 and I've been reading it for about 3 years, haha. I think you did a lovely job on the show. You understand the fact that there are different perspectives on what you do and you seem to know how to handle conflicting viewpoints well. Kathy Lee and many others just don't understand the sense of community present in "mommy blogging", they only see the aspect of the "evil internet". Just so you know, I wouldn't even want children in the (far) future if it weren't for your blog. You are so honest and wonderful in your writing that I really connect with you on so many levels even though I'm not a mom (I guess it also helps that we live in the same city). I don't think Leta will hate you for writing about her. Like you said in an earlier post you are writing love letters to her on a monthly basis, who would hate that? I think what you do is great and keep it up because your blog is my favorite website!
-Dana
689. caramama said:
First, you were awesome on that segment. Not only did you look great, but you came across really well. Just lovely!
I'm so glad you said this "I am disappointed that this topic was not given the service it deserves" because that is exactly what I thought of the whole thing, too. Hopefully, things will get better. I thought the interview with Chris Vanocur was pretty good at least.
690. Gina said:
My very first reaction was that KLG talked about her kid every single day back when she was on Live w/ Regis. Every person in the world knew the name Cody. For her to admit that to you pre-interview, but then make it sound like your blog exploits Leta was ridiculous.
691. teetotaled said:
I watched your segment on the Today Show and I was waiting for you to write your thoughts on it!
It is so unfortunate that the show A) Choose someone who doesn't know what a blog is to interview you and B) That they choose to barely let you speak.
As soon as Kathy Lee started her speech about - I don't know what a blog is, how do you use one of those computer contraptions, I knew you were in for it. You handled yourself beautifully though and everyone who reads this blog (or any blog for that matter) knew that Kathy Lee didn't know a hoot about what she was supposed to be interviewing you about. Next time demand Matt Lauer! :-)
I am resisting the urge to email Kathy Lee to ask if she carries pictures of her family in her wallet because that behavior makes me nervous LOL
692. Random And Odd said:
KLG is clearly misinformed. I mean, hello...she didn't even mention the exploitation of Chuck. What about HIS safety? What about HIS resentment? lol.
693. Kelli said:
As I turned my head to address the 300th utterance of "can I have grrrrnola baaaaaar?" from my young son, I saw you on the TV screen! (you looked FAB, by the way!). Not that I expected anything less, but I am jus' sayin', you looked really nice. ANYWAY, I was so excited to hear what you had to say to these Today Show (Toady Show) folks. I had not yet read your entry alerting us to your appearance on the Toady Show, and it was such a pleasant surprise! You were GREAT! But OH MY GOD the train wreck that ensued after Kathy Lee opened her mouth! At the end of the interview, I yelled "WTF happened there?" and I scrambled to leave you a comment (Comments were closed - DAMN!). Ever since becoming a SAHMF'er (the MF'er part I learned from you, waaay back when) I have watched more than my fair share of the Toady Show, and let me tell you, it has basically turned into a very pretty, yet putrefied television swap meet. They get the products (or interviewees) set up all perfect and nice ... then the gun shot ... aaand they are off!
HOST: "Today, on Today we are talking about things that are good for you but can also be bad for you at the same time, and we have Todd here with us to tell us about them."
--professional looking Todd waves politely to the camera
"So Todd tell us about this report I read that states that a person can actually DIE from eating too much fiber..."
TODD: "Well, that report came out 3 years ago and.."
HOST: "So you are saying that people who ate fiber 3 years ago could be dead or dying right now, as we speak? Really? (info-graphic at the bottom of the screen changes from “Fiber? Saint or Satan?†to read “You could be dying right now and not even know itâ€). So who should those people contact if they find themselves, or even worse, if they find that their loved ones are dead or dying?"
--Todd, stammering, looking confused, and wide eyed, looks at the neat little table of fiber containing foods and struggles to block the memory of the host groping him backstage, and tries to regain his thoughts...
TODD: "Well, as i was saying, the data show that the consumption of fiber does not necessarily lead to death, but..."
HOST: "So you are saying that if you buy organic fruits and vegetables, that is better for you? What if you drink fiber supplement drinks out of containers made of Number 5 plastic, instead of the Number 7 plastic, then are you going to live longer?" (insert a spazzed out graphic and 5 second film clip of people exercising to Weird All Yankovic's "Eat It".
HOST: “WOW! Fascinating! Thank you for clearing this confusing topic up for us Todd! And on to a more somber note, in the next segment Kathy Lee and Hoda will be will be discussing Quantum Theory Mechanics with Stephen Hawking...".
I wish you would have gotten to say more about what you do, and the positive effects your blogging has had on so many people. But positive, and coherent thinking have no good place on Morning news Reports, now do they? Oh well, at least you got to see the Green Room.
694. Two Pretzels said:
I'm wrinkling my nose at Kathie Lee right now. How disappointing she was.
You? On the other hand? Fantastic. Way to carry yourself when you were surrounded by ignoramuses.
695. BabyU said:
You handled a poorly conducted interview with grace, thank you for writing this blog entry and explaining your expectations of the interview. It helps put the 3 minutes that aired into perspective.
696. Richie Ann said:
I left you a comment on my own page since this one will be lost in the crowd, but congratulations to you! What a great experience and just wait until you're sitting around with your grandchildren telling them what a dumbass Kathie Lee was. They are going to think you are so cool!
697. Danielle said:
First of all, I thought you handled yourself very well. Being on one of these shows is truly an out of body experience. I was actually on the Today Show myself a few weeks ago (after flying out there once only to have it canceled, then coming out again and having the segment bumped a few days back-- so actually your segment moving to just later the same day was kind of lucky! They're always moving things around on these shows-- don't take it personally! It just happens.)
Matt Lauer interviewed me, and while I didn't get in what I hoped I would, it always feels a lot worse right after you're done. Give yourself a few days to unwind and stop replaying it over and over in your head, inserting all the things you "could" have said. You honestly sounded really good, despite the curveballs. And being on a show like that helps, even if it doesn't go the way you planned it out in your head the night before...
698. Anne Lindenfeld said:
Hah! This Kathy Lee double take (plus the confusing wink) would be great in the movie.
699. Christina said:
Well, where to start? I guess I should start by saying that I find your website and your blogs intelligent, witty, and honest.
I recently quit my job as a behavior therapist for children with Autism (loved the job, got sick of the politics) since I am 3/4 of the way through an MBA program. I just needed a change; unfortunately I have yet to figure out what to do with myself. Several months ago, my boyfriend (Mr. Tech Guru), started telling me that I should start a blog. I started taking him more seriously since I have had more time on my hands and have been trying to get back into the writing thing. I have been researching etc these days. Anyway, when I heard about the "mommy bloggers" segment that was to run on the Today show I got excited. I was really disappointed with the segment, however, since it was so short. I also did not feel that it communicated the impact bloggers seem to have on their readers. Nor did it sufficiently relay the personal satisfaction and success bloggers such as you may have.
I just wanted to tell you that I started visiting your site after the segment. I find you an inspiration in my pursuit to have my own website, as well as to find something "out there" that I am passionate about sharing.
Thanks and Kuddos to your Success!
700. Kristin (aka Krisco) said:
Hi Heather and Jon,
I am one of those people who found Kathi Lee so hypocritical with her "I'm uncomfortable with that" comments that I actually had to write about it too. Glad I'm not alone.
She made me uncomfortable back in the day with how much she chatted about her kids. I would literally turn the channel.
Maybe she's the one who got the whole "we don't want to hear about your kids" thing going to begin with, because the way she talked about her kids, I did not want to hear about them. Those were comments that were, indeed, only interesting to her. No self-awareness, no irony, no humor, no general reflection on the human condition. (As you, Mir, Amy, and Alice, and others, when you discuss your kids, have.)
But you're good to forgive her. Of course, meeting someone in person helps with that.
701. Mrs. L. Bangs said:
Seriously, you thought that was worth worrying about???
KLG - looked so bad and stupid that you came off looking like a SAINT!
702. Michele said:
Bottom line:
Kathy Lee Gifford should not have have done the interview and the producer of the show messed up.
703. Susan said:
What a wonderful experience you and Jon must have had! Except for the KLG part, but I knew you would handle yourself appropriately, as any southern lady would. But given the circumstances, my "jorjabelle" accent would have kicked in (born and bred in Ohio, moved to SC in the HS years and that accent is just so convenient when you want your way).
I read both your blogs every day and really didn't know anything about "mommy blogging." Totally missed that one. I just thought you folks (women and men) were blogging because you enjoy it. Your site led me to some others, but none that I keep going to every day.
And is KLG really that weird looking in person? And is Hoda that pretty in person? And did KLG forget that she just had her daughter on the show a few weeks ago?
Trust me, Leta won't mind, especially if you buy her a really cool car, Jon. I do wish the best for all of you.
Give Chuck a big hug. Coco still needs a leash. She's the wild one in the family. I have some mighty fine catnip that may work.
704. Mary in NC said:
Ohhhhh that made me laugh. No one in the history of the world has exposed their children to the public more than Kathy Lee Gifford. I know their names-- Cody and Cassidy-- and would recognize them on the street-- and I don't even watch her!
But it's oh so much scarier because you're doing it on a computer and Kathy Lee Gifford doesn't understand computers.
Because television is so much more honest and primitive. Guess what, Kathy Lee Gifford, you can't be on television without COMPUTERS. They both have a screen and show pictures of you and your children. We can go on our scary computers and look up pictures of your children too and read lots of stuff other people have written about you and your children. But you wouldn't understand that... it's so... complicated...
Ah ha ha ha
Whot a maroon.
705. Lisa said:
I worry myself sometimes seeing your daughter everyday but that doesn't make me any less fascinated or appreciative of the stories and your sharing them. I do worry for your safety and the safety of your family when you go out because let's face it, nutzos are in Utah just like they are in NYC. But I love reading your blog, you give some spice to my work day and you seem to love your daughter very much and wouldn't want anything bad to happen to her. I think you should have your own show, forget Kathy Lee.
706. Sarah said:
Ok. I saw the segment and at first was like, "Whoa! Yeah, that was a bit short and...um...weird. Boo Evil TV!"
But then, after thinking about it for a few seconds (and reading through a lot of the "OH THE HORROR" comments), I thought, "Wow. You know what? It was a fluffy segment about *blogging*. That's all it was meant to be." So, what's the big deal?
Blogging, people. I love reading here as much as the next guy, but please. No one discoved a cure for cancer, no one found a way to rescue all the earthquake victims in China, it didn't seem that anyone was bodily harmed during the interview...what was the expectation for the segment?
Journaling is important and entertaining and a great record of the past...but...uh...the anger and outrage? Really?
707. Laura said:
You did look amazing on the Today Show, and it was such a shame they didn't spend more time talking about what you do!
I've prescribed you to many of my Mommy friends, and believe me, what you do is more important than the Today producers gave you credit for. You've helped a friend of mine stay on her anti-depressants, which believe me, she needs. You've also made me and many a SAHM's day. Absolutely priceless!
Thanks for sharing so much, even too much at times. It's great to know we're not alone in all this.
708. Kristen from MA said:
I haven't had time to read all of the comments, but I'd like to add my 2 cents.
I'm not a mom, and never will be. No interest in kids at all (and I'm 42). I read your blog because you are a great, great, writer. And f#cking hilarious to boot! Beyond those reasons, I too suffer from depression (for more than half of my life), and you've written some amazing pieces about the struggle for inner peace. And then there's the remarkable photography. And Chuck. And Coco, too. (Not to mention that hot husband of yours.)
As far as your daughter resenting you, if it happens, it won't last long. Some (ok, many) of your monthly newsletters leave me in tears, they are so beautiful. (And this from someone who doesn't like kids!) I expect that they will melt her heart.
Screw the haters, Heather. Keep doing what you do best.
p.s. You looked great in the piece. Could your freaking legs be any longer? Sheesh!
709. larkspur said:
"Won't your daughter resent you...?"
Oh, yeah, really, because until blogs, no teenager ever resented her mom for anything ever.
Teenagers are all about the resentment (although not only about the resentment); it's kind of their job. They have to get ready to leave the family. They have to figure out who they are, and who they are not. It's just the deal. So if you do what you do with integrity and compassion (which I think you do), it'll sort itself out.
Plus, Heather, you turned out okay, and I remember that one photo of you, grimly furious, with your long hair draped over one shoulder, your pink frosted lipstick, standing next to your mom, who's beaming. She didn't blog, did she?
And all this hubbub has kept us from another important question: what about Chuck? How does he feel about getting photographed with stuff on his head? How does he feel about having no legal standing for a lawsuit? Has he found a publisher yet for his angst-ridden poems?
710. kjc said:
Got to say... not a mommy (to humans) and never will be. I don't consider your blog a mommy-blog. It is a well written, articulate, funny piece of literature. Thats right I said L-I-T-E-R-A-T-U-R-E.
You are a fantastic essayist and the only difference between you and some others is that you publish everyday.
Keep up the wonderful writing, down with the haters! We love DOOCE!
711. stephanie said:
KLG doesn't seem too scared to post her thoughts here:
http://allday.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2008/05/12/1017486.aspx
I was hoping to find Al's take on his nipples, and their sudden popularity.
712. DRS said:
I'm one of those "older" guys who reads your blog occasionally. I think you've done a great job and congratulate you on your success. (I wonder how the hell Kathy Lee got back on TV anyway.) What a waste of an opportunity on the network's part. Oh well, their time is coming as their relevancy continues to shrink in this rapidly expanding world of information.
713. Rita Arens said:
I'm so impressed with your dignity (yes, I said dignity!) when you respond to public criticism. We could all take a page from that book, that book where we assume people meant us no great harm but were misguided. I know I'd sleep better.
714. ann said:
After reading your post I was afraid to watch the clip, but you should be proud. It's obvious to me your interviewers knew very little about the topic - not necessarily their fault - but you handled it honestly and graciously.
715. AustinAmy said:
I hated that interview. I wanted it to be so great and I was so excited to see you on TV. Kathy Lee was everything that was not classy, kind and professional.
716. White Hot Magik said:
I was annoyed by the way Hoda did air quotes when she said mommy blogger. Interesting all the different takes on what was said by KLG too. For some reason I surmised she was taking exception to you putting your kids out there, when she did that. (Perhaps she regrets it, who knows.) In any case congrats on being the representative out there, that is awesome.
717. Missy said:
Heather --
Fabulous dress, great hair -- I agree with Jon, totally lickable. KLG was astoundingly clueless, and what was with all the "I would CALL my friend on the phone" bit. What is this? 1975? Wow, KLG is getting OLD.
But here's the good news about KLG -- she probably doesn't realize she's getting slammed in the blogosphere, what with creating that "outdoor room" and all...
Sorry you didn't have a better host, Heather, but I'll bet you get another crack at it, hopefully with someone who can turn a computer on. Can you imagine the awesomeness of Heather and Oprah, talking about mental illness and social inequity? Because I can. With Jon and Jake Gyllenhall showing off their Brazilian waxes during the commercial breaks.
718. Missy said:
Heather --
Fabulous dress, great hair -- I agree with Jon, totally lickable. KLG was astoundingly clueless, and what was with all the "I would CALL my friend on the phone" bit. What is this? 1975? Wow, KLG is getting OLD.
But here's the good news about KLG -- she probably doesn't realize she's getting slammed in the blogosphere, what with creating that "outdoor room" and all...
Sorry you didn't have a better host, Heather, but I'll bet you get another crack at it, hopefully with someone who can turn a computer on. Can you imagine the awesomeness of Heather and Oprah, talking about mental illness and social inequity? Because I can. With Jon and Jake Gyllenhaal showing off their Brazilian waxes during the commercial breaks.
719. Blythe said:
Listen, it it's any comfort, I had never heard of your blog but only visited today because of another blog that talked about how great your blog was in a post about how great your appearance was on Today about your blog. (Say that ten times fast.) Anyway, indirectly, your appearance on that show is the reason why you now have another reader. So it wasn't a complete loss.
720. jess said:
Yeah the interview was a bit weird. I thought it was interesting how she managed to take what little time you had and make it ALL ABOUT HER. Umm... and how do you not know how to use a computer? It's unfortunate because it's such a popular thing these days (blogging) and it could have been a really great piece. Ditch Kathy and do it again me says.
721. Terri Sinclair said:
I thought the morning segment was okay, but 'disappointing' (won't blame it on Kathy Lee but seriously, they both seemed unprepared and appeared to not have a clue to what was going on in the blogging world - which 5 years ago would have been acceptable but now, in 2008, not acceptable. And, I look at it this way, if 'I' know what blogging is - at my old, creepy age - certainly 'they' should know more about blogging, I mean, seriously!) but the NIGHTLINE segment was GREAT! It's what the morning segment should have been...being in the morning and all..seeing that most "moms" are likely watching in the morning and not able to sit up until 11:30PM and watch Nightline.
The Nightline segment was perfect. You were great. Jon was great. Leta, great. It was natural and 'real'. I was on the Ellen Show about a year and a half ago and "her" people were great although the segment was terrible (at least I thought). My husband was taking photos of photos in the green room since we couldn't take photos of real-live people. Talk about embarrassing. Photos. Of photos. You know, those photos on the wall. Yep. I have photos of photos. Advice: If you are going to be on TV don't arm your husband with a camera. Or, a mouth. :-)
722. april said:
heather, i think you should have unleashed your sarcasm on KLG right there. it just would have been so funny. you can tell she's not the brightest penny in the fountain.
723. Krista said:
it totally looked like Kathie Lee was a little afraid of you. It made me laugh. But honestly, I think this post was great. It was very mature of you to talk of the hostesses this way. I felt uncomfortable for you when I watched it. It was awkward for them-honestly, I've seen them do other interviews and they just aren't good at it. No offense to them, but they just aren't good at their job when it's something they aren't even a tiny bit familiar with. Kind of like when George Bush mentioned he goes on "The Internets" and "Uses the Google."
(Uses the Google. Possibly a good title for next month's header...? Just a thought.)
724. You are Delusional. At best. said:
OMG. Are you completely forgetting the fact that you, YOU, even got to be on T.V. for what you "Do. For. A Living.?"
Puh. Leese.
Pronounce in two syllables, like CRAY-ON.
725. Katrisha said:
i have had so many high hopes that the realness of your great blog would come across in all of this recent media coverage, but it seems to have not worked out that way. at least the nightline piece let your words speak for you-even if they did seem to edit them oddly. oh well, at least you'll get more page traffic and make more money exploiting your family. lol. and you really do rock. thanks.
726. Shelly said:
It's amazing how they didn't put together that you were a "mommy blogger" before you were a "mommy". Of course, that would involve math and ew, who wants to be all smart and stuff when you can just be pretty.
You handled yourself really well, Heather!
727. Valerie said:
She's a cooch. You did grand with your answers; she went in there aiming for a total takedown and you held yourself up well. I always dream of going to the Today Show, but standing outside by that Einstein-looking guy and not being interviewed. You're braver than I....I'd poop myself sitting there with those ladies.
728. R Dakin said:
Heather you are "REVILED", and don't forget it! Kathy Lee has always freaked me out a little the way she unhinges her jaw when she laughs.
Oh and next time you feel the need to blog about Al Roker's nipples, give me a moment to locate and install my mental image filter. Yeesh.
729. Tiffany Cadenhead said:
I love you, Heather, and have been following this site for a couple of years. I'm bummed you were not permitted more time on the Today Show because you really are a revolutionary in this blog-driven society.
But, still, I HATE Kathy Lee Gifford. Fire her already, NBC!
730. Laurie said:
It was SO exciting reading both of your blogs and receiving all of your Twitters during your Utah interviews, and your trip to New York! Thank you for allowing your fans to be so close to the experience. It was fun to feel like we were there with you to support you!
Love you, Heather and Jon! Congratulations on all of the recent exposure.
PS You looked rockin', Heather! Hot mama.
731. Abbie said:
I read you from google reader, I thought you didn't accept comments. Guess i was wrong.
Great post.
732. Nathania said:
I don't follow the "mommy blogger" niche per se, so as an outsider, I don't see how the interview was a setback at all.
I thought you did great and I think it's ok for Kathie Lee to have reservations.
It's a big giant world and we're all ok to play here, people.
733. Marilyn said:
Kathy Lee has not been in touch with reality since the 80's. You said it best when you said she was uninformed...and I am sorry , but in this day and age to say you are afraid of computers....it's not "cute"! It's ignorant...welcome to the year 2008......!! Age has nothing to do with it because I am 58...get with it Kathy! Blogs are a great way to communicate, share, and receive non professional therapy. I love the young mother's stories...I remember when I was there! Being at home with little ones can be very isolating...hearing and supporting one another is wonderful!
734. Stephanie said:
Well, I saw the segment. In fact, my DH taped it for me (I was sleeping). I also love to blog. Not sure if I'd be a Mommy Blogger - don't care if I am. Actually, I'd like to refer to myself as a Life Blogger and not a very good one at that (blogging, not life)! :)
Anyway, I had to check out your blog. I'm enjoying it - Thanks! I'm sure I'll be shocked by something or even furious as I delve a little deeper; but that's ok. I can understand other points of view, even if they ARE wrong, and I don't get intimidated easily.
I just had to point out from this post.....
Can you REALLY cut your foot on a Polly Pocket shoe?! :) Have you seen how soft their clothes are?! LOL!
BTW, I'm just teasing - not being overcritical! :)
735. WJPadilla said:
I didn't think that was so bad. You came of as intelligent and poised and confident, and she came of as the silly twit we all know her to be.
No biggie.
Those of us who know what it's about, know what it's about. No need to convince us of the value of what you do.
736. katelin said:
i saw the interview yesterday and thought kathy lee was a little off. i think you pretty much summed it up in that she wasn't too familiar with what you do. but all in all i still think you did a great job with what you had to work with :)
737. Ava said:
Kathy Lee is a Winker. Always has been. I thought you all did great. I didn't know KL was back on TV. Truth be told, I felt a little drunk watching it. It was a little like a wacky sketch from SNL. But you can be proud of yourself. You were impressive.
738. Terri Sinclair said:
Oh, and I was surprised no one mentioned the book! I bought it, read it and loved it. My dad died a couple of years ago, he was only 67, and I miss him terribly. If he were here I would definitely buy him the book for Father's Day. If anyone needs a Father's Day gift idea I highly recommend it.
Also, when I manufactured gift candles, we'd send samples of them to magazines for gift ideas. I guess Father's Day issues are long gone (they will be doing Christmas issues soon) but it would have made a nice addition to any What To Get Dad "lists".
739. Beck said:
Heather- so cool to see you in an interview! You totally rock! Kathie is rather... dense? Anyone who is afraid of honest, open conversation doesn't understand the value of community. It's an incredible thing you're creating. I'm addicted to Dooce. Keep up the GREAT WORK.
740. Becca said:
When I started reading Dooce, I didn't think of it as a "mommyblog," oh and I wasn't a mommy yet, either. I just thought it was good, and soothing to read about the details of your being a little strange in ways that seems so regular to me. It helps me cope with being strange in my own way...
And now you're Big and Famous, which can be a challenge to feeling like I'm reading the thoughts of just another person, an equal. But where does this all lead? To the fact that (a) you deserve it (b) you handled with grace being interviewed by someone who seemed to think that the Internet is a set of tubes... while displaying slightly questionable behavior. Rock on. Write on.
741. Tracee Sioux said:
Kathy Lees kids are traumatized that their mother doesn't love them enough to blog about them.
742. Shauna said:
Just love you. I swear that I just spent the past 20 minutes trying to read excerpts of your blog to my sweet husband on the couch watching basketball. I mean...really...did I think he would hear me? Whatever.
Glad you are having fun with this! Thrilled to take part in the journey!
743. Daisy said:
I thought you did an awesome job! The interview sucked though. They didn't know what they were talking about and didn't even TRY to act like they knew. You should have been talking about what you do not what SHE was afraid of.
You looked awesome! I've been a reader since almost day one. You rock!
744. Susan said:
Bravo! You are fabulous and I always enjoy the edge you add to your blog.
Thanks for what you are doing...for moms everywhere!
745. Amy said:
When I was pregnant with my son and bedridden for 3 weeks, with no cable, I watched Regis and Kathy Lee. What stood out the most watching that show was how she CONSTANTLY talked about her darling son CODY and the BABY she was then pregnant with. Every single day of the three weeks I watched. Hypocrite? Hell yeah.
I hope you told her that dress made her look ridiculously lost in the '80's and her blond hair ages and makes her look terribly washed out. She would care to hear that I am sure, vain and silly woman that she is.
You did good Dooce. Damn good.
Cray-ON, cray-ON. Loved the clip of you and Jon, more please!
746. Jen - Mom of 4 said:
While I was a tad taken aback by how Kathie reacted to your interview, I agree that someone who is afraid of computers really shouldn't interview someone about it.
Just wanted to add that I just watched the Nightline interview - I thought you were wonderful, looked great and the clip of Leta on your lap towards the end was beautiful - You two are beautiful together.
747. Erin said:
You looked beautiful and you handled what they threw at you very well. I was sitting on the couch all "yeah you tell em dooce!" when they asked that leading question about resentment (and twisted your words). Way to go Heather! This can only bring more people to your site. Anyone who truly takes the time to read your words will understand that what you do is good. It brings so many of us together. I look forward to reading you each day.
748. Anonymous said:
I was hoping you would get the word crayon or cement in there. I was hoping for a heavy accent to really throw KLG off.
Thank god she doesn't live in NYC.
You were great!
749. Anonymous said:
getting a bit bored with the shameless self promotion...
750. Sandi said:
Thank you - just thank you
751. rhorho said:
You looked fab on the show and I wish you could have actually gotten a freakin word in! The fact that you were dancing with Leta and singing hold me closer tony danza makes me think you are cool enough to be cyber-friends with me, the mini blogger.
752. kim at allconsuming said:
Well you know what? I actually think it was a pretty good piece - less fluff and more discussion. Until the final 40 seconds when KL sort of sent it pear shaped - but it was in context of her thoughts on computers so you know, it was far more a reflection on her than a comment on you.
Anyway, who the hell cares. You got to go to NYC. You had Chelsea Clinton's personal driver. Someone did your hair and makeup. You had a new dress and new shoes. And you looked HOT. And were coherent. And confident.
Those ticks far outweigh one raised eyebrow and 'huh?'.
753. Anonymous said:
On the Nightline segment, what's the song playing in your kitchen? I have it stuck in my head.
754. NSB said:
You rocked-I saw the original segment. Hoda seems that she has a brain. KLG--in my humble opinion is NOT cut out for the Today Show---she is more Maury--or maybe the bailiff on
Judge Judy. (no I do not watch those shows).
You held your own with those women and for that reason
you should be very proud.
Kudos to you!
755. gina bina said:
Hi! It's me. Yeah, the one who flagged you down tonight at Costa Vida. Thanks for being gracious and stopping to say hi. My husband was making fun of me after you left because he said I was so awkward and nervous...and dare I say, blog-struck. I've been reading for about 7 years though...give or take, and I just had to say hi when I saw you. Funny, I knew we lived in the same area and I've always thought that if I ever ran into you somewhere I'd say all these really cool things. But it didn't really go down like that. Anyway, it was nice to meet you!
756. Dana J. Wyzard said:
The last time I watched Regis and Kathie was the day she was talking about nursing her son Cody and how long her nipple was when it came out of his mouth. And then she held up her fingers about two inches apart and mouthed the distance into the camera.
Gross. Disgusting. Lewd and totally full of herself.
I think she pulled a fast one on you when she asked about mentioning Leta on your blog. WHAT is she trying to pull! Does she think we all have community amnesia?? (Two question marks when it deserved three)
And saying that she knows NOTHING about blogs? Come on. At Cody's age, she knows plenty about blogs. He's probably posting photos of Kathie's balls right now.
757. kellan said:
I just want to smack the both of them!! I did an interview here this week at one of our local stations for a morning show about blogging/mommy bloggers and I was so lucky to have had a host (Leslie Bohl Jones) that was so positive about blogging and it was such a great experience. I'm sorry this interview was not more positive for us mommy bloggers, but you did a great job! I just want to smack the both of them!!!
Take care - Kellan
758. jennster said:
dude. the video with kathie lee was fucking annoying. ok? who interviews a computer blogger and then admits that she is scared of the computer?? i hated that they didn't give you enough time to really go into ANYTHING, least of all, blogging about our kids.
whatever, your hair looked fabulous so kathie lee can suck it.
759. tania said:
So this is so weird. The other night, I'm flipping through the stations before dozing off to la la land and I see this face...a familiar face on the TV...and I'm all "wait. I know her!" Then I realized it was YOU which totaly made me start laughing b/c really, I don't know you, know you...yes, well, you know what I mean. It was very very surreal. Your voice sounded exactly what I imagined which freaked me out even more. ^_~
p.s. do you have puppy pictures of Chuck? I cannot seem to find them and these, I must see.
760. Domestic Divapalooza said:
God I Love your BLOG!
Yes, they are afraid because they don't understand what blogging can do.
The word BLOG is weird and when you tell somebody that you make money BLOGGING they tune you out.
They don't want to learn about it because deep down they already know what's up and they don't want us taking their job.
Remember, it's the BLOGGERS that have the power to help set the record straight!
PS Your Captcha sucks bootie.. lol
Oh and I have been in trouble for BLOGGING about my family too.
I don't care.
761. Laurel said:
I'm sorry if this has already been beaten to death, but what the fuck is Kathie Lee wearing? I didn't realize she was still on TV. It scares me a little bit.
Heather, you kicked ass and you looked fabulous doing it.
762. Aime in Ohio said:
Yes! I thought that was nuts that she was reading from her notes and she had a fear of computers yet was the one interviewing you!? What was THAT!?
Nightline was nice though. I'd dance in the kitchen for nightline too. You are a HOOT!
763. Shannon said:
At the end of the segment I was like "Waaait a minute. Kathy Lee used to talk about Cody ALL THE TIME in front of MILLIONS of viewers showing all sorts of pictures of him and having him on her holiday specials."
What a hypocrit!!
And I just outed myself as admitting that I watched her holiday specials.....whoops.
764. Katie said:
Well, but when people tell you that they're uncomfortable with certain kid-related privacy aspects of what you do, you post angry things about them and open the comments so the teeming masses can be snide to them.
I don't really know what you're looking for here, aside from hundreds of "OMG YOU ARE SO RIGHT, BTW HERE IS A LINK TO MY OWN BLOG PLEASE CHECK IT OUT!!!!" comments. You've made a choice you're not interested in being criticized about, which is fair enough, but... you goes on the Today Show, you takes your lumps along with the free publicity.
I do think there's a disingenuous element to how you talk about this issue, and I kind of wish for your family's sake that you would work that out in private and not share it with the world. ALL parents, all moms, make choices when their kids are little that will end up hurting their kids. I don't think that makes anyone a bad parent. But what your blog and your huge audience enables you to do is to talk yourself into thinking about some choices you're making in a really supported way: you always have thousands of readers ready to applaud you. When frankly, I don't think your readership or Gifford is really whose opinion counts here, you know? It's yours and Leta's and Jon's. If the three of you have worked out that how you talk about your family in public is cool, that's just how it is and everyone else can STFU, absolutely. But then stop asking for support, stop asking for people to tell you that you are absolutely and completely in the right here, and that anyone who disagrees with you is WRONG WRONG WRONG.
I love your blog and am grateful you let us read about the grit of momhood, but it does make me uncomfortable to read these posts: I don't think Leta will be as cool with this as you're talking yourself into thinking she will be. And something about reading your self-convincing to the contrary seems more private and more awkward than reading about Leta's poop.
765. Claudia said:
I thought you handled a poorly done interview very well. How in the world does she keep her job? How can you be so clueless and ...well, maybe they (the higher ups?) will learn something themselves and hire informed journalists.
766. Jonathon Morgan said:
I'm obviously very late to the party here, but after watching that interview -- frustrating as it was to endure Kathy Lee Gifford's complete lack of understand about anything and everything -- I have to be honest: isn't that, at least in some way, how all interviews go? Unless the interviewer is knowledgeable, unbiased, and really talented, it's always about their agenda (at least to a certain extent) and less whoever they're speaking with.
Besides, this is daytime television we're talking about. I thought you did well.
767. Lisa said:
Amazing accomplishment. Congrats. And first thing first - great, fabulous dress. And, these other women live in New York - the fashion ironies.
I actually thought the piece was going to be WAY worse after I read your blog. I actually think it was great until she threw out the comment at the end and didn't give you a chance to respond. However, all in all, it's American morning television which there never seems to be much depth -- thank goodness for blogs!
768. Nicole said:
You handled yourself very well. I don't even think she knew why she was giving the interview - aside from her being a Mom and all.
769. Greta said:
All I know is that on NIGHTLINE when you mentioned your "reconvening the procedure" post, I had to go read it. Made my morning. Had my son in a bouncy seat next to the bathroom many a morning ;)
http://doesthisblogmakeuslookfat.com
770. Patti said:
I haven't read any of the comments, but I'm sure I'm repeating them all.
Kathie Lee-what's-her-face completely missed the ENTIRE point of this whole thing??? She was doing all of this to Cody, the only difference was she had a video blog, with a bunch of people who could care less and were merely waiting for the actual celebs to come on to be interviewed.
You are wildly talented, and I think she's just jealous because you know how to work the "power" button on your desk top, never mind your laptop.
771. James said:
Katie, your post is full of conjecture. It is a waste of time to argue with people like you. Heather's choice about her public life is Heather's choice. That's all you need to say. There was no need to add your opinion/conjecture to the argument. It is not yours to make.
Now for the self-serving "read my blog" part of this post.
Check out my wife's site at http://kirtsy.com
Rock on.
772. Anonymous said:
What in the hell is Kathy Lee wearing? Ack!
773. pogonip said:
I enjoy randomly channel-surfing and finding YOU being articulate in person. Next time you might offer to rearrange their fairly pathetic grouping of photos on the wall. A few could benefit from being hung sideways. Which would be much better than being hanged, sideways or otherwise!
774. Wild Dingo said:
Um, what the hell happened to Kathy Lee's looks? I don't watch TV much, so I haven't seen her in a few years. Damn. She needs to fire her plastic surgeon.
It was obvious the interviewee outshined the interviewer. Precisely why I don't watch much TV (even the news) anymore. I have zero tolerance for morons.
off subject: why does someone as talented as you live where you live? is it just for the fodder you can use for your blog? :)
775. Katie said:
I actually emailed you about this - and yes, it pissed me off no end how ridiculous Kathy Lee was. And the thing that bothered me was that they turned the interview into a case study on the dangers of blogging, as opposed to the beauty that is "mommy blogging". People such as yourself have started a whole new forum in which to reach out to other women, and men for that matter, and that was completely overlooked by someone who probably doesn't even know where the Shift key is on her computer. I do think it was an error made by the producers, but it didn't help that Kathy Lee is rather blithering and unintelligent, IMO. I believe if it was just Hoda Kotb, it may not have taken that weird twist. Kathy Lee just is so loud and seems to have a chronic case of verbal diarrhea that she made it all the worse. Regardless, you did WONDERFULLY and had much grace. I think anyone watching it, even people who are not familiar with blogging or Dooce, realized what an intelligent and sweet person you are.
776. Chap said:
Eight hunnert comments. Wow. I think my comment is definitely going into the "everyone will remember" pile.
So I should say, like, "POOP" or something.
Anyway. You mentioned sommat about interviewers who don't know jack about who they are interviewing. Yup, happens to the military folks, too. I've seen some rather not-clueful interviewers and some *n*e*r*v*o*u*s* military folks--mess up and your career's toast, do right and nobody cares, that kind nervous.
Good on ya for surviving and hope your hubby survived that onslaught of estrogen in that piece.
Oh, and POOP.
(Note to self: it may *sound* funny when you say that to the three year old, but the four hundredth time it comes back at you it may not...)
777. Lysa said:
Heather - You were delightful as you always are... Leta was adorable ... Jon was hot AND cute (in the Nightline article.) KLG was pitiful and your graciousness made her look good. I totally wanted to fall on the former Senator Chucklesworth and smooch him to death. Congrats on all your well deserved success. Hugs, Lysa
778. Sandy Naidu said:
Great post...But the Kathy Lee was a shocker...She had no idea about the topic..What a shame !!!
779. The Lisa Show said:
You are being way more gracious than a lot of people (including myself) would be if placed in your shoes. Kathie Lee = Poop. Yes, poop.
780. Amy said:
I have been dying to blog about this interview for a whole week but I wanted to see that I was not misinterpreting the whole thing! If you get a chance: everythingness.blogspot.com
781. Mary Ellen said:
Heather, I think you are wonderful, and you really held your own - it is a shame the hosts were neither well-informed nor sympathetic to a more modern perspective on parenthood and community. (I also found the seating arrangement somewhat antagonistic - them vs. you.)
You looked and sounded wonderful, intelligent and representative of what is best about what you do. I am a married non-parent, and part of your community - you bring much more than mothers together. I read closely about what parenthood is all about as I have missed out on it; I love your exploits and your travel tales; I enjoy watching your business grow; I admire your relationship with your husband; I think you have excellent taste in music and other things and refer to your website for loads of links I might not find otherwise; and I remain among the faithful. Keep up the good work!!
782. Elizabeth said:
um . . . what the hell was that, heather! kathy's ignorance is super concerning. it's no wonder many people would choose a tooth extraction over watching her.
just curious, was her pancake clumping between the lines on her face?? and did that make you laugh inside?
783. Maria said:
@#764 Katie, I'm not particularly convinced that you even read Heather's original post. Nowhere did I get that she was "post[ing] angry things" about a person who told her that she was uncomfortable with the kid-related privacy aspect of what she does. In fact, in Heather's post she says, "And I'm not about to jump into the crowd and start calling Kathie Lee names, she does not deserve that from me. I'm not so much angry at her as I am disappointed that this topic was not given the service it deserves." (See? NOT angry).
Also, I don't at all get your assertion that Heather is "ask[ing]for support...asking for people to tell you that you are absolutely and completely in the right here, and that anyone who disagrees with you is WRONG WRONG WRONG." I don't remember her ever saying that someone who disagrees is wrong - much less capitalized times three.
Meh, Heather, I'm definitely a fan, though obviously not as impassioned as many of your readers. It's a lovely diversion during my workday and I enjoy your writing style and your photographs. Good luck with your continued success.
784. Mary R said:
Gawd, are these comments harsh. It's sad it has to get so personal when women disagree. We can't just be different?
I have been reading DOOCE for years now and enjoy it very much but, I'll be honest, it's a guilty pleasure in that I wouldn't feel comfortable sharing so much personal information about my child. She's too young to give consent. She may like seeing her photos on the computer but does she really understand the scope of the publication? If a blogger had a Down syndrome child, age 20, and shared detailed information about growth and development and personality issues, would it still be okay because, I mean, the child is functionally only 3 or 4 and probably enjoys being photographed too.
So, I'll continue to read and enjoy and understand that we all have different boundaries. And that's okay.
785. beth said:
I'm new to your blog and am only here because of seeing it on the today show. Just caught a glimpse of the clip while getting ready to go somewhere. I didn't pay attention to what Kathy Lee said. After looking at the clip in the blog here is my take on it. Kathie Lee has not yet become the smooth interviewer that the other Today show hosts have become. She is use to a different interviewing style from her days with Regis. Her fear was sincere from her own experiences with revealing information on family to the masses. Unfortunately it was at the end of the segment and had there been a little more time left the whole segment would have ended on a good note.
786. lesli said:
It didn't seem horrible to me, just awkward, and Kathie Lee did what it seems to me like she always does, which is make it all about herself. It's too bad it was such a short segment and you didn't get to say very much, but you came across well and Kathie Lee came across... as she usually does.
787. Bahiyyih said:
Yeah, I totally felt like Kathie Lee looked ridiculous with what she said. You were the voice of reason. Good job. :-_
788. Kimberly said:
Heather,
You did a great job on the Today Show and I was very impressed with Dateline's segment. I don't know if you watch the Today Show, especially after KLG's comments, but she really made a fool of herself yesterday. It was totally unrelated but I like to think it was karma biting her in the ass after her comments to you.
KLG and Hoda (not sure how her name is spelled) were talking about American Idol and previous contestants and those who auditioned. KLG said, "Do you know who I really liked and now miss? That Hung boy." OMG. You could hear a pin drop in the background and then the snickers that followed. Hoda asked, "You mean William Hung?" and then "You do realize what you just said, right?" It was amazing how quickly KLG shut up! I thought you'd get a major kick out of that!
Keep up the great work!
789. Anonymous said:
Interview - not good.
Kathy Lee - clearly off her rocker
Heather Armstrong - rocked like the blogging goddess she is!
Sorry you and the subject matter weren't taken seriously. But I am glad you were on and it was a paid trip to NYC. I still like listening to you talk (did that sound serial killerish?).
790. Anonymous said:
I have to say-- some of your commentators (there's no such word as "commentors"-- I never knew) seem as clueless as Kathie Lee. There ARE blogs out there of the daily lives of 20 yr old children with downs syndrome-- and thank God they're there for that community of families to come together and share support and resources.
As for Leta-- this is the only life she's ever known.
I think it's highly likely that Heather and Jon may one day run out of steam and get tired of answering to their audience of millions and just shut it all down-- I'm talking years from now. Anyone remember "Jennicam?" Wikipedia says that over 100 media outlets ran features about her-- where is she now?
Anyway-- I think it's likely that if that happens Leta may say something like "When I was little I remember us doing a lot of cool stuff and you being around all the time and paying a whole lot of attention to me-- why isn't it like that anymore? I miss it."
I think it's far more likely that she'll say something like that than that she'll resent all the amazing sweet memories her mother has crafted and saved for her. Even embarrassing anecdotes and posts when Heather is at her wits ends are framed in love and wonder. I honestly can't imagine a greater gift.
791. sarah said:
You are a class act, babe.
792. Anonymous said:
you rock!
793. Dylan said:
Seriously, why have a fearful luddite interview a blogger?
794. Deb said:
Oh my god. That title! I was watching this show last night, Al Roker was going around to famous diners in the US, and all I could think about was him with his meat patties...
795. tina said:
i have to say it's astonishing how much success you made of yourself. i watched the nightline special and was quite stunned at how much you guys make monthly. i'm extremely envious but more so am envious of your talented and outspokeness nature. you're extremely an interesting human being and being a mother myself i think it's awesome what you are doing. congrats to all of your success and future endeavors. Rock on Heather and i love love your accent of yours!
796. Janie said:
Katie - #764,
I totally agree with #783 Maria. Though if I'm understanding you, Katie, you may not be saying that about this specific post, but rather are referencing past posts and how you find that to be Heather's habit....complaining about it and then opening comments. Honestly, I don't see that at all...I went back a bit and checked and I think you are misinterpreting.
The only time that's really happening is when Heather is posting her "critics' mail". Well, it's what a lot of the hate mail says, isn't it? And that's one of the times that Dooce.com is open to comments. I see it as mere coincidence. Plus, Heather doesn't ASK us to stick up for her, I guess it's just how a lot of us feel about the parenting issue and sometimes some get a bit heated.
Personally, I think that if the interviewer...Kathie Lee or anyone else...had done research, known about blogs, about Dooce.com, or blogs and families, whatever, then Heather or anyone else couldn't have or WOULDN'T have had any problem with being disagreed with or debating the issue, or anything. The segment turned out not being much of an interview where anyone could learn anything about 'mommy blogs' or any blogs. A shame.
797. Jessica said:
I'm sorry you didn't get the interview you deserve, but at least this blog is an outlet to express yourself over which you have complete control. Hopefully, people will see the segment and come here to find out more. That said, you did a great job despite the circumstances. And the hair and make-up looked fabulous!
Kathy Lee wishes she were you. ;)
PS: I loved Jon's photos!
798. Carrie said:
I've never watched the Today Show on a regular basis and don’t have any history on which to judge Kathy Lee’s interviewing abilities or the type of content that appears on the show. I think some people try and make others feel comfortable and more knowledgeable by pointing out their own lack of expertise and in a sense poking fun of themselves. That may be what Kathy Lee was intending to do in this situation.
-Carrie
799. Alana said:
I agree with what #706 (Sarah) said- to me, it was neither here nor there. It could have been much more interesting, yes, but I think there's a whole lot of overreaction going on in these comments.
I found this rather funny:
"I wish Heather nothing but the best and look forward to having her join us on Today again soon."
http://allday.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2008/05/12/1017486.aspx
800. Beth said:
Whenever I see Kathie Lee on TV, I really believe she might break into song at any moment. I wonder if she comes off that way in person.
801. Lisa Mertins said:
i never watch the morning shows and even though i'm a loyal dooce reader, i won't watch the segment on principle.
what's fascinating about blogging regardless of "theme" is how we're creating relationships and communities now. and heather, you put it so well not long ago when you talked about the legacy for our children. or other journalists for that matter.
i bet it's cool to be on tv and the exposure you got is important. but you sure don't need it in my opinion.
how cool would it have been if you would have said "no thanks, not interested."
cheers heather!
802. Beth said:
You did great and looked great! Kathie Lee looked like she was ready to board the cruise ship lollipop and needed to make sure that there were geriatric supplies and pureed food available for Frank.
*my captcha words are Mr & premarital
803. Lydia said:
You looked great! KLG was disappointing as an interviewer, and they should have mentioned how you first became famous for getting fired for dooce. I agree, I wouldn't classify you as just a mommy blogger but it's also not offensive to be called that.
804. Knaphrodesiac said:
I blog about my kids, and nothing have ever caused me to fear that anything other than extreme embarrassment would result. Should I ever become even one tenth as successful as you at it, they can thank me for the college education, wedding or years of therapy it will end up paying for.
805. Robyn said:
OK, who is the fat guy(?) in the striped clown pants and ruffle shirt standing in front of Kathie Lee? I've gotta know these things.
806. Sidi said:
Hi, I am feeling sooo proud for reading this blog whenever I can. Please note that I am always enjoying your stories and I do admire you a lot. I get your sense of humour and I know we're very much alike. Love the daily style.
Congrats!
Sidi
807. Kelly said:
Kathie Lee Gifford is and IDIOT. Heather Armstrong ROCKS!
Kelly
(happy crazy mother of 3 little ones)
808. Amanda said:
I am SO GLAD you wrote about this. I couldn't believe what Katie Lee said to you on air, and I'm even more stunned after hearing what she said to you before you went on the air! You handled it really well, on the air and in your post here. I love you more than ever!
809. Ashley S. said:
The nightline thing was awesome!
810. Nala said:
As soon as Kathy-Lee said she's afraid of the computer, viewers would pretty much write off her opinions. You came off as the restrained, smarter guest.
But really, Heather, what were you thinking with that grey dress? I *think* you have a nice figure (from limited glimpses like straw hat post, etc.) You should show it off.
811. spoiledonlychild said:
Maybe others have already said this, but anyone who has watched the Today Show or any of these other morning "news" shows wouldn't expect them to do a thoughtful or well-researched piece on anything. Is it really worth spending a bunch of time ranting and raving about the poor journalism on these shows? Didn't we kind of figure that out a few decades ago?
If you were holding out for a thoughtful in-depth interview, you should have declined the Today Show. But the fact is, it doesn't matter what the interview was like, all the bloggers involved got some great advertising for their sites, and so it worked out for everyone. As for the whole controversy over mommy-blogging, we all must have something better to do with our time. People blog about their children. Lots of people read it. Get over it.
812. Audrey said:
I think you looked great during your interview and handled being cut off well. I don't think I was expecting a lot from the segment so I wasn't entirely disappointed except it was way too short. Oh well at least you got some great exposure from it.
813. Janie said:
Ha ha! Kathy Lee is so completely ignorant! Too funny! But seriously, what did you expect?? It's NBC!!! That network is just utterly laughable in it's content (just my Canadian opinion!).
You rock! Find a more reputable network next time though.
814. KellyT said:
I'm sorry the interview was such a disappointment, Heather. As others have already said, you pulled it off quite well and I'm sure the segment will drive lots of new traffic to your blog regardless.
I do have to laugh at KLG's concern about Leta's safety, though. She is, after all, a celebrity. Why is her life so much different (or safer) than yours? It boggles the mind, really.
And why are you on such a lame station like NBC anyway? You should totally be on FOX. :D
815. Anonymous said:
It seems to me that if that network were smart they'd consider hiring someone like Dooce who actually knows what's going on in the world, instead of KLG who seems happy to remain ignorant of how the world is changing.